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You know that voice in your head that worries, overthinks, compares, assumes, judges, replays things that already happened and occasionally tries to convince you that something is wrong when absolutely nothing has happened?

Yeah. Her. 😂

I call her my Inner Mean Girl—and she has a LOT to say.

In this episode of The Manifesting Formula, we're talking about the voice in your head, where some of those thoughts and beliefs come from, and why just because a thought came from your own mind doesn't mean it's true.

I'll share how my relationship with my own Inner Mean Girl has changed over the years, why she doesn't get out much anymore 😂, and how meditation helped me learn one of the most important things I know today:

I can notice a thought without having to follow it.

We'll also talk about the difference between feeling something and feeding it, the Buddhist teaching of the two arrows, and how we can unintentionally keep hurt, anger, fear or disappointment alive long after the original moment has passed.

And because this is The Manifesting Formula, we'll connect all of this back to your thoughts, your feelings, your energy—and what you're creating in your life.

You don't need to monitor every thought that enters your mind.

You don't need to fight with your Inner Mean Girl.

And you definitely don't need to believe everything she tells you.

Because if it isn't coming from love...

it's a fucking lie. ❤️

In this episode, you'll hear about the Inner Mean Girl and the Inner Goddess, subconscious beliefs and the things we learned to believe about ourselves, how thoughts affect feelings and energy, meditation and awareness, feeling versus feeding an emotion, the Buddhist teaching of the two arrows, and why the voice in your head really can become a whole lot quieter.

Thank you for listening to The Manifesting Formula. If this episode made you think of someone whose Inner Mean Girl could use a little less microphone time 😂, send it their way. And if you've been enjoying the podcast, I would love it if you'd take a minute to leave a rating or review. It helps more people discover our little corner of the podcast world. ❤️

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Have you ever made a choice you knew you couldn’t take back...but found yourself thinking about it months—or even years—later?

Maybe the choice isn’t actually what you’re still struggling with.

Maybe it’s the relationship you wanted to be different.

The person you wanted someone to be.

The apology or understanding you never received.

Or the version of the story you keep replaying in your mind.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to accept something you cannot change—and why acceptance doesn’t always mean closeness, reconciliation, or pretending something didn’t hurt.

I’m also sharing more about my relationship with my mom, how that relationship shaped the mother I chose to become, and one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned:

You cannot change the choice you made then. But you absolutely have a choice about what you do with it now.

We’ll talk about acceptance, forgiveness, relationships, the stories we continue to tell ourselves, and how the energy we give our past can affect the life we’re creating today.

Because making peace with a choice doesn’t mean changing what happened.

It means deciding how much of your life you’re willing to keep giving to it.

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Have you ever looked at a friendship or relationship and realized...

this person just isn't my person anymore?

Maybe there wasn't a huge fight.

Maybe no one did anything terrible.

Maybe the relationship simply changed...and somewhere along the way, you changed too.

In this episode, I'm sharing a very personal experience that made me look differently at one of my own friendships—and helped me realize something important:

That moment didn't change the relationship. It showed me what the relationship had already become.

We're talking about the relationships we hold onto because of history, the expectations we place on people, and what happens when we stop trying to make a relationship be something it simply isn't anymore.

We'll also talk about acceptance, impermanence, the word “should,” and a question that might make you look at some of the relationships in your own life differently:

If I met this person today...would I still choose this friendship?

Not every relationship is meant to stay the same forever.

People change.

We grow.

Life changes.

And sometimes making peace with a relationship isn't about fixing it, ending it, or deciding who's right and who's wrong.

Sometimes...

it just is what it is.

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