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  • EP319: Getting to the Root of What Holds You Back

    EP319: Getting to the Root of What Holds You Back
    2026/11/05
    I've spent a good part of this year battling Jimson weed in my chicken run. It's a toxic plant, and no matter how many times I dug it up, it seemed to come right back. I think I've removed it at least eight times this year. Recently, I asked a master gardener what I could do to keep it from returning next spring. He explained that even though Jimson weed is an annual, it can leave behind seeds that grow the following year. That got me thinking about the things in our own lives that we believe we've dealt with, only to have them show up again when we least expect them. For me, overcommitting is one of those things. I've said yes to all kinds of opportunities over the years, and for the most part, I'm glad I did. But I'm at a point where I'd really like to spend more time at home and see what opportunities I might find closer to where I live. It's hard to do that when I'm always traveling or have something else on my calendar. I've started being more careful about what I agree to. Sometimes I'll tell someone I need a few days to think about it. Other times, I'll just say no and leave myself the option of changing my mind later. I'm curious to see what happens if I stick with this for the next year or two. On today's Wise Walk, we're talking about how some of our old habits and beliefs can stick around, even when we think we've moved past them. I've been thinking about this quite a bit as I try to get my overcommitting under control. There are also those mistakes we find ourselves making more than once, especially when life gets stressful. I'd like to get better at recognizing and dealing with concerns before they become a problem again. After all, I'd much rather spend next year trying something new than dealing with the same old weeds. What is an issue or limiting belief rooted in you that you don't want to see regrow next year?What goals are you working toward, and how can you eliminate old habits or distractions that might keep you from achieving them?What limiting beliefs or relationships are you holding on to that no longer serve you, and how can you get to the root of why you're holding on to them?How can you prevent old habits, beliefs, or patterns from resurfacing when life becomes stressful?When you make a mistake, how can you recognize whether it's a new issue or an old pattern resurfacing?If it's an old mistake, how can you dig deeper to understand its roots and prevent yourself from repeating it?If it's a new mistake, how can you learn from the experience and use those lessons to nourish other areas of your life?How can you become the master gardener of your own life, clearing out what no longer serves you and making room for new growth? We can learn from our past mistakes, clear out old patterns, and make room for new growth. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode, so please feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next week's Wise Walk, where we'll have another conversation and self-reflection questions. Be sure to tune in and prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [04:07] The entire life cycle of an annual happens in one season. Perennials live two or more years. The root survives and re-sprouts in the spring. [05:25] Annuals come back when they drop seeds before they die. In life we have to manage annuals and perennials that drop seeds before they die. We want growth and have areas in our lives to constantly work on.[06:07] This is a great time to weed out the toxic growth in our lives.[07:01] I want to save space to get grounded and not overcommit. I've been working on thinking before I say yes.[09:02] I'm making people aware of my priorities in this season of my life.[11:52] Sometimes we think we've gotten to the root of a limiting belief, but then it crops back up, because it was just dormant. [12:39] We can have deep beliefs that we don't notice when life is going great.[14:11] We can take all of these lessons and use them for good.[17:04] I've decided to treat the Jimson weed with Dawn soap, vinegar, and water. I want to manage any dropped seeds before the first frost. Memorable Quotes: "When we can address old mistakes on repeat, then we have a clear garden, a clean area for us to plant new dreams, plant new goals." - Mary Tess "Mistakes aren't failures. We grow from failure, and there's something wonderful about finally addressing the mistakes we've been repeating" - Mary Tess "Sometimes we think we've gotten to the root of a limiting belief, but we've really just allowed it to go dormant until something triggers it again." - Mary Tess "I want to create space for myself to feel grounded at home and allow new relationships and local opportunities to take root in my life." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess RooneyEmailHeart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
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    19 分
  • EP318: Making 2027 a Year of Learning and Giving

    EP318: Making 2027 a Year of Learning and Giving
    2026/10/29
    As the year starts winding down, I've been thinking about what I'd like to learn in 2027. A recent gathering of my local lady homesteaders gave me a new way to approach this. We meet each month to share skills, from saving seeds to making things from scratch. But at our last meeting, instead of having someone teach a particular topic, we each shared something that we'd like to learn and something we could teach. I hosted the gathering, and I loved hearing how everyone's interests and experiences fit together. I'm especially interested in freeze drying. I've learned to can. I've done some dehydrating, and with my garden plans for next year, I'd like to get better at preserving what I grow. As it turns out, one of the women in our group already knows all about freeze drying and offered to teach us. I've had a similar experience with pickleball. Taking a class has helped me learn the rules and correct some bad habits I didn't even realize I was developing. When we talked about what we could teach, I offered to share some of the self-care practices that I've learned over the years. On today's Wise Walk, we're exploring how we can make learning and sharing part of our goals for 2027. We'll talk about finding people who can help us develop new skills, whether that's through a class, a community group, a book, or someone we already know. We'll also look at the things we're good at and how we might pass along some of that knowledge to others. I think there's something really nice about approaching the new year this way. Especially when we realize that we don't have to figure everything out on our own. There's a lot we can learn from each other, and I'm excited to see where that takes us. As you think about your goals for 2027, what area of your life would you like to grow in?What is something new you'd like to learn?How could you acquire that skill, knowledge, experience, or awareness?What is something you feel confident enough to teach others?What skills, knowledge, or processes do people regularly ask you to help them with?How could you be more proactive about sharing what you know?How could you be more intentional about learning something new?What areas of learning and teaching come to mind for you?Are there groups you could join to help you learn something new?What communities have knowledge, skills, or experience that you could benefit from?Is there someone you could hire to help you develop a new skill?Would investing in an instructor help you develop good habits and quickly learn from mistakes?What specific skill or area of knowledge would you like to focus on in the coming year?What communities could support you in reaching your learning goals?Who could help you learn something in a more efficient and effective way?Is there something you'd like to learn that relates to your career?Could you shadow someone or ask for guidance in an area where you'd like to improve?Is there something you'd like to learn that relates to your family?Is there a family recipe you'd like to learn, and who could help you master it?Are there family stories you'd like to learn and preserve for future generations?What skills, abilities, passions, or interests do you feel knowledgeable enough to share?What do other people consistently ask you for help with?What are you the go-to person for?How could you share your experience with others so they don't have to learn everything the hard way?How could you help someone develop good habits from the beginning?What could you teach a beginner in an hour that would help them get started?How could you be more vocal about the knowledge and expertise you have to offer?Where could you look for opportunities to share your skills with people who would appreciate them?How could you reach out to others and find people who are interested in learning from you?How can you make room in 2027 for both learning new skills and sharing what you already know? I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. So please feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next week's Wise Walk. We're going to have another conversation and self-reflection questions. Be sure to tune in. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [04:49] When it comes to something I want to learn and something that I want to teach. I'm all about learning food preservation and freeze drying. [07:04] I love that I'm being offered these opportunities to learn. [08:43] When it comes to learning at this time, it is so much easier to research. [10:51] I'm learning so much about pickleball in a community class, plus the group of people are at my skill level. [12:53] You can design your goals for 2027 as a personal challenge. [13:46] I'm also taking an online class about teaching different meditation styles.[15:36] Set a timebound deadline for your goals.[16:04] I would be happy to teach self-care techniques that can nurture the ...
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    24 分
  • EP317: Fall Release, Winter Rest: Lessons from Nature

    EP317: Fall Release, Winter Rest: Lessons from Nature
    2026/10/22
    I love the change of seasons, especially when fall starts giving us those first chilly mornings. After months of being outside, making plans, and staying busy, I'm usually ready to slow things down. I notice it when I take the dogs out and can't wait to get back inside where it's warm. Spring and summer have always been my more active seasons, and I enjoy everything that comes with them. But I don't necessarily want to keep that same pace all year. When I look around at what's happening in nature, I see plenty of examples of why it's okay to do things differently as the seasons change. This fall, I've decided that I'm not signing up for anything new. I started taking clogging lessons over the summer, and I'm enjoying those, so I'll keep going. But when a beekeeping course caught my attention, I had to remind myself that I don't need to explore every interest right now. I've also decided to take a break from having guests for a little while. I've had some wonderful visitors over the spring and summer, but I don't need to keep filling up my calendar. That's not always easy for me because I love learning new things and having new experiences. But I'm realizing there's a lot to enjoy about what I'm already doing, and I don't want to be so busy that I miss that. On today's Wise Walk, we're taking some lessons from nature as we move through fall and get ready for winter. I've been thinking about trees and how they pull nutrients back into their trunks before dropping their leaves. I love the idea that we can do something similar with the experiences we've had. We can hold on to what was good about them without continuing to give them so much of our time and energy. And when winter comes, maybe we can learn something from bears that hibernate or seeds that need a cold season before they sprout. Even bees have their own way of getting through winter by gathering together. So I'm curious, what are you ready to release this fall? And when you think about resting this winter, what would that actually look like for you? Maybe it's spending more time alone, or maybe it's being with the people who make you feel good. I know I'm looking forward to having a little less on my calendar and seeing how that feels. How do you show up in each of the four seasons, and what lessons do you take from nature?What do you tend to do or avoid during spring, summer, fall, and winter?As we move through fall and prepare for winter, what lessons from nature can you apply to your own life?Where in your life can you follow the example of a tree by holding on to what nourishes you while letting go of what no longer serves you?Which activities, experiences, or relationships are you ready to release while holding on to the goodness you've gained from them?What are you ready to release this fall to prepare for winter?What type of rest do you need during the winter season?How can you embrace the stillness and slower pace of winter to restore and replenish your energy?Where in your life do you need a period of rest, much like a seed, before you're ready to emerge and bloom again?How is your need for rest similar to soil needing time to recover and replenish its nutrients?What can you learn from the way soil naturally restores itself, and how can you apply those lessons to your own life? I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode, and learn about your examples of what you're doing during this fall and this winter. I'm super excited for all of us, and I look forward to continuing our Wise Walks each and every week. Be sure to tune in to next Thursday for another episode, and be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path and get your Stride On. In this episode: [02:16] Spring and summer are my most active seasons. We see this in nature too. We get cues from nature.[03:29] Fall is about releasing and slowing down, and preparing for the winter.[04:29] The changing season is a great reminder to go inward for the fall and release whatever isn't serving us. [05:16] The tree is a great example of what we should do for the fall. Trees take nutrients inward before they release their leaves. [07:56] I'm not signing up for anything new right now. I'm just going to embrace what is already in my routine.[09:08] I'm also releasing any new guests for a while. I'm taking an example from bears and hibernating for awhile. [11:02] I've learned that in nature, many seeds need a cold period before they can sprout.[13:27] Soil also needs a period of rest. We also need that period of rest.[15:12] We all recharge and recover differently. Just like the bees rally around the queen to survive the winter. Memorable Quotes: "Rest is not about a break from growth. We're not giving up on growing. We too need rest so we can emerge and bloom again." - Mary Tess "We can appreciate all the goodness we've gained from our experiences and hold on to it as we slow down and prepare to rest. " - Mary Tess "We don't have to get drawn into ...
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    18 分
  • EP316: When Staying the Course Changes Everything

    EP316: When Staying the Course Changes Everything
    2026/10/15
    It's hard to believe that this month marks six years since we launched this podcast. When I started True Stride, I was focused on what I could bring to each episode. I wanted our Wise Walks to be useful, and I put quite a bit of pressure on myself to make sure there was something worthwhile in every conversation. What I didn't think about was how showing up every week might change me. Now I catch myself paying more attention to feelings I might once have brushed aside. I notice the pauses when someone is talking, and I'm more likely to ask another question instead of rushing in with an answer. Some of the changes haven't been quite so easy. I spent a lot of time early on thinking about downloads, social media, and whether I was doing enough to make this podcast successful. I even wondered about quitting during a stretch when I wasn't hearing much from listeners. I had to ask myself whether I was still enjoying these conversations and whether they mattered to me, even without the feedback. That helped me recognize how much of my old corporate definition of success I was still carrying around. I've become more comfortable letting go of those expectations and allowing these conversations to be whatever they need to be. On today's Wise Walk, we're reflecting on the things we've stayed with long enough to notice a change in ourselves. It could be a relationship, a career path, a hobby, or something we started without any idea where it might lead. We're considering what we've learned, what we've given up along the way, and how our reasons for continuing may have changed. Six years later, I still look forward to showing up for our weekly conversations, and I'm grateful for how much they've taught me. I hope you'll take some time to appreciate the ways your own commitments have helped you grow, too. What is something in your life you've stuck with long enough for it to change you, whether it's a career, hobby, interest, or relationship?How have you changed since you first started, and what do those changes feel like to you?In what ways have those changes supported you over the years, and what might you do differently if you could start over?Have you noticed any changes in how you process everyday challenges or emotions?Are you more curious about your feelings and better able to lean into your heart rather than relying solely on logic?How has connecting your heart and head changed the way you navigate life's ups and downs?How has sticking with something helped you follow your heart and make a positive impact on yourself or others?What do you appreciate most about how you've grown and evolved over the years?What have you had to give up in other areas of your life to stay committed to something, and has it been worth it?Have you ever considered quitting, and what kept you going?How has your definition of success changed since you first started?Does what you're doing still align with your personal definition of success?When you experience doubt, worry, or insecurity, how can you use what you've learned to encourage yourself to keep going?How can you appreciate the changes you've experienced and the sacrifices you've made along the way?What keeps you going when you feel like giving up, and does that commitment still resonate with you?If something has changed you for the better but no longer feels aligned, might it be time to let it go?What would moving on from that experience look like for you? I still have so much to learn about myself, and I love our weekly Wise Walks and how they've enriched my life and our conversations. I want to keep getting better at defining success on my terms and continue striding forward. I'd love to hear what you took away from today's episode, so please feel free to reach out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being on this journey with me and helping me become a better human for myself and others. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. In this episode: [01:59] When I first started this podcast, I never imagined it would last six years. I wasn't thinking about the different ways it would change me or you. [03:10] I never realized how the weekly check-ins would change my own ability to assess my choices. I also listen differently now.[04:11] I didn't realize how this process of dropping into my heart would fundamentally change my ability to consider options.[05:25] It's pretty cool to realize how much this practice has changed how I show up for myself and others.[07:33] I initially thought every episode had to have a huge meaningful impact, but I realized it's real down-to-earth life conversations that matter.[08:37] I don't have to try overly hard to impress you with impact and thoughtfulness. I just share real life examples and explore the shifts.[09:45] When we get real about where we are and what's going on, it almost gives others permission to do the same.[10:06] I've also become much more comfortable with being vulnerable.[12:10] You listeners are my people. Where...
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    23 分
  • EP315: When Helping Opens Unexpected Doors

    EP315: When Helping Opens Unexpected Doors
    2026/10/08
    Early in my sales career, I found myself teaching sales new hires (who were struggling to get up to speed) about our products, services, and systems. I'm a teacher and healer at heart, so helping them came naturally, even though the time I spent supporting them was time away from earning commission. What I couldn't see then was that making those small deposits would eventually lead me into sales training and open up an entirely new direction in my career. That experience has stayed with me because we don't always know what will come from simply sharing what we have to offer. Sometimes it's our knowledge, our time, or one of those natural gifts that can make a real difference for someone else. Following our heart and being of service can create opportunities we never expected, but it's also important to notice when giving starts to feel one-sided. We can make deposits in others while still communicating what we need and allowing them to make deposits in us. On today's Wise Walk, we're slowing down to notice that ebb and flow in our own lives. We're looking at what it means to see a need, offer what feels aligned, and stay open to receiving support when we need it too. When that exchange comes from the heart, we have a chance to strengthen our relationships, appreciate what each of us brings to the table, and create a little more connection along the way. Can you reflect on a time when you saw a need that wasn't technically your responsibility, but you chose to step in and help anyway?What did you receive in return from that experience, whether it was satisfaction, appreciation, an opportunity, or something unexpected?Where in your life have you experienced that ebb and flow of making deposits in others and eventually receiving support in return?What needs do you have in your life right now, and are you communicating them clearly enough for someone else to recognize where they can help?Are you willing to receive help with gratitude when someone feels called to make a deposit for you?Where do you see opportunities to make deposits in your neighbors, your team, your community, or the people around you?How can you make sure the time, energy, and natural gifts you contribute are seen and appreciated?When someone has made a meaningful deposit in you, how can you look for the right opportunity to return that support in a way that feels meaningful to them? Wherever you are in life, I'd love to hear how you're following your heart, noticing where you can be of service, and making sure your contributions are valued. When we stay open to both giving and receiving those deposits, it creates a beautiful flow. Feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk, so be sure to tune in for another episode. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [06:42] One of the things I love about that experience is that seeing the need for new hires prompted me to get into sales training and teaching.[08:08] I began helping new hires and it turned into an entire career. I even trained people in Paris, Frankfurt, and England.[09:28] This experience reminded me of how important it is for all of us to follow our hearts. We don't know until we try and see what magical doors the universe is opening up for us. [10:39] If we are able to see a need and share our natural born talents, we just won't know where the universe takes us.[11:09] The more we invest in those around us, the stronger those energetic exchanges are. [15:24] Living in the country, sometimes we need to depend on our neighbors and call on someone when we have a need. We also need to be open to opportunities where we can be of service.[16:08] Growing together as a community is a beautiful gift that we can give to each other. Memorable Quotes: "Until we try, we really don't know. Sometimes the universe has a magical way of opening doors for us." - Mary Tess "The more that we invest in each other and ourselves, these energetic exchanges just happen more naturally." - Mary Tess "When you see a need and feel called, listen, be aware, and decide if it feels right for you to be of service." - Mary Tess "We can grow together as a community and have this natural energy exchange that comes from the heart." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess RooneyEmailHeart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
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    18 分
  • EP314: How to Stop Rushing Through Your Life

    EP314: How to Stop Rushing Through Your Life
    2026/10/01
    I have a wonderful chiropractor who always has availability when I unexpectedly hurt my back. He makes time for his patients and emergency appointments when they are in critical need, and I loved this idea of how he honors time. He intentionally leaves space in his schedule for the unexpected, which means he doesn't have to rush through the patients who are already there. He can give them his full attention while still having room for someone who suddenly needs his help. It made me think about how often we do the exact opposite in our own lives. We fill every open space, try to squeeze in one more thing, and sometimes leave ourselves almost no room for anything to go differently than planned. Then traffic happens, something takes longer than expected, or we simply get behind, and suddenly we're rushing. We feel that pressure to catch up, be on time, and avoid disappointing someone else. I know for me, being late can bring up all kinds of uncomfortable feelings, even when what caused the delay was completely out of my control. On today's Wise Walk, we're talking about what all that rushing is really about and what might change if we gave ourselves a little more breathing room. We'll look at the pressure we put on ourselves, how we respond when things don't go according to plan, and why communicating can take some of that pressure away. We'll also talk about being more present with the time we do have, offering the same grace to others that we hope they'll give us, and trusting that sometimes the best thing we can do is allow life to unfold in perfect and elegant timing. Are you noticing any rushing in your life right now?Do you find yourself in a constant state of urgency?Are you rushing out of fear of falling behind, disappointing someone else, or feeling guilty?Has rushing simply become a habit?Do you constantly fill your calendar and try to squeeze in one more thing before you leave the house or shut down your computer?When you find yourself rushing, how does it make you feel?Does rushing bring up uncomfortable feelings for you?Can you notice why you are in that state of urgency?What can you do to change it?When you find yourself running late for something you scheduled, can you give yourself permission to pause, breathe, and safely communicate that your timing has changed?When you give yourself that permission, can you also release any guilt you may be feeling?Can you create space for perfect and elegant timing and trust that the person you are meeting will offer you the same space and grace?If you are chronically running behind because your calendar is packed or overscheduled, can you intentionally slow down and create more physical and mental space?Can you catch yourself before you overschedule and give yourself some breathing room?Where can you create unexpected buffer time so you have space for whatever is meant to come your way?Before you start your car, move on to a new task, or spend time with people you care about, how can you set yourself up for success?How can you be fully present without rushing through the experience?How often do you turn off your electronic devices?How often do you silence your notifications?Can you silence distractions during meals, drive time, or focused project time?How are you holding space for yourself to stay focused, stay present, and relieve some of the pressure you put on yourself?Where can you simply breathe, enjoy the moment, and be open to receiving the best experience possible?What does being on time mean to you? I would love to hear what strategies and techniques you use to remove that sense of urgency in your life, to notice the rush when it's happening, to notice where those uncomfortable feelings of guilt or pressure are building up in your life. Please let me know what you took away from today's episode and where in your life you're creating more space and more perfect and elegant timing. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk, so be sure to tune in for another episode. In this episode: [03:53] The beauty of perfect and elegant timing.[04:59] We need to allow ourselves to go with the flow and take the pressure off of ourselves and others.[05:32] When I'm running late and getting anxiety, I take a moment and pause and breathe. [06:15] When I pause, breathe, and communicate, the other person is very understanding.[07:45] Nothing in life is worth getting in an accident over. We need to keep in mind that perfect and elegant timing is what we trust in.[10:55] It's also important to pause and breathe so our attention is fully focused and we are present in the situation.[13:29] What does being on time mean to you? [15:55] When we communicate together, and pause and breathe, so many perfect and elegant things can happen.[16:16] There's nothing more important than caring for ourselves and those around us.[16:49] As a community, how can we eliminate that pressure or sense of urgency?[17:22] We are also going to silence distractions and some of the ...
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    19 分
  • EP313: Trust What You Already Know

    EP313: Trust What You Already Know
    2026/09/24
    Have you ever gone back to something you haven't done in a while and immediately wondered if you still know how to do it? It's funny how quickly that doubt can creep in. We can have years of experience and plenty of proof that we're capable. Somehow, we can still convince ourselves that too much time has passed or that we've forgotten everything we once knew. Then we step back into it and realize, wait, I actually know more than I thought I did. I've been noticing this in my own life lately, especially as I return to things I haven't done for a while. I also had a moment recently when a friend was going through a difficult loss. There was a chance I might need to step into her role and emcee a call with very little notice. My first thought was whether I could really pull it off without having time to prepare. But when I stopped and looked at everything I've already done, I realized I had plenty of experience to draw from. I needed to give myself a little more credit. On this Wise Walk, we're exploring what happens when our inner critic gets louder than the evidence of what we already know. We'll look at the expectations we put on ourselves. We'll also talk about letting go of the need to be perfect. Sometimes being present is enough. Sometimes saying yes to something that makes us a little uncomfortable is exactly what reminds us what we're capable of. Are there times in your life when you stepped away from something you enjoyed or got really good at, then wanted to return to it later?When you go back to it, does fear or anxiety surface?Do you give yourself enough credit for what you already know?Instead of feeding that fear, can you remind yourself that you probably know more than you think you do?Is there an activity, passion, or hobby you want to return to but have been putting off because too much time has passed?What is stopping you from going back to something you are curious about?Can you get grounded in why you have been holding yourself back?Can you trust your ability to work through whatever comes up and allow yourself to have the experience you are meant to have right now?Has someone ever asked you at the last minute to do something you felt unprepared for?What was your internal dialogue at that moment?Were you able to honor what was coming up for you while still moving past your self-doubt?When something pushes you outside your comfort zone, can you get curious about why it feels uncomfortable?What choices do you want to make when you find yourself outside your comfort zone?What actions can you take to let go of perfection and simply be present?Can you show up for yourself and others without expecting yourself to be perfect?Where in your life can you say yes to something that feels uncomfortable?Can you step outside your comfort zone, put your inner critic on the back burner, and surprise yourself?When you do surprise yourself, who are you going to tell?How can you be your own cheerleader?How can you appreciate the progress and momentum you are creating?Where can you gently tell your inner critic, "Not right now. I'm moving ahead anyway"?How can you give yourself credit for doing something uncomfortable or challenging?Who can you share your wins with who will be just as delighted as you are? I want to give you a shout-out for doing those scary things and not feeling like you have to be perfect. You are present, and you are showing up for yourself and others in ways that matter. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode and what else is going on in your life. Feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday for another Wise Walk. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [04:21] How I had to realize that I could step up and help someone who needed support in their time of need, even though I wasn't sure that I was ready. [05:24] I knew it was important for me to give my friend support to feel what she needed to feel. [06:22] My friend is still being the emcee for the event, but she knows that she has my support, and that I can step up if needed.[07:05] Presence over perfection. Perfection isn't what people are typically looking for. They want the raw, vulnerable, good stuff that they could relate to.[09:18] When I was on this Wise Walk, I realized that we all have this inner critic. This inner critic also creates a lot of noise.[10:17] Sometimes we also have unrealistic expectations. We need to keep these in check and realize something magical will come out.[12:12] We can't lose faith in ourselves. We need to believe in ourselves and expect good outcomes to come our way.[13:26] The importance of giving ourselves credit and owning our wins.[14:56] As children, we get used to something new every year. As adults, there isn't as much change until we start going through major life changes like retirement or a new business or career.[16:15] I'm grateful that I can apply ...
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    17 分
  • EP312: Riding the Waves of Grief and Healing

    EP312: Riding the Waves of Grief and Healing
    2026/09/17
    I like to think of emotions a lot like waves in the ocean. Some roll in gently and barely disturb us, while others seem to come out of nowhere and knock us off our feet. Lately, I have been experiencing some of those heavier waves. With the 25th anniversary of September 11, memories from when I was living and working in New York have surfaced in ways I did not necessarily expect. Grief can be tricky like that. We can feel completely fine one moment, and then a memory, a conversation, or even the energy around us brings something back that we thought we had already worked through. I used to think being positive meant pushing those heavier feelings aside and keeping myself moving. Now I see how important it is to make room for them instead. Sometimes that means clearing the calendar, letting yourself cry, talking with someone you trust, or simply being still long enough to notice what is coming up. We do not always have to fix what we are feeling, and we certainly do not have to have everything together all the time. On today's Wise Walk, we explore how to ride those emotional waves instead of fighting them, create space for vulnerability, support the people we love when their own waves come in, and give ourselves the grace to rest and recharge afterward. Are you able to process the range of emotions you experience from day to day, or even minute to minute, much like the waves in the ocean?Can you feel those waves of emotion when you are in a storm and allow them to wash over you?Can you ride those emotional waves when you can?Can you ground yourself so the waves do not knock you over, allowing them to pass through you instead of resisting them?Can you pause and feel gratitude when those waves of emotion bring you joy and satisfaction?Where in your life are you holding space to watch the waves come in and go out, accepting that sometimes you have no control over them?Can you give yourself the space and grace to experience those emotional waves in whatever form they appear?When heavy emotions surface, can you pause, take them seriously, and reflect on why they may be appearing at this moment?Can you honor what you are feeling?Can you feel your feelings in a safe and vulnerable way, knowing that expressing them does not make you weak?When you experience waves of emotion that feel heavy, confusing, or sad, do you allow yourself to process them?Who can you reach out to, who will hold a safe and sacred space for you?Can you allow yourself to be vulnerable and share what is on your mind with people you trust?Can you also lean in and listen when someone else shares what is surfacing for them?What is going on for you?How are you feeling about this experience?What personal memories are surfacing for you?Are you allowing yourself to heal by feeling your feelings and giving others space to share theirs too?Can vulnerability help you deepen your connections and build greater trust with the people in your life? Allow yourself to be present with whatever feelings are surfacing and just look at them like waves of emotions and be kind to yourself. I would love to hear what waves you are allowing to wash over you. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. I hope you'll join me. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [03:43] This year marks 25 years since September 11th. And I have very vivid memories of September 11th. I was living and working in New York at the time.[04:11] That day was fundamentally life-altering for many of us. It altered our shared sense of safety. We also lost so many humans that day and in the aftermath.[05:46] 25 years later we still feel the energy of those days and also the energy of the mass collective. [06:03] We are all so intertwined that we feel our memories and the memories and grief of others.[07:03] When I was young, I tried to resist grief and waves of heavy emotion.[08:39] I've honored September 11th in a variety of ways. Sometimes I just take alone time. I also participated in the Tunnels to Tower Run. [10:02] This year when I started feeling those emotions, I knew the best thing to do would be to talk about it.[11:12] When we accept that waves of emotion are going to surface, it doesn't have to be a bad thing, and we don't have to judge it.[14:15] When we feel grief or a wave of emotion it can be related to so many different things.[15:34] You are going to get through the storm of whatever you are feeling. There's a beginning, middle, and end.[16:39] You are strong, and you can handle whatever waves of emotion come at you.[17:23] Be kind to yourself when those heavy emotions wash over you. Memorable Quotes: "Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is accept the waves and learn to work with them instead of fighting them." - Mary Tess"Sometimes there isn't anything to fix. Healing happens in how we show up for ourselves and for each other." - Mary Tess"Whatever you're experiencing has a ...
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