Kim (SO/SP 8w7 863) joins us for an intimate and unguarded exploration of the inner world of Eight — where sovereignty is survival, connection is a gamble, and straight talk is an act of love. From the first moments, Kim’s presence is unmistakable: a force of nature, all-in from the outset, inviting others to meet her at full throttle. We explore the emotional paradox at the heart of the Social Eight — the innocent hope that others will meet her with the same raw honesty she offers, the crushing self-blame that follows when that trust proves misplaced, and the instinct to amputate not just relationships but parts of her own soul in self-protection. We delve into the Eight’s preemptive numbing, the hardened stance of being the gatekeeper of her world, and the quiet grief of being valued only for what she gives — not for who she is. Kim’s story is a vivid portrait of Eight’s vulnerability beneath the armor, and of the slow, courageous return to wholeness.

LINKS

Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@UCPiABQQQE4Ret7cwmy-GmRA

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

2:08 - BOOM; here it is, 8w7 energy

6:41 - “I’m not a law of nature, I’m a force of it"

14:31 - Rejection core; cutting parts off, self-hatred

20:16 - Living as a social hexad type in a world of attachment types

26:41 - 8 and naiveté

34:35 - Social controlling, “I’m the queen of the chess board”

45:40 - Black and white mindset, 8s relationship to anger

54:07 - “You care about what I am, not who I am”, rejection and usefulness

1:02:08 - Anger vs. indifference and their role in care

1:06:52 - Understanding delusional or realistic boundaries

1:13:16 - Apologetic 8, integrity

1:22:00 - Forgiveness and innocence

1:26:11 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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Alice (SO/SP 9w1 973) joins us for a profound and poetic exploration of the inner world of Nine — where the background environment can overshadow the self, and the longing isn’t for pleasure, but for the peace of never having been born. We dive into the quiet ache for pre-conscious coziness, the hesitance to disturb reality with one’s presence, and the existential ambivalence at the heart of Nine structure: Do I really want to exist? Alice reflects on the invisible toll of absorbing the world’s energies, the disorienting effects of nightlife work, and the shattering aftermath of real connection gone silent. Her story is a journey of individuation and the slow integration of disparate parts of herself — from coming out as trans, to seeing herself mirrored in others’ self-suppression, and ultimately, to saying yes to life.

LINKS

Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

02:24 - Alice’s current life context

08:17 - Being an extremely sensitive person, social 9 absorbing the environment

17:25 - “Swirling in your own cauldron” of the 9-7 stem

28:17 - “Ruining” the tapestry, 9w1 ethics

35:03 - 9s return to the womb; the desire to be unborn

44:03 - Saying ‘yes’ to experience

46:36 - Childhood

53:27 - Living as a trans woman

1:05:28 - Submitting my whole self to gaze - social instinct, type 3, type 9

1:11:11 - Seeing myself in another’s self-suppression

1:33:53 - Opting out of autopilot and serving a new vision for life

1:49:31 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay
Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
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Sarah’s Type 6 mind moves fast—so fast it can create instant connection and obscure deeper intimacy. In this episode, she unpacks the whirlwind: the pull between independence and support, the trap of victimhood, and how unchecked reactivity nearly derailed a past relationship. With raw honesty, she explores self-sabotage, emotional spirals, and the slow work of learning self-trust. This is a conversation about growing beyond fear into real, grounded connection.

LINKS

Sarah's Music https://open.spotify.com/artist/6VAheMN9FSGheExTVAlBXD?si=rbz8XlbPQqaQx3mEr9De0A

The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

03:08 - Reviewing the “bullet points”

07:39 - Therapy, working on self-needs rather than attachment structure reflecting needs of others

10:07 - What’s hard about ‘touching ground’

25:11 - Victim mentality, self-sabotage, and type 6 ‘underdog’

32:43 - Reactive attachment

39:41 - Seeking a dimension of parental qualities in partners

47:20 - 6 dividing from one extreme pole to the other, finding balance in the center

52:28 - 6s entitlement of collective ‘markers’

1:02:42 - The horror of “it’s all 6, it always has been”

1:17:50 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay
Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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