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  • 34. The Real Reason Men Don’t Go to Therapy (And What We Can Do About It) with Justin Leff

    34. The Real Reason Men Don’t Go to Therapy (And What We Can Do About It) with Justin Leff
    2025/02/06
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder engages in a profound discussion with Justin Leff, a behavioral awareness coach, about men's mental health. They explore why traditional therapy is less popular among men, whether it effectively addresses men's needs, and how mental health support for men can improve without compromising their identity or masculinity. Justin shares his fresh insights and emphasizes the importance of addressing the stigma around men's mental health and therapy. The conversation pivots on challenging societal norms, the impact of social media, and the importance of goal-oriented support systems for men. This episode aims to inspire listeners to initiate more conversations around men's mental health in their circles. 00:00 Introduction to Men's Mental Health

    01:59 Meet Justin Leff: Behavioral Awareness Coach

    03:28 Why Fewer Men Seek Therapy

    06:10 Masculinity and Therapy: A Complex Relationship

    08:33 Gender Differences in Therapy Approaches

    25:58 The Role of Social Media in Shaping Masculinity

    39:34 Historical Context of Gender Equality

    41:14 Theories and Realities of Patriarchy

    42:33 Social Media's Impact on Gender Dynamics

    43:12 Challenges Facing Young Men Today

    44:21 Conservative Shifts and Gender Roles

    46:01 Balancing Individual Strength and Social Norms

    50:05 Therapy and Mental Health Support for Men

    01:02:39 Economic and Cultural Shifts Impacting Men

    01:06:10 The Importance of Nuanced Conversations

    01:10:35 Personal Reflections and Closing Thoughts Get in touch with Justin: Website: https://www.soliliumcoaching.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/soliliumthoughts/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoliliumThoughts/ Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 17 分
  • 33. Where are the Role Models? The Impact of Media on Masculinity and Modern Manhood with Layne & Cole

    33. Where are the Role Models? The Impact of Media on Masculinity and Modern Manhood with Layne & Cole
    2025/01/29
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' Kayla Yoder is joined by Layne and Cole, hosts of the 'For Reelz' podcast. They discuss the significant influence of movies and media on masculinity and the modern man. The conversation covers topics such as unrealistic body standards set by superhero films, the portrayal of hyper-masculine figures and clueless buffoons, and the lack of relatable role models for young men. They also delve into the impact of political messaging in modern movies and its implications for men today. Layne and Cole offer valuable insights into these issues from their expertise in media and personal experiences as young men. This episode provides a thoughtful and nuanced exploration of how film and TV contribute to shaping men's identities and perceptions. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

    00:30 Discussing Media's Influence on Masculinity

    04:40 Unrealistic Body Standards in Hollywood

    06:44 Mental Health and Media Portrayals

    13:35 The Hero Complex and Real-Life Expectations

    17:28 Shifting Masculinity in Modern Media

    30:40 Political Messaging in Movies

    43:48 Movies vs. Social Media: Blurring the Lines

    46:02 The Power of Storytelling: Let Writers Write

    48:22 Empowering Women in Cinema: A Double-Edged Sword

    52:14 Men's Mental Health: The Silent Struggle

    56:02 Hollywood's Role in Shaping Gender Perceptions

    01:04:16 Realistic Portrayals: The Key to Impactful Cinema 01:12:30 The Challenges and Joys of Being a Man

    01:18:35 The Power of Women: Influence and Inspiration

    01:25:11 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Check out the For Reelz podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YW92VODeKzHssmmbmwjxR?si=e145fa33b9864286 Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 27 分
  • 32. The Decline of Marriage: The Impact on Men that Nobody Talks About with Devin Plowman

    32. The Decline of Marriage: The Impact on Men that Nobody Talks About with Devin Plowman
    2025/01/22
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla welcomes back guest Devin Plowman to discuss whether the decline of marriage is hitting men harder than women. Devin, a happily married father of five, shares insights on the importance of marriage for men's success and fulfillment, and how traditional roles and modern dating dynamics are influencing commitment. The discussion covers a range of topics, including the influence of dating apps, the changing structure of households, and the various benefits of marriage for men. They also delve into the societal factors that contribute to the declining marriage rates and speculate on the future implications. This episode is packed with interesting statistics, personal anecdotes, and thoughtful insights on the complex dynamics of modern relationships and their impacts on men. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    02:11 The Decline of Marriage: Statistics and Trends

    05:22 Impact of Modern Dating on Relationships

    11:27 Men's Awareness and Commitment Issues

    17:57 Benefits of Marriage for Men

    23:32 Challenges and Societal Influences

    35:02 The Disney Mindset and Media Influences

    35:40 Role Models in Media: From Home Improvement to Bluey

    38:47 The Decline of Scouting and Its Impact on Boys

    41:28 Rituals and Transitioning Boys to Men

    45:37 The Importance of Fathers and Mothers

    53:02 Traditional vs. Non-Traditional Family Roles

    56:48 The Future of Family Structures

    01:01:36 The Benefits of Marriage for Men

    01:05:39 Promoting Positive Messages About Marriage

    01:06:56 Conclusion: Reflections on Marriage and Family Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 8 分
  • 31. How Climate, Culture, and Location Shape the Way We Love with Giancarlo Bessa

    31. How Climate, Culture, and Location Shape the Way We Love with Giancarlo Bessa
    2025/01/15
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' the hosts engage in an insightful conversation with multicultural traveler Giancarlo Bessa about how culture and climate influence relationships. Giancarlo shares his extensive experiences living in various countries including Brazil, Mexico, the United States, the UK, Southeast Asia, and the Netherlands. They discuss the challenges of adapting to new cultures, dealing with reverse culture shock, and navigating the complexities of building community and relationships. The episode also explores how factors like weather can impact social dynamics and even masculinity, providing a unique perspective on how location shapes love, connection, and identity. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    01:39 Meet Giancarlo Bessa: A Multicultural Journey

    04:28 Language and Cultural Adaptation

    07:21 Host's Travel and Living Experiences

    14:40 Cultural Differences in Relationships

    23:38 Navigating Social Dynamics in Different Cultures

    31:27 Planning and Spontaneity: A Cultural Contrast

    44:31 Masculine vs. Feminine Cultures: A Theory

    48:05 Weather and Cultural Differences

    49:54 Abundance and Dating in Mexico City

    51:03 Social Dynamics in the Netherlands

    54:33 Masculinity and Relationship Polarity

    01:01:20 Community and Individualism

    01:03:53 Reflections on Moving and Settling Down

    01:07:03 Challenges and Rewards of Building Friendships

    01:09:08 Polyamory and Subcultures

    01:11:43 Comparing Relationship Dynamics Across Cultures

    01:18:27 Personal Reflections and Future Plans

    01:27:51 Final Thoughts and Closing Questions
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    1 時間 32 分
  • 30. Reverse Sexism: When Inclusion Feels Exclusive with Yichen Hao

    30. Reverse Sexism: When Inclusion Feels Exclusive with Yichen Hao
    2025/01/08
    In the first episode of 2025, host Kayla Yoder engages in a thought-provoking discussion with Yichen, a sociologist originally from China. They delve into the topic of reverse sexism, examining how gender dynamics have evolved and how men are now experiencing sexism in today's cultural climate. Yichen shares personal stories illustrating hard and soft sexism and discusses the silent struggles men face with discrimination. The conversation highlights the challenges both genders are confronting and emphasizes the need for mutual respect and collaboration to overcome adversarial relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    01:50 Guest Introduction: Yichen's Background

    02:35 Exploring Reverse Sexism

    05:11 Hard and Soft Sexism: Definitions and Examples

    07:42 Personal Experiences with Hard Sexism

    18:02 Personal Experiences with Soft Sexism

    20:53 Generational Perspectives on Gender Dynamics

    25:20 The Complexity of Gender-Based Discrimination

    37:26 Understanding Bias and Discrimination

    37:55 Men's Struggles and Societal Reactions

    38:39 The Need for Safe Spaces for Men

    40:28 Hypocrisy in Advocacy for Inclusion

    41:21 Personal Reflections on Gender Roles

    44:49 Challenges in Professional Environments

    49:20 Biological and Societal Differences

    55:58 Cultural Comparisons: US vs. Canada

    01:00:43 The Harm of Sexism and Reverse Sexism

    01:08:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 14 分
  • 29. Moments that Matter: 5 Takeaways that Taught Us about Each Other in 2024 with Yours Truly

    29. Moments that Matter: 5 Takeaways that Taught Us about Each Other in 2024 with Yours Truly
    2024/12/18
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder reflects on the key takeaways from the past year’s profound conversations. Highlighting the importance of emotional safe spaces for men, she discusses the experiences shared by Franco, David, Ryan, Katie, and Ghasan. The episode delves into men's need for support, the pressures they face, and the vital role women can play. It also touches on societal expectations affecting women's happiness and calls for greater accountability and cooperation between men and women. The episode concludes with a call to build each other up and support each other in the coming year. 00:00 Introduction and Year in Review 01:09 The Importance of Safe Spaces for Men 05:41 Supporting Men Through Struggles 10:27 Women's Happiness and Societal Expectations 14:44 The Relentless Responsibility of Men 20:35 Accountability in Relationships 23:03 Conclusion and Holiday Wishes Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    25 分
  • 28. Infidelity 201: How Sexual Shame Impacts Relationships with Dr. Nic Natale

    28. Infidelity 201: How Sexual Shame Impacts Relationships with Dr. Nic Natale
    2024/12/11
    In this deep dive conversation, the hosts discuss the pervasive issue of sexual shame and its impact on one's personal and relational life. They explore how cultural, household, and traumatic experiences contribute to deeply held shame, affecting vulnerability and intimacy. The discussion highlights the constraints of social media censorship on sex education, the transformative power of open communication, and the role of hypnosis in overcoming sexual shame. Practical exercises and professional insights are provided for individuals and couples seeking to enhance their sexual wellness and intimacy. 00:00 Introduction and Social Media Challenges 03:12 The Cultural Shame Around Sex 04:24 Exploring Shame in Men and Women

    09:21 Understanding Guilt vs. Shame

    13:05 Sources of Sexual Shame

    21:55 Identifying and Addressing Shame

    35:35 Transformative Exercises and Hypnosis

    44:31 The Role of Body Image in Sexual Shame

    48:53 Conclusion and Upcoming Events Bliss Convention Information: https://blissconvention.com/ Connect with Dr. Nic Natale
    https://www.nicnatale.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drnicnatale/ https://www.facebook.com/nic.natale Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    55 分
  • 27. Infidelity 101: The Psychology Behind Why Men Cheat with Dr. Nic Natale

    27. Infidelity 101: The Psychology Behind Why Men Cheat with Dr. Nic Natale
    2024/12/04
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men', host Kayla Yoder and guest Dr. Nic Natale, an experienced relationship and sex therapist, explore the complex and often misunderstood topic of why men cheat. Dr. Nic discusses the hidden emotional needs and behaviors driving infidelity, drawing from decades of experience and recent research. The episode delves into the five primary drivers of problematic sexual behavior, the importance of emotional regulation and validation, and how societal norms impact relationships. Dr. Nic also provides actionable tools for restoring trust, maintaining relationship polarity, and strengthening connections. Listeners gain insights into the emotional underpinnings of male infidelity and practical approaches to nurture healthy relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    00:17 Guest Introduction: Dr. Nic Natale

    02:12 Defining Cheating in Relationships

    02:40 Statistics and Trends in Infidelity

    05:03 Personal Definitions and Communication

    18:19 Emotional Needs and Cheating

    19:12 Five Primary Drivers of Problematic Sexual Behavior

    35:47 Rediscovering Relationship Needs

    41:22 The Role of Masculinity and Femininity

    44:32 Balancing Roles in Relationships

    01:01:36 The Impact of Shame and Guilt

    01:03:50 The Challenges and Joys of Understanding Each Other Connect with Dr. Nic Natale
    https://www.nicnatale.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drnicnatale/ https://www.facebook.com/nic.natale Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 9 分