Dee & Lisa | Talking Sister Moms & Telling the Truth

Season 1 Finale

In this powerful Season 1 finale of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K, I’m joined by two of my sister moms — Demetria @cannaqueeriousnp and Lisa @fernwehlisa — the mothers of my children’s donor sibling.

Together, we share what it’s like raising children who are connected not by circumstance, but by donor conception. We explore how we found each other, how we’ve nurtured sibling bonds between our kids, and how we show up for one another as a modern-day chosen family.

We also discuss the importance of truth-telling in donor conception:

Keeping the details of your child’s conception a secret isn’t protecting them—it’s lying to them.

This episode is a heartfelt close to a season filled with honesty, vulnerability, and deep connection—and it’s a love letter to all the SMBCs building families with courage and intention.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener has connected with other families who used the same donor—but she’s unsure of when and how to tell her child that they have donor siblings. We explore how to approach this conversation with transparency, sensitivity, and age-appropriate honesty.

Guest Info:

Demetria: @cannaqueeriousnp

Lisa: @fernwehlisa

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This week, I’m joined by Sarah (@zorabet_), a Jewish single mom by choice who approached her journey to motherhood with deep intentionality—from personal growth to spiritual alignment.

In this episode, Sarah shares how her Jewish identity influenced her process of choosing a sperm donor and how other major life decisions, including a significant weight loss journey, prepared her emotionally and physically for motherhood. Now a proud mom to one daughter, Sarah reflects on the choices that led her here and the mindset shifts that helped her navigate the ups and downs of this path.

Her story is a powerful reminder that becoming a solo mother by choice is not just about biology—it’s about vision, self-work, and trusting your unique process.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener is emotionally drained after multiple failed attempts to become a SMBC. She’s wondering whether she should continue pursuing her dream or take it as a sign to stop. We explore how to process disappointment, reconnect with your “why,” and make empowered decisions—even in the face of uncertainty.

Guest Info:

Sarah Z.

Follow her on Instagram: @zorabet_

Resources Mentioned:

Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com

Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being part of this community.

Nancy M. | Life with a Known Donor & Blocking Out Negativity

This week, I’m joined by Nancy (@_surfboartsashaa), who opens up about her journey to solo motherhood using a known donor. In a space where anonymous or anonymous ID-release donation is often the default, Nancy chose to walk a different path—one that has brought unique benefits for her and for her child’s future.

She shares why she made this decision, the dynamics of building a family with intention and clarity, and the unexpected ways this choice has empowered her as a mother. Her perspective adds an important voice to the growing diversity of SMBC experiences.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener is a pregnant SMBC facing ongoing negativity and judgment from her family. She’s wondering whether she should cut ties for her peace or hold out hope that they’ll come around once the baby arrives. We talk about setting boundaries, protecting your joy, and navigating family tension without losing yourself.

Guest Info:

Nancy M.

Single mom by choice: Follow her on Instagram: @_surfboartsashaa

Resources Mentioned:

• Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com

• Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

• Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen!

New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being here and sharing this space.