The cohosts present the Stabilizer personality style, referred to as a static-masculine energy. Everyone has this within them. For some it is dormant and rarely accessed, and for others it is their dominant style. This style is discussed, both in its healthy form and in it dysfunctional form. It is also compared to the other three styles (Initiator, Transformer and Responder). Here are some of the key issues discussed.

1. What is your natural style and is it still working for you?

2. The healthy journey usually takes us to a balance between the different styles, and leads to the ability to draw on different energies or styles when the situation calls for them.

3. The “masculine” moniker does not refer to males. The Initiating energy can be dominant in any gender. The “static” moniker simply means that there is a tendency to organize and put systems in place rather than to be constantly innovating and moving toward action and accomplishment (the dynamic energy).

4. The dysfunctional Initiator can be dictatorial, and often misses out on other valuable viewpoints.

5. Do you want to be right or do you want to be in relationship? This is the question the masculine energy should often ask of one’s self.

6. You are often more married to the trait that protects you from being hurt than you are to the person with whom you are in relationship.

7. When stress levels go up, we retreat to those patterns that are most familiar, even if they are dysfunctional.

8. Where do your protective mechanisms get formed? Usually in your family of origin.

You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites:

AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / www.InYourDreams.Coach (Dr. Kelley)