Sarah’s Type 6 mind moves fast—so fast it can create instant connection and obscure deeper intimacy. In this episode, she unpacks the whirlwind: the pull between independence and support, the trap of victimhood, and how unchecked reactivity nearly derailed a past relationship. With raw honesty, she explores self-sabotage, emotional spirals, and the slow work of learning self-trust. This is a conversation about growing beyond fear into real, grounded connection.

LINKS

Sarah's Music https://open.spotify.com/artist/6VAheMN9FSGheExTVAlBXD?si=rbz8XlbPQqaQx3mEr9De0A

The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

03:08 - Reviewing the “bullet points”

07:39 - Therapy, working on self-needs rather than attachment structure reflecting needs of others

10:07 - What’s hard about ‘touching ground’

25:11 - Victim mentality, self-sabotage, and type 6 ‘underdog’

32:43 - Reactive attachment

39:41 - Seeking a dimension of parental qualities in partners

47:20 - 6 dividing from one extreme pole to the other, finding balance in the center

52:28 - 6s entitlement of collective ‘markers’

1:02:42 - The horror of “it’s all 6, it always has been”

1:17:50 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay
Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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