On the final episode of the pod (as well as WD&69’s five year anniversary), Rachel reflects on the last five years and everything she has learned from running the podcast. She is then joined by her *drumroll, please* prometido (fiancé), Javier. Javi also happens to be the pod’s biggest fan. The two of them discuss work/life balance, immigration, living in Spain, their engagement, personal growth, and what lies ahead. A very heartfelt thank you to everyone who has supported WD&69 over the last five years. Thanks for talking. ♥

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Javi begins at 00:12:30.

Mentioned in the episode:

The Unafraid: http://www.theunafraidfilm.com/about.html

Alain de Botton “On Being” episode, “The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships”: https://onbeing.org/programs/alain-de-botton-the-true-hard-work-of-love-and-relationships/

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/emdr

r/confidentlyincorrect: https://www.reddit.com/r/confidentlyincorrect/

The Dunning-Kruger Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dunning-kruger-effect

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Promo/engagement photo by Jesús Calzas Millán.

Rachel welcomes her close friend Laura – a fellow Michigander, editor, and Buffy enthusiast – to WD&69. Laura recounts some of her dating horror stories, shares red and green flags, and offers insights into the unique challenges of dating as an Asian woman. They also touch on the historical silencing of Asian women in society and discuss the distinction between “alone” and “lonely”. Finally, they explore finding hope in the dating world when the bar is, in fact, in hell.

Don’t forget to “look for the evil”. Also, #JusticeForCordelia!

EPISODE NOTES:

Discussed in the episode:

• Article: “Chinatown groups celebrate cancellation of 76ers arena deal,” (January 13, 2025), by TaRhonda Thomas: https://6abc.com/post/chinatown-groups-celebrate-cancellation-76ers-arena-deal/15796889/

• TV Series: Severance on Apple TV: https://tv.apple.com/us/show/severance/umc.cmc.1srk2goyh2q2zdxcx605w8vtx

• Article: “Should Women Stay Single?” (December 12, 2019), by Joseph Chamie: https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single

• Article: “ASMR – Benefits and Emerging Research,” (September 30, 2024), by Ashley Marcin: https://www.healthline.com/health/autonomous-sensory-meridian-response

• Podcast: The Bitch Is Back With Christma Carpenter: https://open.spotify.com/show/2oq77imGQuD1t7gBe4BPN0

• Movie: Gone Girl: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998/

• Movie: Materialists: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30253473/

• Book: The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1694033202&sr=8-1

• Music: Haven’t Met You Yet, by Michael Bublé: https://open.spotify.com/track/4fIWvT19w9PR0VVBuPYpWA

  
  

Some Articles on the Silence and Myth of the Asian Woman:

• Cold Tea Collective – The Dehumanization of Asian Women: https://coldteacollective.com/the-dehumanization-of-asian-women-why-we-can-no-longer-be-silent/

• The Myth of the Asian Woman – California Alumni Association: https://alumni.berkeley.edu/california-magazine/online/myth-asian-woman/

• Teaching about the Comfort Women during World War II and the Use of Personal Stories of the Victims – Association for Asian Studies: https://www.asianstudies.org/publications/eaa/archives/teaching-about-the-comfort-women-during-world-war-ii-and-the-use-of-personal-stories-of-the-victims/

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Promo photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash.

Rachel sits down with former guest turned friend and co-worker: Lindsay Dellinger. Enjoy being a fly on the wall as Rachel and Lindsay chat about the current political hellscape, immigration, mental health, resilience, letter-writing as processing, and so much more.

Episode Notes:

About Lindsay:

• Swipe Write: A sometimes hilarious, sometimes sad, always brutally honest account of 20 online dates with 20 different men, by Lindsay Dellinger (2022): https://www.amazon.com/Swipe-Write-Online-Dates-Different-ebook/dp/B09NBC8GGS

• Website: https://lindsay-taylor-dellinger.com/

• Blog, “The Road Linds Travels”: https://theroadlindstravels.com/about-lindsay-taylor-dellinger/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/The_Road_Linds_Travels/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheRoadLindsTravels/

• WOW Wagon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyOnY9xuD-SJsYK3rBXKWtQ

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Episode 56: “Swipe Write” with Lindsay: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4

• Lindsay interviews Rachel in her Celebrating Women series on her blog: https://theroadlindstravels.com/2025/04/19/celebrating-women-rachel-dalton/

• Winded: A Memoir in Four Stages, by Dawn Newton(2019): https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1627202455/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i1

• The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality, by Amanda Montell (2024): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1668007983/

• The Girls, by Emma Cline (2017): https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Novel-Emma-Cline/dp/0812988027/

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Promo photo by houssam korichi on Unsplash.

Rachel talks a bit about what has been going in her life and what lies ahead for the Wine, Dine, and 69 Podcast. She is then joined by Stephany Ann, an accomplished lawyer, author, and survivor of two abusive marriages. The two of them discuss how to recognize narcissism, escaping the abuse cycle and trauma bond, and healing through belief.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Stephany Ann begins at 00:16.07.

Follow Stephany Ann:

Website: https://stephany-ann.mykajabi.com/

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thestephanyann/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thestephanyann/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kajabi

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanyann/

In The Episode:

WD&69 episode with my Mom: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7ChLbC17TPhDtmBjcI09rw

The Wife Between Us, by Green Hendricks and Sarah Pekkenan (2018): https://www.amazon.com/Between-Sarah-Greer-Hendricks-Pekkanen/dp/1509842829

The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, & Miracles, by Bruce Lipton (2008): ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Biology-Belief-Unleashing-Consciousness-Miracles/dp/1401923127⁠

Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft (2003): https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Short Description: Rachel sits down with one of her dearest friends in the world, and repeat guest, Samantha Simpson. The two share a candid conversation about growth, dating, the future of the pod, and more.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Sam begins at 00:00:43.

Mentioned in this episode:

Sam’s first pod ep, Episode 72: “Intention and Introspection with Sam”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4p802E5QFUgy4mGrY7Akax

Miss Bennet: Christmas At Pemberley Review by Sarah Paulos – https://www.facebook.com/OldAcademyPlayers/posts/pfbid06fvTz3VPUe8Sw7jMBQefKiJhoywc5cTb8MiLSwvJ3Cm4nCkGtga2SPrvVGK4FUNyl

The Sixth of January YouTube Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3K4Fj6G7-6U

Lindsay’s pod ep, Episode 56: “Swipe Write with Lindsay”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Promo photo is a still from Pride and Prejudice (2005).

Rachel talks about election anxiety and the book, The Fourth Turning. She is then joined by this month’s guest, Missy XD, author of Tales of a Phone Sex Girl. They talk about sex work, intimacy, anonymity, and of course, Missy shares some stories from her time on the job!

Episode Notes:

Conversation with MissyXD begins at 00:12:50.

Follow Missy XD:

Book: Tales of a Phone Sex Girl, By Missy XD (2024): https://www.amazon.com/Tales-Phone-Sex-Girl-Missy-ebook/dp/B0D4NJ4GNS

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missy.848375

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@missyxd5

Discussed in the episode:

[Intro] Vox, Your Guide To Coping With Election Anxiety, by Allie Volpe (October 28, 2024), https://www.vox.com/even-better/379814/election-anxiety-stress-coping-strategies-control-community

[Intro] The Fourth Turning: An American Prophecy - What the Cycles of History Tell Us About America's Next Rendezvous with Destiny, by William Strauss and Neil Howe (1997): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-American-Prophecy-Rendezvous/dp/0767900464

[Intro] The Fourth Turning Is Here: What the Seasons of History Tell Us about How and When This Crisis Will End, by Neil Howe (2023): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-Here-Seasons-History/dp/1982173734/ref=sr_1_1

Phone Kitten: A Cozy, Romantic, and Highly Humorous Mystery, by Marika Christian (2010): https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11222521-phone-kitten

Baby Reindeer: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13649112/

Fatal Attraction: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093010/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

NY Post, “$4 a minute for fetishes: How the 1-900 phone-sex industry changed America” By Micheal Kaplan (2021): https://nypost.com/2021/11/12/how-the-1-900-phone-sex-industry-changed-america/

Touching Base, Inc, “NDIS And Sex Work” by unknown: https://www.touchingbase.org/ndis-and-sex-work/

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

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