Most of us want a better world for our kids.

Better health.
Better marriages.
A stronger relationship with God.
More confidence.
More resilience.
More opportunity.

But eventually we have to confront the harder question:

What are they inheriting from us?

Because the patterns we refuse to confront don’t disappear.

We hand them down.

This week, I’m bringing you some of the moments that hit me hardest from the PATRIARCH Summit.

Ryan Michler on masculinity—and why strength, aggression and our capacity for violence aren’t inherently toxic. What matters is what a good man learns to do with them.

Pat Barber on raising antifragile kids—preparing your children for the road instead of spending your life trying to prepare the road for them.

Nate Feathers on the Words of the Father—and what happened when he watched his little girl begin to embody the words he had been speaking over her since she was a baby.

And I close with part of my own talk on The Miserable Marriage Myth—the stories we inherited about marriage, sex, intimacy and what supposedly happens after the kids arrive.

Because these are all connected.

The man you become creates the environment your children grow up inside.

Your marriage tells them a story.

Your words tell them a story.

Your strength tells them a story.

Your faith tells them a story.

The things you heal—and the things you refuse to—tell them a story.

Your kids will inherit what you refuse to change.

So go first.

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We’re not gathering to sit around and talk about becoming better men.

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Intensity. Presence. Brotherhood. Marriage. Fatherhood. Faith. Leadership.

Get out of the noise. Train the man. Go home different.

KIVA isn’t an escape from your responsibilities. It’s a return to them.

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You already have what you need.

More information isn’t going to save your marriage.

Another book isn’t going to lead your family.

Another sermon isn’t going to disciple your children.

Another prayer for courage isn’t going to matter if you refuse the opportunity to be courageous.

Faith has hands and feet.

The way you lead. The way you love your wife. The way you raise your children. The risks you take. The truth you speak. The things you obey even when you look like a fool.

You have been given something to do with what you believe.

Gabriel Mira calls men back to their God-given identity, power and authority—and the responsibility to actually walk in it.

Stop waiting beside the pool.

Pick up your mat and walk.

Gabe is bringing WEAR THE RING // The Power Within You. The Authority Upon You. to PATRIARCH Saturday.

PATRIARCH // September 11–13

9 men.
3 days.
1 mission.

Reviving fatherhood, family & moral leadership.

Final day to enter.

ENTER PATRIARCH

Most men know how to push.

Work harder. Train harder. Provide more. Endure more.

But strength without sensitivity is a blunt instrument.

Can you be still when stillness is required?

Can you open your heart when everything in you wants to close it?

Can you look another man in the eyes and tell him the truth?

Can you have the conversation you've been avoiding?

And when the moment demands everything you've got—

can you access the animal too?

Mike Salemi calls this ZEN SAVAGE.

The capacity to be grounded, still, present and heart-open while retaining access to your savagery—and developing the sensitivity to know what the moment actually requires of you. That's how Mike describes the integration: expand your range at both ends, then learn to meet the moment appropriately.

And sometimes growth doesn't require becoming 100% more powerful.

Sometimes it's holding eye contact.

Speaking the truth.

Entering the difficult conversation.

Refusing to remain passive.

Sometimes it's bringing 1% more of yourself into the moment.

Mike is bringing ZEN SAVAGE // The Art of Invoking Aliveness to PATRIARCH Sunday.

And you won't simply hear about it.

You'll practice it.

PATRIARCH // September 11–13

9 men.
3 days.
1 mission.

Reviving fatherhood, family & moral leadership.

General Admission // $17
VIP // $47 + lifetime recordings & giveaways

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