What does confidence really look like?
Is it appearing calm, capable and completely in control?
Or is real confidence being prepared to step into the unknown, knowing you might fail, and giving it a go anyway?
In this episode of The School Run, Jane is joined by Phil Holdcroft, founder of High Performance Journey, former Royal Air Force pilot, endurance athlete, speaker, husband and dad.
And Phil’s story is quite a journey.
At school, he didn’t have his future mapped out. He studied biochemistry, found himself on a graduate programme in London with the salary, company car and mobile phone that should have meant he was doing brilliantly... but he was deeply unhappy.
Then came the Royal Air Force.
Phil describes it as discovering “the thing I never knew I always wanted to do”, beginning an incredible two-decade military career and finding a sense of purpose he hadn’t experienced before.
But one of the biggest challenges of Phil’s life happened away from the military when his youngest daughter, Isla, was diagnosed with leukaemia at just 22 months old.
Suddenly, all the toughness and resilience Phil thought he understood were tested in a completely different way.
As Isla began her journey towards recovery, Phil set himself five increasingly difficult physical challenges over five years, raising money for the charities and people who had helped his family.
The final challenge?
Rowing 3,000 miles across the Atlantic.
Phil and Jane talk about resilience, purpose, leadership, mental fitness and the importance of human connection. They explore what happens when an identity that has defined you for years changes, and why leaving the military forced Phil to think carefully about who he was without the uniform.
There’s also a fascinating conversation about the advice we give young people and how even loving, well-intentioned words can sometimes create beliefs about what we are and aren’t capable of achieving.
Today, through High Performance Journey, Phil uses everything he has learned about leadership, performance, teamwork and resilience to help individuals and teams discover what they are capable of.
And his definition of confidence might just change the way you think about it.
Confidence isn’t the absence of fear.
It’s having the courage to show up, step into the arena and try, even when success is far from guaranteed.
An inspiring, moving and wonderfully honest conversation about purpose, family, identity, connection and discovering just how much might be possible when you’re prepared to have a go.
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