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  • ep 5: why do you keep betraying yourself?

    ep 5: why do you keep betraying yourself?
    2025/12/11

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    in this convo, i take you through the gnarly concept of self-betrayal, particularly for those who often take on the role of the strong one in their work and relationships. self-betrayal is not merely a lack of discipline but is deeply rooted in trauma responses such as people-pleasing. i take you deep into my personal experiences with addiction and the facade of being put together while struggling internally and i also share some practical tools for you to stop abandoning yourself and to cultivate unshakable self-trust and reliability.


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 welcome welcome!

    00:38 why do you keep betraying yourself?

    05:20 where i learned to betray myself

    09:07 the four demons of self-betrayal

    16:00 shoutout to ben and jerry’s ice cream

    20:06 the self-betrayal liberation framework

    24:19 ethical selfishness™

    27:55 there’s a reason you’re here

    28:44 from awareness to embodiment


    some takeaways

    this episode is for those tired of being the strong one.

    self-betrayal stems from deeper issues, not just discipline.

    people-pleasing is a trauma response, not a personality trait.

    simple tools exist to help stop self-abandonment.

    building self-trust is essential for emotional health.

    understanding trauma is important for personal growth.

    healing requires acknowledging one's own needs.

    reliability on oneself is key to overcoming challenges.


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    david 💙
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    31 分
  • ep 4: the cost of chasing skinny, successful & perfect

    ep 4: the cost of chasing skinny, successful & perfect
    2025/12/04
    Elisha Tamasi, known as The Polynesian Life Coach, is a confidence and self love coach helping women fall in love with the woman they see in the mirror and know they are worthy exactly as they are.After being fired from her dream job as an international flight attendant, Elisha hit rock bottom battling body shame, toxic relationships, and numbing out with alcohol, drugs, and food. Through deep inner healing, she rebuilt her relationship with herself, found unshakable confidence, and turned her pain into purpose.Today, she’s the founder of Destination Self Love, an online program guiding women home to themselves. Elisha runs the program through scholarships and brand sponsorships, making self love and confidence coaching accessible to women who may have never believed this kind of transformation was possible for them.connect with Elisha: THEPOLYNESIANLIFECOACH.COM📺watch and subscribe on youtubein this conversation, Leesh and i explore the themes of self-betrayal and self-abandonment, delving into personal journeys of self-discovery and the tools that can cultivate unshakable self-love!! we discuss the impact of self-sabotage, the pervasive feeling of 'not enough’ and the importance of self-reflection and awareness. Leesh shares her experiences with coaching and the significance of having someone believe in you before you can believe in yourself. we go through the importance of healing the inner child and creating a safe space for emotions, while also providing practical steps for self-validation and personal growth.what we explored this episode00:00 introducing Leesh01:40 the opposite of self-love04:40 hitting rock bottom06:25 so you’re saying my thoughts create my reality?12:00 help me believe that i am enough as i am!!13:54 props to Byron Katie’s The WORK15:40 how to break free from diet culture & self-hatred18:30 but i don’t know how to stop this negative pattern23:06 breaking the generational curse (blessing)27:50 reparenting 6-year-old Leesh29:20 how i can give myself what i seek in others33:20 how having a coach transformed Leesh’s life38:11 why some people wait for rock bottom to change44:26 watching Leesh at work50:27 you’re an actor in a movie.. what’s your script?50:58 powerful vs forceful emotions52:02 do affirmations even work?52:45 healing the root cause of body image issues57:48 everything is just an expression of love59:45 a message to all women struggling with not-enoughness1:03:00 the strongest force in the mind1:03:22 the “when i, then i” fallacy1:05:55 what success means to Leesh1:08:10 what success means to Dave1:10:22 what being “liberated” means to Leeshsome takeawaysthe journey of self-discovery often involves confronting past traumas.self-sabotage can stem from not listening to one's intuition.the feeling of 'not enough' is a very common struggle.breaking the cycle of self-doubt requires conscious effort and reflection.coaches play a vital role in helping individuals believe in themselves.awareness of one's thoughts and feelings is the first step towards change.healing the inner child is a powerful method for self-acceptance.investing in yourself can prevent hitting rock bottom.comfort can hinder growth and change.visualisation can help in achieving goals.root causes of negative beliefs must be addressed.self-worth is not determined by external factors.everyone is worthy as they are right now.success is subjective and defined by personal values.connect with me👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    1 時間 13 分
  • ep 3: why are you always chasing more?

    ep 3: why are you always chasing more?
    2025/11/27

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    in today’s conversation, i take you through the paradox of productivity and the feeling of inadequacy that often accompanies it. we go deep into how many people may achieve their goals yet still feel stressed and anxious, leading to a cycle of survival rather than fulfillment. success without peace isn’t success at all! the name of the game is dreaming big while recognising the importance of inner peace and unlocking ways to slow down in a chaotic, fast-paced world.


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 welcome welcome!

    00:38 not my best gag

    00:54 understanding the chase

    04:00 how “chasing-after mode” is created

    10:12 the four traps of chasing

    24:07 there’s no “there” there

    25:00 five signs you’re stuck on the treadmill

    26:56 breaking free from the chase (5 steps)

    30:11 bangers and mash!

    31:53 keep dreaming big and finding peace


    some takeaways

    even when achieving goals, one can feel inadequate.

    ambition can sometimes lead to stress and anxiety.

    the need for inner peace is often ignored.

    slowing down can feel unsafe and counterproductive for some.

    the cycle of chasing productivity can be exhausting.

    recognising the feeling of survival is crucial.

    true peace is often perceived as a waste of time.

    building a life on forward motion can be detrimental.

    mental health is as important as productivity.


    connect with me

    👉free resources

    practical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy!


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    if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.


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    lots of love,

    david 💙
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    35 分
  • ep 2: how to win the war for your attention

    ep 2: how to win the war for your attention
    2025/11/20
    Constantine Georgiou is the author of Ineffable Refuge and founder of Ineffable, where he guides individuals and teams toward unshakeable inner peace through an integration of Tibetan Buddhist practices and modern neuroscience. After a high-pressure corporate career ended in complete nervous system collapse, Constantine embarked on intensive training under pioneering teachers including Dr. Daniel P. Brown, Dustin DiPerna and Stephen Altair, receiving transmission in the Dzogchen and Mahāmudrā traditions. He uniquely combines ancient teachings on Waking up into Rigpa (awakened awareness) with cutting-edge approaches for Cleaning up, including Internal Family Systems, somatic trauma healing, EFT tapping, and heart coherence practices. As a former tech entrepreneur and startup coach who witnessed brilliant entrepreneurs crumble despite technical mastery, Constantine developed comprehensive protocols that address not just peak performance but foundational nervous system regulation and psychological integration - bridging the gap between spiritual awakening and embodied living. He believes the current socio-technological and political crisis requires inner technologies to find Ineffable Refuge because no one is coming to save us. His work offers no spiritual bypassing or quick fixes, only scientifically-grounded practices that transform profound insights into sustainable, compassionate presence in daily life.Connect with Constantineineffable.auineffablerefuge.com📺watch and subscribe on youtubein this conversation with Constantine, we talk about a truth most high performers avoid facing. no one is coming to save you. not a mentor, not a job, not a relationship, not a title.Constantine opens up about the weight of self-reliance, what it takes to build an inner refuge & practice that doesn’t collapse under pressure and why chasing the life you think you should want will never feel as fulfilling as building the one that’s true for you.if you’ve been feeling torn between who you are and who the world expects you to be, this one will hit home. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 introduction to Constantine01:48 a crazily provocative challenge Constantine has thrown at David04:43 what is “inner refuge” and why is it important in a noisy world09:21 why are so many people trapped giving their power away to others12:33 the distraction epidemic we live in17:58 why you’re always on edge (and how to come home)24:36 have you ever learned how to concentrate?26:51 how an inner refuge practice positively impacts the world29:37 the war for your attention30:25 Constantine’s social media experiment33:21 when “success” still isn’t enough38:47 what on earth is “awakening”?42:43 fettuccine carbonara practice44:58 three types of awakening47:57 will the 3I/ATLAS aliens save us?50:08 isn’t this all just escapism and bypassing?53:35 the demons came out of the woodwork54:37 the missing piece in ending self-sabotage for good59:26 who are your ideal parents?1:02:01 the power of dance, yoga and EFT1:08:27 does going with the flow actually work?1:11:31 how does inner refuge impact leadership, relationships & creativity?1:12:56 the beauty of impermanence1:20:04 more on Constantine’s book: Ineffable Refuge1:22:45 what does “liberated” mean to Constantine?connect with me👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    1 時間 24 分
  • ep 1: why don't you ever feel good enough?

    ep 1: why don't you ever feel good enough?
    2025/11/20

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    in our first conversation together, i take you on a journey through the pervasive feeling of not being good enough, tracing its roots to childhood conditioning and societal expectations. i emphasise the importance of recognising your inherent worth(!), distinguishing it from self-esteem, which is often tied to external validation. through personal anecdotes and insights, i share my journey of overcoming limiting beliefs and the inner critic, offering practical steps for you to cultivate self-acceptance and liberation from the cycle of comparison and self-doubt.


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 welcome welcome!

    00:38 why we’re here

    01:50 what is “not-good-enoughness”?

    04:15 how not-good-enoughness crushed (liberated) me

    16:05 why you’re inherently worthy

    18:07 the emptiness of chasing and what true fulfilment looks like

    21:00 the hedonic treadmill

    23:56 disarming the inner critic

    27:35 signs that you don’t feel good enough

    31:30 breaking the cycle of not enoughness


    some takeaways

    feeling not good enough is a common experience.

    this feeling often stems from childhood conditioning.

    society rewards productivity over inherent worth.

    self-worth is inherent; self-esteem is performance-based.

    high achievers often struggle with feelings of inadequacy.

    transforming limiting beliefs requires awareness and compassion.

    the inner critic is a protective mechanism, not an enemy.

    success without self-worth leads to emptiness.

    it's essential to redefine worth beyond achievements.

    practical steps can help break the cycle of not enoughness.


    connect with me

    👉free resources

    practical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy!


    👉need more support?

    if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.


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    lots of love,

    david 💙
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    36 分