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Outgrowing old versions of yourself is proof you’re evolving, but letting go of who you used to be can feel heavy, lonely, and confusing.

• Growth means shedding mindsets, habits, and identities that no longer fit
• Outgrowing yourself can feel like a mini identity crisis
• People may resist your growth because it challenges who they think you are
• You might grieve friendships, dreams, or labels that were once your normal
• Signs you’re outgrowing: restlessness, resistance to old routines, feeling misunderstood
• Flexible identity is self-alignment, not betrayal — you’re becoming more you
• You’re allowed to release what you’ve outgrown, even if others don’t understand

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Being perceived can feel like standing under a spotlight. We often perform for others without even realising it, letting their imagined opinions shape who we become.

• Being perceived taps into our ancient fear of rejection and judgment
• We construct our self-image through the “looking glass” of how we think others see us

• "I am not who I think I am. I am not who you think I am. I am who I think, you think, I am.

• The “spotlight effect” makes us believe everyone notices us more than they actually do
• Social media amplifies the pressure to perform, making it harder to feel authentic
• We wear social armour — people-pleasing, overachieving, hiding parts of ourselves — to manage being seen
• Letting go starts with awareness, self-compassion, and remembering: being misunderstood doesn’t make you less whole

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Welcome back to The Girls Classroom. This week we talk about the quiet destroyer - self sabotage. What undermines our growth, joy, and potential from the inside out, often without us even realising it.

• Self-sabotage can be conscious (procrastination, avoidance) or subconscious (self-doubt, perfectionism, fear of success)
• It often stems from limiting beliefs formed in childhood: “I’m not good enough,” “If I fail, I’ll be rejected,” or “I don’t deserve this”
• We self-sabotage by delaying goals, rejecting healthy love, downplaying our achievements, or staying in comfort zones that feel safe but stifle us
• It’s not laziness—it’s protection. The brain tries to keep us safe by avoiding risk, rejection, or emotional exposure
• The difference: sabotage says “it’s safer to stay small” while self-worth says “even if I fall, I’ll grow from it”
• Rewriting the pattern starts with awareness—naming the fear underneath, being kinder to yourself, and taking action in small, brave doses
• The limits we feel often aren’t walls—they’re stories. And we get to rewrite them

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