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THE WORK
Follow The Energy

“I can feel you before I can hear you.”
—Unknown
“Your energy introduces you before you even speak.”
—Unknown

• One thing I plan to do this year to increase my physical
energy is:
• I’ve noticed lately I have negative energy, and one way
I can get back on the beam is:
• Your Mason jar is full to the brim with water. How do
you plan to spend it today?
• What are some ways you can get off the beam as you
transition from activity to activity?
• How do you want your energy to be when you show
up today?
• How do you plan to get that energy and keep it?
• What are some solutions to get you back on the beam?

• Think about a friendship that is causing you some
friction - ask yourself how do you feel before, after and
during being around them?
• Are those feelings and emotions ones you desire in a
friendship?
• What emotions and feelings do you desire in a
friendship?
• Do you have a Sunshine Lollipop friendship?
• If you answered no, what would a Sunshine Lollipop
friendship feel like, look like?
• What ways can you protect your energy when you are
around people with conflicting energies?
• What relative or relationship drains your energy and
why?
• How can you protect your energy in that relationship?
• Write all the ways being sensitive to other people’s
energies can help you win at your ONE.Life:

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THE WORK
Follow Work-Life Alignment

• The best day of my life is:
• I know this is the best day of my life because:
• The core values I plan to review in my life are:
• The evidence I found of these values in my life are:
• One thing I know could get me off the beam and burn
  me out is:
• When I show up at work, I want to show up like:
• When I show up at home, I want to show up like:
• I am bringing my energy for these people right now:
• I define alignment as:
• For me alignment looks like:
• For me alignment feels like:
• One change I plan to make after reading this chapter
  is:

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THE WORK
Follow Family

“Family is not an important thing, it’s everything.”
—Michael J. Fox

o What are your family’s values?
Be sure to place them somewhere in the home
everyone can see.
o Set a date for you and your partner to go over the
division of labor in your home. Be sure to set a few
hours, and let it be flexible at first.
o Set a weekly family meeting time and day - Sunday
6pm is good for us. Discuss the upcoming week
together. Ask what everyone has going on and who
needs extra help this week.
o Set a time weekly with your partner to discuss the
week. We like walk and talks, where we discuss how
we can help each other, our current workload, and any
travel.
o Divide chores up between kids that are age-
appropriate. You would be so surprised if you Google
age-appropriate chores. Our kids are so much more
capable than we allow them to be.

Our kids set a timer for thirty minutes and like to tackle their chores
together. If this doesn’t work, assign them
individually.

o We will discuss with kids on (date and time)

Remember: slow and steady wins the race. Changes take
time. Implement one at a time until you feel confident to move
on to the next one.

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THE WORK
Follow Start Before You Are Ready

• The three thought errors I keep having right now are:
• Three thought resets to those thoughts are:
• I define perfectionism as:
• I see my perfectionism is holding me back in these 3
  areas:
• I can see I am procrastinating in these 3 areas:
• One area I plan to focus on for the next year is:
• The one thing I plan to Start Before I am Ready is:
• The first step I will take to start that one thing is:
• I will begin the one thing ___________________date, time
• List three times you have done something someone
  suggested without questioning it.
• What will you do next time and why?
• Next time someone metaphorically tells you to go
  home, what will you do?

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THE WORK
Follow Winning or Learning

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.”
—Henry Ford

• Think of a time you felt like you failed:

How could you thought reset that so-called failure into
a win?

• How do you define winning?
• How do you define learning?
• My messy middle is:
  Describe the things you will learn from your messy
  middle:
• My favorite way I want my messy middle to conclude
  is:
• At the conclusion of my messy middle, I want to feel:
• I plan to show up for my messy middle like:
• What would my life coach tell me today about my
  messy middle?
• My “To Be Continued” is:
• If I did know how my “To Be Continued” would end, it
  would be:

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THE WORK
Follow Boundary Blessings

“Sometimes the most loving thing you can say is no.”
—Melody Beattie

• Check your texts, what patterns do you see?
• How could you honor your boundaries in responding
  to requests for your time?
• List 3 responses or ways you will share your
  boundaries:
• List 5 bylaws for your life, based on your values:
• Write down a response that you fear hearing when
  you share your boundary.
• Create a script for how you plan to respond when you
  feel your boundaries are being disrespected.
• What conversation am I avoiding that will result in a
  boundary blowup, if not handled soon?
• Who could I role-play this through with, before I have
  the conversation?
• If I were writing a script about this, what would I say?
• What’s one step I could take today to move toward
  sharing my boundaries?
• List 3 things that would stop you from sharing your
  boundary.
• List one boundary sharing that would change your
  entire life.
• List the boundary blessings that could come with this.
• Set a date and time to share a boundary.

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THE WORK
Follow Your Inner Knowing

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out
your own inner voice.”
—Steve Jobs

What quiet nudge inside you needs to be a ROAR?

• What could you do to make your eight-year-old and eighty-year-old self proud?
• What areas of your life do you need to tell your eight-
  year-old inner child to sit down and that you’ve got
  this?
• The Power of the Post-it: What goals can you write like
  they’re already done and put on a Post-it to keep in
  plain sight? What do they say?
• What do you need to UnFollow in spite of people, not
  to spite people?
• Whose disapproval scares you the most?
• What does your favorite version of you say to your
  parents?
• What does your favorite version of your life sound
  like?
• Write your intentions around this work.
  Example: Intention—I am willing to sit in the
  uncomfortable process to UnFollow in order to get
  comfortable with my inner knowing.

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THE WORK
Follow the Path to an EMPOWERED.Life

UnFollow the path to Martyrdom Mountain and head back
down to an island I like to call an EMPOWERED.Life.

• A Mum And... means: who are you when you are not
  being a Mum. Who are you?
• What decision have you made, knowing accolades
  will come from others?
• How do you define success?
• On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you?
• What is one thing you could do that would grade you
  higher on the happy scale?
• List all the challenging things that have happened to
  you in your ONE.Life and how they are keeping you
  on up on Martyrdom Mountain.
• Pick one thing that you will work on this year to help
  you walk back down the mountain to an
  EMPOWERED.Life.
• List questions that get you excited about your life.

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