Nobody opens their relationship thinking, "You know what would be great? More calendars, more processing, and less sleep." And yet… here we are.

In this episode, we get honest about the moment when non-monogamy stops being sexy and starts feeling like work. From emotional exhaustion to double bookings to the pressure to be the "cool" partner who's always down, we talk about the side of the lifestyle that rarely makes it to the highlight reel.

We unpack burnout vs. disconnection, the guilt that comes with slowing down, and why joy should always come before performance. If you've ever loved this lifestyle and also quietly needed a break, this one's for you.

In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party, Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her.

From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense of self.

She talks about letting her inner Domme out, feeling unexpectedly energized in scene, and how this moment became part of a much bigger reflection on the year she's had and the woman she's becoming.

Along the way, the conversation takes a cozy Pajama Party turn—because of course it does—with side quests into banana bread & date balls; and the comfort of laughter, and softness after growth.

It's an episode about power, permission, embodiment, and honoring your own evolution… with a little kitchen-table chaos mixed in.

Slip into your PJs and join the party.

In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield—musician, meditation teacher, life coach, and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College

Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment show up in poly relationships, how religious frameworks influence our views of love and commitment, and how polyamory can become a practice in conscious, intentional living.

A thoughtful and grounding conversation for anyone curious about the intersection of spirituality and non-monogamy.

🎧 Listen now and go deeper.