Join Matthew as he speaks with Mikyla and Christopher about intimacy, romantic/sexual monogamy with emotional openness, holding space, different ways of expressing and processing, the gift of revealing ourselves fully, tools such as improvising and developing characters to express our many parts, and other types of relational sweetness.

Stay tuned 'til the end for a song by Christopher and Mikyla!

0:00 - The unofficial official beginning of the podcast and podcast episode

1:57 - Introduction

4:37 Feelings check in

8:42 Mikyla and Christopher’s sweet, synchronous beginnings

16:11 Their Connection over the grief of Christopher’s Auntie Julie’s illness and eventual death

19:57 Clarification: at the airport we were not both single!

21:51 Monogamy, agreements, exclusivity

26:59 Why romance and sex are exclusive in this relationship, how other forms of intimacy can be created in love

34:46 Falling in love, and climbing and rising to the true state of love, time apart and letter writing

39:03 The faultiness of memory and letting go of being right

40:46 The parts and aspects that fall in love, co-creating with another sovereign being

46:11 When fear or intense emotion or uncertainty comes up in relationship, how do you navigate?

49:16 Holding space and not trying to fix it for someone, tending to the self in these situations

57:14 Different ways of expressing and processing, effects on each other and growing through these experiences

1:04:33 The gift of revealing ourselves fully, even when it looks “crazy”

1:06:51 Improv - taking on characters to work through things and more fully express, with a disclaimer!

1:12:01 Containers and how to use them to vitalize relationship

1:17:01 Improv as a tool to be able to address parts of someone/ourselves without seeing the whole being as that part, with a disclaimer! Do not use as a way to bypass things that need to be addressed in relationship.

1:23:46 Quick plug for @mikandmoon on TikTok - relational tools and pre-conception fertility work

1:25:55 Christopher and Mikyla’s Song

1:28:08 End

You can connect with Christopher and Mikyla on Instagram @flaxandsugar and on TikTok (by mid August 2015) @mikandmoon.