Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, abandonment, attachment wounds, and mental health.

Episode 27 of Traumatically Speaking, Love Me, Leave Me, Repeat, was inspired by a question from Chaos Cousin Nia about what it is actually like to date with abandonment wounds. Sloan takes the lead as she and Lex unpack the ways early experiences shape adult relationships and why love can feel both deeply desired and deeply terrifying at the same time.

Together, they dive into attachment styles, explore a metaphor about old bricks and new bricks that completely changes the way they think about healing and relationships, and discuss why vulnerability and authenticity can feel so unsafe after a lifetime of expecting people to leave. They also talk about the surprisingly uncomfortable experience of dating someone with a secure attachment style and why healthy love can feel… boring when chaos has always felt like chemistry.

Through personal stories, psychology, and their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, Sloan and Lex explore what it means to recognize old patterns without letting them define your future. This episode is a reminder that healing is not about finding the perfect person. It is about becoming willing to build something different.

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We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

okay love you bye,

Sloan & Lex

Referenced in the episode:

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Tea Time: S2 Ep74: Dating After Heartbreak with Catherine McCafferty