Quit Telling Your Kids “You’re Safe.” Teach Them How to Face Violence—Without Losing Their Humanity.

When your child sees a real shooting video or hears about school violence, the instinct is to soothe, distract, or promise safety. Matt & Alona push back. They show you how to sit in the fear together, regulate first, name what happened honestly, offer real empathy, and only then reassure—without false promises. They also tackle the deeper trap: how “us vs. them” language and dehumanization at home quietly trains kids to accept violence as normal. You’ll learn the simple cadence that calms bodies and brains (regulation → empathy → reassurance), and how to transform scary images and nightmares with co-created stories so your child regains a felt sense of safety.

What might challenge you (and why you’ll want to listen):

• Your comfort narratives aren’t helping: “You’re safe” can backfire when kids just watched something terrifying—honest naming + co-regulation works better.
• The enemy-making habit: labeling people “evil/jerks” teaches kids to dehumanize—and violence grows in that soil. Model feelings-and-needs language instead.
• Rewriting the nightmare: Don’t suppress scary memories; add safety into the story so the body learns calm again.

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

• Nudge: My child saw a violent clip online and keeps asking if it could happen to them. Help me co-regulate in the moment, name what happened without sugarcoating, and then guide me through empathy → reassurance so they feel safer in their body.

• Nudge: I catch myself venting with ‘us vs. them’ language in front of my kids. Coach me to translate that into feelings and needs, so I model dignity and reduce the pull toward hate.

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Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

🌍 From dishwasher with no English to executive chef in 3 months, Marcos cooked for presidents, celebrities, and sports legends. He starred on TV, lost his restaurant to betrayal, then clawed it back stronger.

💪 A 30-day plant-based reset gave him energy, weight loss, and freedom from pain… until the grind pulled him back into 16-hour days, junk food, and dangerous health scares.

⚡ This episode is a wake-up call for anyone telling themselves, “I’ll take care of me later.”

Stories that might sting (in a good way):

• 🚨 Marcos shares how ignoring warning signs nearly killed him—and why no career win is worth the hospital bed.

• 🌀 The trap of “later” — the lie that peace and health come only after the chaos is done.

• 🌱 How to ride the wave of transformation without crashing back into old habits when life gets messy.

To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

When is a joke a bridge—and when is it a shield?

In this episode, Matt & Alona get real about humor as a parenting and partnership superpower… and a sneaky escape hatch from vulnerability. You’ll hear how laughter can regulate a tense nervous system, turn bickering into bonding (hello, surprise British accent), and even help kids feel safer after a misstep. You’ll also hear when jokes land like criticism, mask discomfort, or block repair—and how to course-correct without killing the vibe.

From the episode:
• 🍲 The “casserole” confession: how using light, caring humor invites honesty without shame—and why intention matters more than perfect NVC phrasing.
• 🛡️ The double edge: humor that soothes vs. humor that hides—how laughing can protect us from pain, yet also delay the vulnerability real connection needs.
• 🧠 Science meets sofa: genuine laughter cues safety (parasympathetic “rest & digest”), making repair possible—even after a miss.

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

Nudge: I notice I joke or deflect when things get tense at home. Help me unpack what I’m protecting and practice one caring, humorous line that invites connection instead of avoiding it.

Nudge: When my kid laughs after I correct them, I assume they’re being disrespectful. Coach me to respond as if they’re releasing tension—and give me a repair script that keeps us close.

What is Amari? webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your pesonal Life. Don't have a Kinectin Account? Create one here

To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.