✨ You’re not selfish for putting yourself first. You’re just tired of disappearing so others can stay comfortable.

In this soft but powerful episode, Caitlin Gil-Soto walks you through how to stop emotionally abandoning yourself and start building a life where you count too.

🔹 What We Explore:

Segment 1 — The Cost of Abandoning Yourself
We talk about how many of us were raised in survival mode and learned to feel guilty for having needs.
📝 Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt like caring for yourself made you weak?

Segment 2 — Your Inner Child & Reparenting
We explore how that younger version of you still runs the show… and how to create safety from within.
📝 Journal Prompt: As a child, what version of yourself did you hide in order to be loved?

Segment 3 — People Pleasing in Dominican Homes
Cultural truths: how Dominican and immigrant households shape guilt and boundaries.
📝 Journal Prompt: What emotional role were you given as a child that no longer belongs to you?

Segment 4 — Saying No Without Guilt
Caitlin shares a real story about saying “no” to family — and how it brought freedom.
📝 Journal Prompt: Where do you keep saying yes out of habit, even though you know it should be a no?

Segment 5 — Self-Talk & Speaking Life
What you repeat, you believe. We talk about self-sabotage and shifting your inner dialogue.
📝 Journal Prompt: What lie about yourself have you been repeating for years without realizing?

Segment 6 — Rest, Faith & Receiving
Rest is also faith. We unpack how trusting God means releasing the hustle.
📝 Journal Prompt: What form of rest do you need to reclaim without guilt?

Segment 7 — Manifestation, Abundance & the Subconscious
Inspired by Florence Scovel Shinn, we explore breaking inherited scarcity and speaking from faith.
📝 Journal Prompt: What belief about money, love, or success did you inherit that no longer serves you?

Final Prayer — Dominican Style
A guided prayer to say together — letting go of fear and returning to God’s peace.

💬 Episode Affirmation:
“I speak life over my body, my mind, and my spirit. I feel safe choosing myself.”

🔗 Resources:
🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube
🛒 Grab your healing journal on Amazon - search Caitlin Gil-Soto
📲 Connect on IG: @caitlinlajefaa + @unfilandunapologeticpod and TikTok @caitlajefa

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✨ No eres egoísta por ponerte primero. Solo estás cansadx de desaparecer para que otrxs estén cómodxs.

En este episodio poderoso y suave, Caitlin Gil-Soto te acompaña a explorar cómo dejar de abandonarte emocionalmente y cómo comenzar a construir una vida donde tú también cuentas.

🔹 Lo Que Exploramos:
Segmento 1 — El Costo de Abandonarte
Hablamos de cómo fuimos criadxs en modo sobrevivencia y aprendimos a sentir culpa por tener necesidades.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Cuándo fue la primera vez que sentiste que cuidar de ti mismx era egoísta o incorrecto?

Segmento 2 — Tu Niñx Interior y Cuidarte
Exploramos cómo esa parte de ti sigue guiando tus reacciones… y cómo crear seguridad desde dentro.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Desde pequeño, qué versión de ti aprendiste a esconder pa’ que te quisieran?

Segmento 3 — Complacer en Hogares Dominicanos
Verdades culturales: cómo la crianza dominicana o inmigrante forma la culpa y los límites.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Qué carga emocional te metieron desde pequeñx que ya no es tuyo?

Segmento 4 — Decir Que No Sin Culpa
Caitlin comparte una historia real sobre decirle “no” a la familia… y cómo eso trajo libertad.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Dónde sigues diciendo “sí” por costumbre aunque sabes que necesitas decir “no”?

Segmento 5 — Tu Voz Interna y Hablar Vida
Lo que repites, lo crees. Aquí hablamos de autosabotaje y cómo cambiar tu diálogo interno.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Qué mentira sobre ti has estado repitiendo por años sin darte cuenta?

Segmento 6 — Descanso, Fe y Recibir
El descanso también es fe. Aprendemos cómo confiar en Dios implica soltar el corre-corre.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Qué forma de descanso necesitas recuperar sin culpa?

Segmento 7 — Manifestación, Abundancia y el Subconsciente
Inspiradxs por Florence Scovel Shinn, hablamos de romper la escasez heredada y hablar desde la fe.
📝 Pregunta de diario: ¿Qué creencia heredada sobre el dinero, el amor o el éxito ya no tiene lugar en tu vida?

Oración Final — Estilo Dominicano
Una oración guiada para decir juntos, soltando el miedo y recuperando la paz con Dios.

💬 Afirmación del Episodio:

“Hablo vida sobre mi cuerpo, mi mente y mi espíritu. Estoy segurx eligiéndome a mí mismx.”

🔗 Recursos:

• 🎧 Escúchalo en Spotify, Apple Podcasts y YouTube
• 🛒 Compra tu diario en blanco en Amazon
• 📲 Sigue a en IG: @caitlinlajefaa y @unfilandunapologeticpod y en tiktok @Caitlajefa
  
  
  

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🌀 This episode is not about blaming our parents — it’s about honoring our truth and recognizing the emotional wounds that shaped us. From generational trauma to emotional absence, we explore how these patterns impact our identity, our faith, and our capacity to receive love.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

✅ What the mother wound and father wound actually are

✅ How these wounds are passed down through Dominican, Afro-Caribbean, and immigrant homes

✅ How they show up in adulthood: in relationships, decisions, self-worth, and boundaries

✅ Why they block abundance and distort your relationship with peace, rest, and joy

✅ How trauma lives in the body — not just the mind

✅ What healing looks like: nervous system work, reparenting, spiritual reconnection

✅ How these wounds manifest differently in women and men

✅ Affirmations, journal prompts, and a Dominican-style prayer to support your healing

📝 Journal Prompts in This Episode

• What version of love did I grow up with? Was it safe, conditional, or silent?
• What emotions or parts of me were silenced in order to be accepted?
• What part of me still believes I have to suffer to be worthy of love or joy?
• How does my body react when I feel emotionally unsafe?
• What version of strength did I inherit, and what version do I want to embody now?

🌿 Affirmations to Remember

✨ My truth is sacred — I can honor my parents and still honor my pain.
✨ It is safe for me to feel. I no longer have to earn love through silence or shame.
✨ My body is not broken — it’s the keeper of everything I survived.
✨ I release struggle as my identity. Peace and abundance are my inheritance.
✨ My strength is sacred, but so is my softness. I give myself permission to be both.

🙏🏽 Dominican-Style Prayer for Inner Healing

Lord, I surrender the wounds I inherited but never asked for. I give you the harshness, the silence, the absence, and the pressure. I no longer want to carry what was never mine. Teach me how to love without repeating pain. Make me mother, father, friend, and guardian to my inner child. Remind me that I belong to You. And in You, everything I lacked becomes abundance. Amen.

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