This is episode 9 of my other podcast: It’s Okay If… Permission Slips for Mental Health, Self-Acceptance, and Growth

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Doing nothing can feel uncomfortable, especially when you care deeply about your work, your goals, or the people you're showing up for. But sometimes, pushing through becomes too much.

This short reflection is a reminder that rest isn’t laziness.

Taking a break isn’t a failure.

Pausing doesn’t mean you’ve given up – it means you’re listening to what you need.

If you’re feeling the weight of burnout, this is your permission slip to stop producing for a moment, to let things breathe, and to remember that stillness is its own kind of strength.

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What do you do when your partner says, “I have tumors in my lungs and spine”?

We don’t get instructions for that kind of moment. And we definitely don’t get told what it means to carry someone you love through the hardest, slowest, most beautiful goodbye. In this episode, I talk with Tony Stewart—writer, partner, caregiver—about what shifted the day his wife, Lynn, was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and what he learned as they walked through the next six years together.

This conversation isn’t just about loss.

It’s about presence.

And what happens when you let yourself feel every bit of it.

• He learned to access and express emotions he’d long buried
• He discovered the healing power of sharing his raw, unfiltered truth
• He found beauty – even joy – amid the hardest days of his life

🎧 Listen to this episode now to hear how love and grief reshaped one man’s understanding of what it means to live.

Tony Stewart is the author of *Carrying the Tiger: Living with Cancer, Dying with Grace, Finding Joy While Grieving*, a memoir chronicling the six years he spent walking alongside his wife through her terminal illness. Originally written as journal entries to keep friends and family updated, the story became a powerful testament to love, presence, and emotional truth. Tony now shares his journey to help others feel less alone in their own grief and caregiving experiences. Learn more at tonystewartauthor.com.

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From walking out of school to creating art worldwide, Danny Suede chose his own way forward.

What if the life you want is just past the fear?

So many of us stay stuck because the obstacles are loud and obvious — the job, the money, the expectations. But the route to the life we dream about?

That path is quiet.

Subtle.

Hidden.

In this episode, I talk with artist and creative nomad Danny Suede about the bold decision he made as a teenager that changed everything, and how that one moment opened the door to a life he never imagined — one full of art, travel, and purposeful creation.

Danny’s story reminds us that we can reimagine what “normal” looks like. That there’s nothing wrong with choosing something different. And that starting before you’re ready might just be the bravest thing you ever do.

• Danny's bold decision to leave school at 13 marked the beginning of his own story.
• Learning doesn’t have to resemble a classroom; it can unfold in line with your own curiosity.
• The most meaningful moments often lie just behind the fears we tend to avoid.

Danny Suede is an indie/pop artist, musician, and visual creator who embodies the mantra, "Life Can Be More Of What You Dream."

Beyond his music, Danny shares his perspective through his Substack writings and explores creativity through his own art and visuals. He also creates captivating videos on YouTube to inspire a global audience.

Danny has retired from social media to fully dedicate himself to his craft. He embraces a nomadic lifestyle that allows him to create without distraction. In 2025, he’ll travel the world, drawing inspiration from diverse cultures and experiences to shape his music, storytelling, and art.

• Substack - https://dannysuede.substack.com
• Music - https://spoti.fi/3Xf0vKR
• Shop - https://dannysuede.com/collections/all
• Website - https://dannysuede.com
• Music Youtube - YouTube.com/@UCQtCkoqH7Yw2ma8KAdhvevQ

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There are days when holding it all together just isn’t possible. And despite what we’ve been taught – to push through, to stay strong, to keep showing up – sometimes the bravest thing we can do is let ourselves break.

If you're carrying grief, burnout, or just too much of everything, this short reflection is your reminder that falling apart doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.

You don’t have to be the strong one all the time. You don’t have to keep it all together today. You’re allowed to set something down – even just for now – and let that be enough.

What if your superpower was secretly destroying your life?

Ian Fee spent decades thinking alcohol was his key to connection – his edge in business and relationships. He built a successful career, a massive network, and a party-filled life that looked like everything was working. But beneath the surface, he was numb, disconnected, and silently unraveling.

Everything changed on the third day of rehab, when a moment of clarity hit: if he wasn't right with himself, nothing else would ever be right. That spark ignited a complete shift. Since then, Ian's found deeper purpose through daily routines, emotional healing, and a strong core of support. He's sharing his story not just to reflect, but to help others know it's never too late to change your life.

Takeaways:

• A moment of emotional awakening in rehab changed Ian's direction for good
• He learned to replace numbing with daily healing practices like journaling, meditation, and cold plunges
• His transformation was possible because he built a small, trusted circle of support who saw every version of him

Topics Discussed:

• Why he believed alcohol was the key to his professional success
• The emotional suppression that followed decades of drinking
• Entering rehab and hitting a breaking point
• The role of his "core four" in keeping him grounded
• Creating daily rituals to feel better, not just function
• How sharing vulnerably helped him reclaim his story
• The ripple effect of helping others through his book

Websites:

makeitgreat.me – Ian's personal site with merch and info

Amazon – The Wild Ride to Sobriety by Ian Fee

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