Scripture:“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”– James 1:19 When She Talks, Are You Really Listening? You can be in the same room, hear every word your wife says, and still miss what she’s actually telling you. Many husbands don’t struggle with hearing—they struggle with listening. The Listening Husband knows the difference. The difference? One takes sound in. The other takes the heart in. Fixing isn’t always the answer. In fact, sometimes it’s the problem. When your wife opens up, she’s not handing you a project—she’s inviting you into her world. And if your first instinct is to solve rather than sit with her, you may be missing the moment entirely. Proverbs 18:13 puts it bluntly: “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” Listening is more than a skill—it’s an act of love. Presence Over Performance Too often, we think nodding while scrolling counts as engagement. It doesn’t. Real listening begins with presence—something The Listening Husband practices every day. That means eyes up, phone down, and attention undivided. Distraction says, “You’re optional.” Presence says, “You’re essential.” Jesus models this perfectly. When Mary and Martha were grieving, He didn’t rush in with […]

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