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  • 39. The Stay-at-Home Dad Era: Redefining Fatherhood with Laurence Chinery from The Dad Dialogue
    2025/12/10

    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder welcomes Laurence, the creator of The Dad Dialogue Podcast, for an in-depth conversation about his experiences as a stay-at-home dad. Laurence shares insights from his podcast, discussing its origins, purpose, and the invaluable lessons learned from engaging in deep conversations with other fathers. He reflects on the different challenges and rewards that dads face compared to moms and emphasizes the importance of meaningful dialogue in parenting. Laurence also delves into his personal journey, including the dynamics of his relationship with his wife, the impact of their faith on their family, and the societal perceptions of non-traditional gender roles. Additionally, the episode touches on strategies for maintaining relationship polarity and the significance of communication and respect in a marriage. Through Laurence's narrative, listeners gain a comprehensive understanding of modern fatherhood, the importance of adapting roles in a partnership, and the benefits of living authentically and cooperatively.

    00:00 Welcome to 'We Don't Deserve Men'

    00:38 Introducing The Dad Dialogue Podcast

    02:01 The Challenges and Rewards of Deep Conversations

    03:24 Differences in Parenting: Dads vs. Moms

    03:50 Advice for New Dads

    10:51 The Stay-at-Home Dad Journey

    13:32 Adapting to New Roles and Responsibilities

    16:36 Balancing Family and Personal Fulfillment

    26:21 Maintaining a Strong Marriage

    38:51 Respect and Boundaries in Parenting

    42:58 Understanding Children's Comprehension

    43:18 The Importance of Respect in Relationships

    44:02 Egalitarian Relationships: 50/50 or 80/80?

    46:34 Honoring Differences in Marriage

    51:42 Leading the Family with Faith

    01:09:02 Boundaries and Communication in Marriage

    01:18:39 Challenges and Joys of Being a Man

    01:24:58 Final Thoughts and Reflections

    Dad Dialigue: Website: https://www.daddialogue.co.uk/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/daddialogue/ Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 31 分
  • 38. Real Men Feel: Rethinking Masculinity with Andy Grant
    2025/12/03

    In this episode, the host welcomes Andy Grant, an author, coach, healer, and host of the Real Man Feel podcast. Andy shares his journey of personal growth, discussing how he transitioned from traditional male stoicism to embracing emotions. He emphasizes the importance of men acknowledging their feelings and the societal challenges that hinder this process, such as cultural expectations and gender norms. The conversation covers men's emotional health, the role of supportive relationships, and the benefits of men's groups. Additionally, Andy explores the impact of women's empowerment on men's identities and relationships. Practical tips for improving communication and fostering emotional intelligence are shared, along with the significance of balance and harmony in personal development. This episode provides valuable insights into how men and women can better understand and support each other in their emotional journeys.

    00:00 Introduction and Guest Background

    01:19 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Service

    02:52 Challenges Men Face Today

    04:24 Impact of Women's Empowerment on Men

    08:33 The Importance of Emotional Expression

    16:34 Men's Groups and Safe Spaces

    36:17 Navigating Relationships and Self-Love

    40:49 The Nature of Men's Problem-Solving

    41:14 Challenges in Women's Groups

    41:49 Building Trust and Communication

    43:27 Men's Emotional Vulnerability

    45:30 Supporting Men in Emotional Expression

    47:11 Communication Differences Between Genders

    52:27 The Importance of Clear Communication

    58:54 Men's Emotional Expression and Solitude

    01:06:45 Encouraging Men to Seek Help

    01:08:23 Resources for Men's Emotional Health

    01:09:51 Final Thoughts and Reflections

    01:11:25 Guest's Personal Insights

    Get in touch with Andy: Website: https://theandygrant.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/theandygrant/

    Find Men's Groups: https://mensgroup.com/

    Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 16 分
  • 37. Dating in the Age of the Algorithm: Exploring the Effects of Social Media, Dating Apps & Only Fans with Layne
    2025/11/26

    In this episode, we explore the intersection of technology and online dating, discussing how social media, dating apps, and movies influence the dynamics between men and women. The conversation delves into the impact of online media on societal and cultural interactions, highlighting the challenges and changes in personal relationships.

    Takeaways

    • Technology is reshaping how we connect.
    • Online dating has transformed relationship dynamics.
    • Social media influences perceptions of relationships.
    • Dating apps offer both opportunities and challenges.
    • Movies reflect and shape dating norms.
    • Cultural dynamics are shifting with technology.
    • Personal interactions are affected by online presence.
    • The role of technology in relationships is complex.
    • Social media can both connect and isolate people.
    • Understanding technology's impact is crucial for relationships.

    Chapters

    • 00:00:29 Introduction and Welcome
    • 00:00:38 Technology and Online Dating
    • 00:00:56 Social Media's Societal Impact
    • 00:09:53 Worldview and Cultural Shifts
    • 00:23:25 Men's Perspective on Dating
    • 00:36:33 Contributions of Social Media
    • 00:50:36 Statistics and Superficiality
    • 01:04:53 Rite of Passage in Dating
    • 01:23:53 Importance of Experience
    • 01:32:03 Common Experiences in Dating

    Check out the For Reelz podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YW92VODeKzHssmmbmwjxR?si=e145fa33b9864286 Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 46 分
  • 36. Internal Jiu Jitsu: Conquering Mind and Body Resistance by Giving Way with Julio Rivera
    2025/11/19

    In this episode, Julio Rivera shares his journey of personal growth through Jiu-Jitsu, exploring how it serves as a metaphor for life. He discusses overcoming fear, the importance of mental health, and redefining masculinity. Julio's insights offer a unique perspective on using martial arts to navigate life's challenges and find authenticity.

    Keywords

    Jiu-Jitsu, personal growth, mental health, overcoming fear, masculinity

    Takeaways

    • Jiu-Jitsu is a metaphor for life.
    • Overcoming fear leads to personal growth.
    • Martial arts can help find authenticity.
    • Mental health is crucial for well-being.
    • Redefining masculinity is important.
    • Jiu-Jitsu teaches calmness in chaos.
    • Personal experiences shape our journey.
    • Helping others is a path to healing.
    • Life's challenges offer new directions.
    • Authenticity is key to happiness.

    Chapters

    • 00:00:11 Introduction to Jiu-Jitsu as a Metaphor
    • 00:06:10 Overcoming Fear and Personal Growth
    • 00:15:07 Mental Health and Calmness
    • 00:24:21 Practical Self-Defense and Empowerment
    • 00:27:21 Freedom and Best Performance
    • 00:55:49 Internal Jiu-Jitsu: The Book
    • 00:58:36 Using Jiu-Jitsu to Navigate Life
    Get in touch with Julio: Website: https://internaljiujitsu.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/internaljiujitsu/ Book: https://www.how2conquer.com/books/internal-jiu-jitsu/ Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 22 分
  • 35. Is Wikipedia still a Boys' Club? An Exploration with Wikipedia Editor - Lane Rasberry
    2025/11/12
    Summary:

    In this episode, Kayla Yoder welcomes Lane Rasberry, a seasoned Wikipedia editor and the Wikimedian in Residence at the University of Virginia's School of Data Science. Lane shares insights into his extensive experience with Wikipedia, highlighting the gender imbalance within the platform's biographies and editorial community. The conversation delves into the challenges women face in the Wikipedia community, including harassment and underrepresentation, and explores broader societal issues of gender disparity. Lane emphasizes the importance of constructive collaboration and the role of technology, like AI, in shaping the future of information sharing. The discussion also touches on the differences in social media dynamics and the evolving landscape of gender roles.

    Keywords:

    Wikipedia, gender imbalance, editorial community, harassment, underrepresentation, societal issues, gender disparity, AI, technology, social media dynamics, gender roles

    Takeaways:
    • Lane Rasberry's role as Wikimedian in Residence.
    • Gender imbalance in Wikipedia's biographies.
    • Challenges women face in the Wikipedia community.
    • The role of AI in information sharing.
    • Social media dynamics and gender roles.
    • Constructive collaboration in addressing gender issues.
    • The importance of reliable sources in Wikipedia.
    • Differences in social media and Wikipedia.
    • The evolving landscape of gender roles.
    • Lane's insights on societal gender disparity.
    Chapters:
    • 00:00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
    • 00:03:00 Lane's Background and Wikipedia Experience
    • 00:09:00 Gender Imbalance in Wikipedia
    • 00:18:00 Challenges Women Face
    • 00:27:00 Role of AI and Technology
    • 00:36:00 Social Media Dynamics
    • 00:45:00 Evolving Gender Roles
    • 00:54:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
    Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 6 分
  • 34. The Real Reason Men Don't Go to Therapy (And What We Can Do About It) with Justin Leff
    2025/02/06
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla Yoder engages in a profound discussion with Justin Leff, a behavioral awareness coach, about men's mental health. They explore why traditional therapy is less popular among men, whether it effectively addresses men's needs, and how mental health support for men can improve without compromising their identity or masculinity. Justin shares his fresh insights and emphasizes the importance of addressing the stigma around men's mental health and therapy. The conversation pivots on challenging societal norms, the impact of social media, and the importance of goal-oriented support systems for men. This episode aims to inspire listeners to initiate more conversations around men's mental health in their circles. 00:00 Introduction to Men's Mental Health

    01:59 Meet Justin Leff: Behavioral Awareness Coach

    03:28 Why Fewer Men Seek Therapy

    06:10 Masculinity and Therapy: A Complex Relationship

    08:33 Gender Differences in Therapy Approaches

    25:58 The Role of Social Media in Shaping Masculinity

    39:34 Historical Context of Gender Equality

    41:14 Theories and Realities of Patriarchy

    42:33 Social Media's Impact on Gender Dynamics

    43:12 Challenges Facing Young Men Today

    44:21 Conservative Shifts and Gender Roles

    46:01 Balancing Individual Strength and Social Norms

    50:05 Therapy and Mental Health Support for Men

    01:02:39 Economic and Cultural Shifts Impacting Men

    01:06:10 The Importance of Nuanced Conversations

    01:10:35 Personal Reflections and Closing Thoughts Get in touch with Justin: Website: https://www.soliliumcoaching.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/soliliumthoughts/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoliliumThoughts/ Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 17 分
  • 33. Where are the Role Models? The Impact of Media on Masculinity and Modern Manhood with Layne & Cole
    2025/01/29
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' Kayla Yoder is joined by Layne and Cole, hosts of the 'For Reelz' podcast. They discuss the significant influence of movies and media on masculinity and the modern man. The conversation covers topics such as unrealistic body standards set by superhero films, the portrayal of hyper-masculine figures and clueless buffoons, and the lack of relatable role models for young men. They also delve into the impact of political messaging in modern movies and its implications for men today. Layne and Cole offer valuable insights into these issues from their expertise in media and personal experiences as young men. This episode provides a thoughtful and nuanced exploration of how film and TV contribute to shaping men's identities and perceptions. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

    00:30 Discussing Media's Influence on Masculinity

    04:40 Unrealistic Body Standards in Hollywood

    06:44 Mental Health and Media Portrayals

    13:35 The Hero Complex and Real-Life Expectations

    17:28 Shifting Masculinity in Modern Media

    30:40 Political Messaging in Movies

    43:48 Movies vs. Social Media: Blurring the Lines

    46:02 The Power of Storytelling: Let Writers Write

    48:22 Empowering Women in Cinema: A Double-Edged Sword

    52:14 Men's Mental Health: The Silent Struggle

    56:02 Hollywood's Role in Shaping Gender Perceptions

    01:04:16 Realistic Portrayals: The Key to Impactful Cinema 01:12:30 The Challenges and Joys of Being a Man

    01:18:35 The Power of Women: Influence and Inspiration

    01:25:11 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Check out the For Reelz podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YW92VODeKzHssmmbmwjxR?si=e145fa33b9864286 Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 27 分
  • 32. The Decline of Marriage: The Impact on Men that Nobody Talks About with Devin Plowman
    2025/01/22
    In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' host Kayla welcomes back guest Devin Plowman to discuss whether the decline of marriage is hitting men harder than women. Devin, a happily married father of five, shares insights on the importance of marriage for men's success and fulfillment, and how traditional roles and modern dating dynamics are influencing commitment. The discussion covers a range of topics, including the influence of dating apps, the changing structure of households, and the various benefits of marriage for men. They also delve into the societal factors that contribute to the declining marriage rates and speculate on the future implications. This episode is packed with interesting statistics, personal anecdotes, and thoughtful insights on the complex dynamics of modern relationships and their impacts on men. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    02:11 The Decline of Marriage: Statistics and Trends

    05:22 Impact of Modern Dating on Relationships

    11:27 Men's Awareness and Commitment Issues

    17:57 Benefits of Marriage for Men

    23:32 Challenges and Societal Influences

    35:02 The Disney Mindset and Media Influences

    35:40 Role Models in Media: From Home Improvement to Bluey

    38:47 The Decline of Scouting and Its Impact on Boys

    41:28 Rituals and Transitioning Boys to Men

    45:37 The Importance of Fathers and Mothers

    53:02 Traditional vs. Non-Traditional Family Roles

    56:48 The Future of Family Structures

    01:01:36 The Benefits of Marriage for Men

    01:05:39 Promoting Positive Messages About Marriage

    01:06:56 Conclusion: Reflections on Marriage and Family Get in touch: Email: hello@fxm.global IG: @wedontdeservemen Website: https://fxm.global/
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    1 時間 8 分