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Ever been told you're "the love of someone's life" while watching them build a future with someone else? Our latest Fishbowl episode unpacks this painful contradiction alongside another heartbreaking scenario: a husband of 13 years abandoning his wife and children without financial support.

The first question comes from a woman who spent seven years in an on-again, off-again relationship only to watch her partner start dating someone else—while still telling her she remains "the love of his life." We dissect this classic manipulation tactic and explain why, if someone truly values you, there's rarely confusion about where you stand. When actions and words don't align, believe the actions. As grandma wisely advised: "Make sure he likes you more than you like him."

We also tackle a devastating story from a mother whose husband suddenly left her and their children for someone states away, providing no financial support. This scenario highlights why financial independence is non-negotiable for women, especially those with children. Having a separate bank account that only you control isn't paranoia—it's protection. When you have children, staying at a friend's house or living temporarily in your car isn't an option; kids need stability, proper facilities, and consistent schooling.

The conversation expands into a critique of 50/50 financial arrangements in relationships. If you're contributing half to all expenses with someone who's supposed to protect and provide, what benefit are you gaining? Your money should work for you—building security and enhancing your quality of life. Female financial empowerment isn't just about earning money but strategically preserving it for your security.

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