In this powerful episode of Simply Satisfied, host Greg sits down with psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the raw and real dynamics of long-term relationships. With decades of clinical experience, Dr. Chalmer shares the tools, frameworks, and mindset shifts that help couples rebuild trust, move through betrayal, and grow deeper emotional intimacy—even in the face of serious challenges.

Central to this conversation is what Dr. Chalmer calls the ‘Oh S**t’ moment—a turning point when a couple either faces the truth or avoids it—and how navigating that moment with courage can transform a relationship. You’ll also hear about his seven-word philosophy: “Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith”—and why that simple sentence holds profound wisdom for healing, forgiveness, and personal growth.

🎧 In this episode, we cover:

• How to rebuild trust after infidelity or betrayal

• Why forgiveness isn’t about forgetting—and how his 3-step process works

• The difference between kindness and niceness in love

• The hidden power of the willingness to displease your partner

• What makes arguments healthy (and what makes them toxic)

• The chief skill of intimacy and how to cultivate it

• The role of faith, change, and discomfort in meaningful relationships

• Why therapy isn’t just about fixing people—but helping them reconnect with what they truly want

Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or want to understand what makes love last, this episode is packed with deep insights, practical advice, and a refreshing blend of psychology and real talk.

Connect with Bruce -

Website: https://brucechalmer.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/brucechalmer

Connect with Greg -

My Socials: https://beacons.ai/gdfc

Email the show: simplysatisfied0@gmail.com

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:39 Common Issues in Relationships

02:25 Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

04:35 The Concept of Forgiveness

06:17 The Three-Step Forgiveness Process

12:09 Trust and Communication in Relationships

17:35 The Importance of Arguing Properly

25:38 The Seven Words Philosophy

30:21 The Importance of Recognizing Change in Relationships

30:34 Understanding and Acquiring Faith

32:03 The Role of Teachers and Unexpected Sources of Faith

33:35 The Difference Between Kindness and Niceness

34:12 The Willingness to Displease Your Partner

35:24 Knowing What You Truly Want in a Relationship

36:36 Stability and Intimacy in Relationships

39:11 The Chief Skill of Intimacy

42:54 The Therapist's Role in Couples Therapy

46:14 Evaluating Success in Couples Therapy

51:33 The 'Oh Shit' Moment in Therapy

57:29 Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts