We're told that aging is something to dread.

That it means slowing down. Becoming invisible. Losing your edge.

So instead… we obsess over looking younger. We buy the creams. We scroll past women our age doing incredible things.

In this episode of Why Do I, I'm joined by Poorna Bell - journalist, author, competitive weightlifter, and martial artist - whose new book She Wanted More charts what aging really looks like for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s.

If you've ever felt invisible in a room full of younger people…

If you've ever thought "I'm too old to start that"…

If you've ever tied your worth to how you look rather than what you can do…

This episode is for you.

EPISODE CHAPTERS:

00:00 – Why Are We So Scared of Aging?

08:44 – How Your Reasons for Training Should Change

18:31 – How Poorna Became a Competitive Weightlifter

28:56 – Why the Algorithm Is Keeping You Stuck

36:26 – Who Decided What Relationships Should Look Like?

46:31 – What Hundreds of Women Had in Common

57:04 – The Freedom of Being One Person Always

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We’re told needing people is weak.

So we handle everything on our own.
Tell ourselves we’re “fine”.

But I’ve realised something recently…

Connection isn’t the reward for having your life together.
It’s the thing that helps you get there.

Loneliness isn’t always obvious either.
Sometimes it’s a full life… with something missing underneath.

And maybe “I’m fine on my own” isn’t always true.
Maybe it just means “I don’t want to be let down.”

If something keeps telling you to show up somewhere…
just go once.

You don’t need to say anything.
Just be there.

That might be enough.

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We’re told anger is a bad thing.
So a lot of us just… stop feeling it.

Or at least, we think we do.

After my conversation with Sam Parker, I realised something uncomfortable:
I don’t really feel anger… and that might be the problem.

Because you can’t get rid of an emotion.
You can only suppress it.

And when you do, it shows up in other ways– distance– tension– saying “I’m fine” when you’re clearly not

This is me trying to make sense of that.
If you’ve ever struggled to express how you actually feel… this might hit.

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