What happens when the man you married turns out to be living a double life?

Deana and Lizzie both married the same man—at different times—and eventually discovered a pattern of deception, emotional abuse, manipulation, and overlapping relationships.

But this story gets even crazier: after connecting and comparing notes, they tracked down another woman who was unknowingly dating the same man.

In this episode, Josh and the gals get into the red flags they missed, why charm can hide bad character, how love bombing and manipulation actually work, and why even smart, self-aware people can find themselves questioning their own instincts.

Because sometimes the biggest red flag isn't what someone does.

It's how often you find yourself explaining it away.

What if the reason you keep having the same relationship problems has less to do with the people you choose—and more to do with the way you show up? Joshua Jones sits down with Dr. Allison Brenner, psychotherapist, industrial-organizational psychologist, and founder of InnerVue, to explore the uncomfortable gap between who you think you are and how other people actually experience you. From dating the “same person” in different bodies to being misunderstood at work, Dr. Brenner breaks down how blind spots, overused strengths, and the difference between intent and impact can keep us stuck in patterns we don't even realize we're repeating.

We get into why your friends and partners may not tell you the real stuff, how to separate useful feedback from someone's personal opinion, why curiosity beats confrontation, and how getting honest perception data can turn self-awareness into real change. If you've ever wondered “Why does this keep happening to me?” this conversation might leave you asking a much more uncomfortable question: “What is it actually like to experience me?”

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What if the relationship you’re trying so hard to move on from is still shaping who you’re attracted to today? Joshua Jones sits down with healer and meditation teacher Ben Oofana for a raw conversation about heartbreak, attachment, ghosting, closure, and why we can keep repeating the same relationship patterns with a different face. Ben shares the unconventional path behind his work—from a deeply dysfunctional childhood in Southeast Texas to training with Native American elders, completing vision quests, and studying practices designed to help people move through grief rather than simply think their way past it. We get into why understanding your pain isn't always the same as actually processing it, how attachment wounds influence who we choose, why ghosting can hit so deeply, and what it really takes to let go when part of you still doesn't want to.

Joshua and Ben also explore why we sometimes romanticize emotional unavailability, how dating apps and screen addiction can make genuine connection harder, and how breathwork, meditation, body awareness, and sustained practice can change the way we experience emotional pain. Most importantly, they ask what happens when you stop trying to escape the feeling and finally learn how to sit with it. If you've ever said "I'm over it" while secretly knowing you're still carrying the relationship, this episode is for you.

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