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  • Am I the a**hole for wanting to fire a high performing employee just because of their bad attitude?
    2025/08/13

    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

    In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for wanting to fire a high performing employee just because of their bad attitude?"

    Today Gayle and Dan mentioned a couple things, including:

    • cockroach in a bowl of cherries: https://www.mickmel.com/one-cockroach-will-ruin-the-whole-bowl-of-cherries/
    • Article about changing answers in test taking situations: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2020461/
    • "quiet firing": https://www.paychex.com/articles/human-resources/quiet-firing
    • Business failure rates: https://growthlist.co/startup-failure-statistics/ and https://corpgov.law.harvard.edu/2023/09/29/startup-failure/

    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠


    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠

    ⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    31 分
  • Am I the a**hole for always dumping excessive amounts of lemon on my food?
    2025/08/06

    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

    In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for always dumping excessive amounts of lemon on my food?"


    Here are the links to the TikTok videos we talked about at the end of the conversation:

    --https://www.tiktok.com/@mdmacbride/video/7340266215509740830

    --https://www.tiktok.com/@mdmacbride/video/73514399836783608621

    --https://www.tiktok.com/@mdmacbride/video/7220479702207647019


    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠


    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠

    ⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    27 分
  • Am I the a**hole for telling my boyfriend that we can't see his friend on our vacation?
    2025/07/30

    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

    In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for telling my boyfriend that we can't see his friend on our vacation?"


    Dan and Gayle mentioned their new webpage! You can check it out right here: https://www.veritaspp.com !


    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠


    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠

    ⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    28 分
  • Am I the a**hole if I don't want to go on vacation with my university friends?
    2025/07/23

    Well, it was bound to happen. We recorded two episodes and the video didn't work and the transcripts didn't happen. But, we still really liked the episodes... so here they are. One last week, and this one.


    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!


    In this episode, the question is: "am I the a**hole if I don't want to go on vacation with my university friends?"


    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

    ⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    30 分
  • Am I the a**hole for sending my sister flowers anonymously and making her husband upset?
    2025/07/16

    Well, it was bound to happen. We recorded two episodes and the video didn't work and the transcripts didn't happen. But, we still really liked the episodes... so here they are. One this week, and one next.


    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!


    In this episode, the question is: "am I the a**hole for sending my sister flowers anonymously and making her husband upset?"


    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

    ⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    25 分
  • Am I the a**hole for asking a question during a psychology presentation in school?
    2025/07/09

    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

    In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for asking a question during a psychology presentation in school?"


    Dan and Gayle mentioned a number of things throughout the episode, here they are:

    --Here's a study about building credibility by saying "I don't know": https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4695262/

    --"sympathetic" with "surprise" (both starting with "s"), and "parasympathetic" with "picnic" (both restful activities)

    --William Ickes and Elliot Aronson (2003) Everyday Mind Reading: Understanding What Other People Think and Feel https://amzn.to/44i0doz

    --William Ickes and Jean Decety (2011) The Social Neuroscience of Empathy https://amzn.to/4nhgKlh

    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠


    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠

    ⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    31 分
  • Am I the a**hole for not giving up my checkout spot to a woman with fewer items?
    2025/07/02

    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

    In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for not giving up my checkout spot to a woman with fewer items?"

    Dan and Gayle mentioned a number of things throughout the episode, here they are:

    Territorial Defense in Parking Lots: Retaliation Against Waiting Drivers, Journal of Applied Social Psychology July 200627(9):821– 834 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/230133805_Territorial_Defense_in_Parking_Lots_Retaliation_Against_Waiting_Drivers

    Styx Song "Lady": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ea4pH5hpxHk

    Seinfeld "waiting in line" episodes, not 100%which Gayle meant, but here’s the best list we could come up with that feature “waiting in line” from Seinfeld:

    “The Apartment” (Season 2, Episode 5)

    “The Dinner Party” (Season 5, Episode 13)

    “The Chinese Restaurant” (Season 2, Episode 11)

    “The Sponge” (Season 7, Episode 9)

    “The Airport” (Season 4, Episode 12)

    “The Coat” (Season 5, Episode 12)

    “The Pie” (Season 5, Episode 15)

    “The Alternate Side” (Season 3, Episode 11)

    “The Soup Nazi” (Season 7, Episode 6)

    “The Statue” (Season 2, Episode 6)

    “The Airport” (Season 4, Episode 12)

    “The Dinner Party” (Season 5, Episode 13)

    “The Little Kicks” (Season 8, Episode 4)

    "The Wait Out" (Season 7, Episode 23)

    “The Strike” (Season 9, Episode 10 – Festivus!)

    “The Movie” (Season 4, Episode 14)

    "The Contest" (Season 4, Episode 11)

    "The Opposite" (Season 5, Episode 22)

    Bonus conversation: “A team of economists and medical experts at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York and Georgetown University combined Medicare records with data from Equifax, the credit bureau, to study how people’s borrowing behavior changed in the years before and after a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or a similar disorder”--https://www.newyorkfed.org/medialibrary/media/research/staff_reports/sr1106.pdf

    And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠


    Otherwise, our team can be found at:

    Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠

    ⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

    ⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


    Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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    32 分
  • Am I the a**hole for asking my wife to do her therapy homework during the time I am working and our child is at school? (with guest Dr. Shannon Goecke-Watson)
    2025/06/25
    This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!Today, they are joined by Dr. Shannon Goecke-Watson. Shannon Goecke-Watson, PsyD, LP owns SGW Psychological Services, an independent private practice located in Apple Valley, MN focused on treating the aftereffects of domestic violence through individual and group psychotherapies. Dr. Goecke-Watson obtained her Master’s Degree and Doctoral Degree in Counseling Psychology from Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota. Prior to entering the mental health field, Dr. Goecke-Watson worked as a domestic & sexual violence advocate at a local domestic violence shelter, where she went to court with individuals involved in legal cases, she facilitated support groups for adults and teens who had experienced domestic and sexual violence, she attended hospital exams with sexual assault survivors, and she joined survivors when they shared their trauma accounts at law enforcement offices. Aside from her clinical work, Dr. Goecke-Watson has presented more than 40 trainings on domestic violence and trauma to audiences including mental health professionals, lawyers, and shelter advocates. She also is an adjunct instructor for the People Incorporated Training Institute. Further, Dr. Goecke-Watson is actively engaged in the Minnesota Psychological Association Legislative Committee and she is the current Minnesota delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. You can find her online at: https://www.sgwpsych.com/aboutIn this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for asking my wife to do her therapy homework during the time I am working and our child is at school?"In this episode, they provided a long list of services related to domestic abuse, abuse survivors, and how to get help if you're in an abusive relationship. Here's that list:Wheel of PowerMN-Based:Day One in Minnesota (Shelter Hotline for the State) Phone: 1.866.223.1111 / Text: 612.399.9995Domestic Abuse Project (Counseling & Groups for Survivors & Perpetrators)MN Crime Victims Reimbursement ProgramSt. Paul & Ramsey County Intervention ProjectStandpoint: Phone: 612-343-9842 / Text: 612.743.7397Tubman: 612.825.3333MN Judicial Branch DV OFP FormsMid-MN Legal AidVolunteer Lawyers NetworkSouth MN Regional Legal ServicesLaw Help MNLegal Advice by CountyUS National-Based:National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone: 800.799.7233 / Text: “Start” to 88788National Resource Center on Domestic Violence Rape & Abuse Incest National Network: 800.656.4673Office on Violence Against WomenResources by StateInternational:National Domestic Abuse HelplineEuropean UnionAustraliaNew ZealandAnd if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Otherwise, our team can be found at:Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening and/or watching!
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    36 分