Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, abandonment, attachment wounds, and mental health.

Episode 27 of Traumatically Speaking, Love Me, Leave Me, Repeat, was inspired by a question from Chaos Cousin Nia about what it is actually like to date with abandonment wounds. Sloan takes the lead as she and Lex unpack the ways early experiences shape adult relationships and why love can feel both deeply desired and deeply terrifying at the same time.

Together, they dive into attachment styles, explore a metaphor about old bricks and new bricks that completely changes the way they think about healing and relationships, and discuss why vulnerability and authenticity can feel so unsafe after a lifetime of expecting people to leave. They also talk about the surprisingly uncomfortable experience of dating someone with a secure attachment style and why healthy love can feel… boring when chaos has always felt like chemistry.

Through personal stories, psychology, and their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, Sloan and Lex explore what it means to recognize old patterns without letting them define your future. This episode is a reminder that healing is not about finding the perfect person. It is about becoming willing to build something different.

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Remember: write it like a story — bullet points don’t flow — and send it as a .pdf if ya nasty.

We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit:

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We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

okay love you bye,

Sloan & Lex

Referenced in the episode:

Daily Horoscope For Your Zodiac Sign with Stephanie Campos

Tea Time: S2 Ep74: Dating After Heartbreak with Catherine McCafferty

Trigger warnings: discussions of sexuality, coming out, divorce, breakups

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Episode 26 of Traumatically Speaking, Slave 4 Britney: Queer Awakenings & Coming Out Stories, is dedicated to every person who looked back at their childhood and thought, "...how did I not know?"

This week, Lex and Sloan share their own coming out stories alongside one from a Chaos Cousin whose first crush wasn't the boy band everyone else was obsessed with—it was Britney Spears. What started as a childhood celebrity obsession turned into a queer awakening years before she had the language to understand it, and like so many of us, it took years before she finally came out.

Lex shares her own coming out story, reflecting on what it was like to embrace her identity and navigate the reactions of the people around her.

Then Sloan opens up about a different kind of coming out. She shares what it was like to tell the people in her life that she's polyamorous, the misconceptions that came with it, and why coming out isn't always about your sexuality, sometimes it's about finally living authentically, even when other people don't understand.

Together, they talk about the pressure to fit into boxes, the fear of disappointing the people we love, and the freedom that comes from finally choosing yourself instead of performing a version of yourself that makes everyone else comfortable.

It's funny. It's vulnerable. It's validating.

And if Britney Spears was your first crush... this might explain a few things.

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Want a chance to have your story shared on the pod?
Email us: ⁠⁠⁠traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠

Remember: write it like a story — bullet points don't flow — and send it as a .pdf if ya nasty.

We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit:
⁠https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists⁠

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions. Make Megan PROUD.

okay love you bye,

Sloan & Lex