We talk a lot about setting boundaries.
But not enough people talk about what happens after.

➤ What do you do when guilt shows up unexpectedly?
➤ When someone you love pushes back?
➤ When choosing peace feels heavier than people-pleasing ever did?

In this episode of Trusting Her Journey, we’re talking about the part no one prepares you for: the emotional aftermath of boundary work.

We’re naming the hard, unspoken parts:

The grief no one warned you about

The guilt that shows up even when you’re doing what’s right

The silence you feel when others don’t celebrate your growth

The truth is:
You might not be feeling guilty.
You might be grieving the version of you who was always available.
The one who got love by overgiving.
The one who never said no.

We break down what a boundary really is (spoiler: it’s not a wall), how to stay grounded when people push back, and why choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you whole.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• What a boundary really is, beyond the buzzwords
• Why boundaries are love, not punishment
• Boundaries vs. walls: how to tell the difference
• What to do when people don’t respond well
• The faith piece, what Jesus actually modeled
• Why guilt after a boundary might actually be grief
• What to do when boundary setting feels lonely or isolating

✨️ Fuel for the Road Ahead:

Boundaries are an act of bravery.
Be brave enough to do what’s not easy but necessary.
And when, not if, the guilt shows up… remind yourself:
​I’m growing. I’m grieving old patterns. And I’m showing love to myself. I can trust this part of my journey.

💭 Reflection Question:

Where in your life are you feeling guilty for choosing peace, and what would it mean to honor that choice anyway?

👉🏾 One Small Step:

This week, notice one place where you’ve set a boundary—and instead of apologizing for it, affirm it.

Say to yourself: “This boundary honors me.” "This boundary honors my values and the healing I’m working toward."

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