When you start evolving, some friendships simply can’t come with you…and that hurts. In this episode, Ms. Shanita explores why growth often comes with grief, especially when it means losing people you once thought were permanent. Are they really changing… or are you finally seeing them clearly?

Tune in for a raw, unfiltered take on friendship breakups, outgrowing old bonds, and protecting your peace at all costs.

Segment Breakdown

• Intro: 0:00–1:30

• Opening Message: 1:30–3:30

• Main Body: 3:30–9:30

• Break (Reflect & Reset): 9:30–10:00

• Final Thoughts: 10:00–12:00

• Closing Remarks to Victims & Victimizers: 12:00–13:30

• Outro Tagline: 13:30–14:00

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This is The Real Era. And we’re just getting started.

She didn’t fall off , she found her flow.

But let’s be real: somewhere between healing and unplugging, some of us got way too comfortable. In this episode of The Real Era with Ms. Shanita: Unfiltered, we’re talking about how to embrace your soft era without losing your fire, your focus, or your future.

Because softness isn’t the problem, lack of structure is.

We’re breaking down the difference between rest and retreat, ease and avoidance, and how to stay aligned without abandoning your purpose.

⏱️ Segment Breakdown:

🎙️ Segment 1 – The Soft Era Confusion (0:30–2:30)

“Softness without structure? Will have you falling asleep on your own future.”

🎙️ Segment 2 – You’re Allowed to Rest, But Not to Retreat (2:30–4:30)

“You can light a candle and still close a deal.”

🎙️ Break Cue (4:30–5:00)

Quick pause with music to reflect

🎙️ Segment 3 – My Shift: What Softness Really Means (5:00–7:30)

“Is this softness or self-sabotage? Is this rest… or resistance?”

🎙️ Final Word (7:30–8:30)

“Protect your peace, but protect your purpose too.”

🎙️ Outro (8:30–End)

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Healing isn’t real if you’re still chasing who broke you.

🎙️ The difference between healing and performing strength

🎙️ Why the pursuit of validation keeps you stuck

🎙️ Questions to ask yourself when you say “I’m healed”

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