Randy Free is a psychiatric counselor who helps families of kids with ADHD find peace in the middle of the storm. He started teaching Sunday school at 20, and found that he could coach a child and then send them right back to the same family situation. So he started working with the whole family.

His framework, peaceful parenting, has five pillars that spell PEACE: Perspective, Ease, Attune, Connect, and Empower. It starts with one reframe: "They're not giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time." Randy and Christine talk about meltdowns as a distress signal, why a day of transitions leaves a child with no energy left to contain big emotions, and what changes for a family when they stop seeing defiance.

They also turn to the adults who were never diagnosed, and what Randy does with EMDR for the inner child who was told they were stupid or lazy.

Timestamps

00:00 Intro

01:28 Who Randy was at eight

03:47 Why he works with the whole family

09:27 Perspective: a distress signal, not defiance

19:11 The five pillars: ease, attune, connect, empower

28:38 Connection without dropping expectations

37:51 Floor play, groups, and the family intensive

40:42 The cost of untreated ADHD

48:30 Late diagnosis, shame, and EMDR

52:21 Where to find Randy

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This podcast is for educational purposes only and isn't a substitute for individualized medical, mental health, or professional care. Every brain is different, and results will vary.