The True Source of Your Influence: How You See People Changes Everything

Would you help someone succeed if you knew they could become better than you?

In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, Charlie Harary and Rabbi Moshe Levy explore how our influence begins with the way we see other people. Developing an ayin tov means wanting someone else to have good, even when their success touches our own insecurities.

Through the stories of Noach, Moshe Rabbeinu, and Avraham Avinu, they explore how jealousy spreads, why good middos are essential to Torah learning, and how our past struggles can help us become more sensitive, generous people.

The conversation brings these ideas into everyday life: how we look at our spouse, the expectations we place on our children, the way we treat a business partner, and whether we’re willing to share the advice that could help someone outshine us. Rabbi Levi also explains why recognizing a flaw is a step forward—and how acting on that recognition can change the way we give.

Five key timestamps

00:00 — The power of influence and how jealousy affects others
07:49 — Noach, Moshe, and becoming a source of good for your generation
23:20 — Everyday ways to practice ayin tov through kindness, speech, and giving
36:28 — Seeing your family with a good eye and choosing ahavas chinam
58:52 — The real test: helping someone succeed beyond you

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What if working on your speech begins with changing how you see people?

00:00 — Why middos are the vessel for bracha
02:53 — The connection between lashon hara and seeing the good
26:46 — Recognizing your flaws without losing sight of your worth
1:03:28 — Yosef HaTzaddik: seeing good through betrayal and hardship
1:21:56 — What to do when you know the right thing but don’t feel it

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Incrementum Digital helps e-commerce businesses grow through advertising strategy and management across Amazon, Walmart, and TikTok Shop. Mention Dialing Bnei Brak for the episode’s advertised $500 discount. Learn more at incrementumdigital.com.

Financial Concierge LLC helps organize investments, bank accounts, properties, and everyday cash flow. They also support family and special needs trust administration and handle Medi-Cal billing for assisted living facilities. Learn more at financialconciergeca.com.

Explore courses based on Rabbi Levi’s teachings at kelil.org. Find the full Dialing Bnei Brak series on the Daily Boost podcast and TorahAnytime.

Building Your Own Beis Hamikdash: Seeing the Good in Yourself

What does it mean to make yourself a place for the Shechinah? In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, Charlie Harary and Rav Moshe Levy explore how developing an ayin tov toward yourself can build genuine self-worth, strengthen your relationships, and bring more simchah into your avodas Hashem.

Learn how to recognize your shortcomings without tearing yourself down, see your worth beyond achievement and approval, and give your spouse, children, and others the unconditional love that helps them grow.

In this episode:

1:38 — Learning to See the Good in Yourself
8:09 — Recognizing the Yetzer Hara During Spiritual Growth
23:20 — Building Your Own Beis Hamikdash: Making Room for the Shechinah Through Joy
33:44 — How Unconditional Love Builds True Self-Esteem
49:22 — Finding Your Worth in Your Neshamah

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What does it mean to feel good about yourself without needing to prove anything?

Charlie Harary and Rabbi Moshe Levi explore how to build true self-esteem through an ayin tov, a good eye toward yourself. They discuss why recognizing your flaws can be encouraging, how guilt can get in the way of growth, and what unconditional love teaches us about our worth.

In this episode:

02:10 — A good eye toward yourself: Recognizing your strengths without becoming arrogant.

06:18 — You were born enough: Finding your worth in your neshamah rather than society’s expectations.

13:18 — Seeing failure as information: What great athletes and companies can teach us about spiritual growth.

21:12 — Can you really let the guilt go? Taking responsibility, doing teshuvah, and moving forward.

34:03 — Unconditional love and true self-esteem: How the love we give shapes our children, spouses, and ourselves.

You spent a month praying for bracha. Now you’re back home, tired, overwhelmed, and frustrated with your spouse.

What happens next matters.

The way you speak to each other, the good you choose to notice, and the time you make to connect are part of bringing that bracha into your home.

In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, we explore marriage, unconditional love, and the holiness of everyday kindness.

Listen to the full episode at kelil.org.