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Here is the link to my Introduction Playlist on YouTube. I created this series so new viewers could spend time learning and listening to our primary purpose of The InBetween Man Podcast, Who the host is, Where can you find the content and How the podcast is going to use different social media outlets to help create a new narrative for who and what the Modern Man may be going forward. The link is below.

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This is Part #2 of How Do You Know If You’ve Hit An Emotional Bottom. This episode is with Marcus & Amber Capone. How I found out about both Marcus & Amber is from the research I did for DJ’s video. Patsy, DJ’s wife, calls Amber because she is very worried about DJ and if Patsy is calling Amber, there has got to be a good reason. Marcus, like DJ is a retired DevGru / Seal Team 6 operator and was also interviewed by Shawn Ryan back when he first launched his podcast & YouTube Channel. Another awesome interview conducted by Shawn.

In this episode we start out the first 10 minutes listening to Marcus talk about his experience on Seal Team & DevGru being a breacher. For those of you who don’t know, Marcus was responsible for blowing up small locks on doors or cutting a steel door in half if it’s in the way of their mission objective. It never dawned on me that exposure to 350, 500 or over a 1000 small, medium and large blasts could have such an effect on anyone's brain, but it does make sense. I’ve added a couple of examples into Marcus’s 10 minute overview to try and provide an example of the kind of force these blasts can have on anything. The one video I included, you can see the concussive blast spread out from when it exploded and you can see the camera shocking as a result.

Marcus and DJ’s examples are extreme because they include trauma 90% of the civilian population will never experience. The only similar job compared to what our military might experience is playing football professionally. How many times have you heard Troy Aikman, Steve Young, Jim McMahan all former QB’s talk about getting their bell run and having concussions. But nothing like Marcus or anyone military personnel who have been in combat for a long period of time. I also included a short clip of the movie Warfare that was recently in the movies and available on Amazon Prime. I watched a clip from DJ talking about taking Patsy to go see that movie and at the end, she was balling her eyes out. According to DJ, this movie is what soldiers can experience from a TBI & CTE perspective and the movie only depicted one mission. Some soldiers might have 5 - 10 - 25 missions like this a week. So the numbers add up and the body keeps score.

The remaining clips of the interview with Shawn Ryan are with Amber, Marcus’s wife. Her account of what happens when Marcus retires and what happens when they move back to Texas is just amazing. It’s such a power of example for me there aren’t any words I can think of that describe what Amber & her children went through. The trauma is real, their pain is real, the medical options available to them are small and the emotional toll it takes on Amber is what super hero’s are made of. Amber inspires me and so does Patsy, DJ’s wife.

It’s like getting into a fist fight with someone and having one hand tied behind your back and don’t even know it. I'll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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Here is the link to my Introduction Playlist on YouTube. I created this series so new viewers could spend time learning and listening to our primary purpose of The InBetween Man Podcast, Who the host is, Where can you find the content and How the podcast is going to use different social media outlets to help create a new narrative for who and what the Modern Man may be going forward. The link is below.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLI5wg9OtBZJpw4C63UerC7joPcu2EuhR7

This week I published a podcast episode, titled, “How Do You Know If You’ve Hit An Emotional Bottom?" The link to the episode is below. I edited the last 30 minutes of DJ Shipley’s interview with Shawn Ryan. DJ goes into great detail describing and giving us an example of how someone experienced hitting an emotional bottom. What DJ was willing to do and what DJ wasn’t willing to do and how the consequences for “NOT” being willing to share our secrets could impact our state of mental health. The link to the episode is below.

https://youtu.be/yG60fVhzOfw

This week I also published a podcast episode titled, “Can You Identify With My Pain?”. The examples I provided were specific and hopefully left you with a sense of finality. I believe, men will rarely share their true feelings about any past or present emotional trauma until they have reached a point where they can no longer “keep it” inside.

https://youtu.be/5IHYzbJEkVM

In this episode, I provide the Top 5 dynamics addicts and alcoholics may find themselves in before they are ever ready to admit they could have a drug or alcohol problem. If you’re not an addict or alcoholic, these examples may seem extreme and don’t apply to you. If that is the case, good. The reason for sharing these dynamics is to hopefully widen your perspective on how deep some drug addicts and alcoholics are willing to go to keep their habit going.

Being able to identify with one or more habits, behaviors or emotions in a less extreme sense may compel you to investigate further on your own with help from a professional counselor, the clergy, a close friend, loved ones or a recovery expert. Understanding the cause and effects of our behaviors may help us to be more accountable for our actions. Not anyone else's.

This episode should be considered a “point of reference” you could use personally or share with a friend or maybe understand why someone in your family might be acting the way there are and you suspect they are using. PERSPECTIVE, PERSPECTIVE and PERSPECTIVE. I’ll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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In this episode, I share nine statements I remember telling myself before I become willing to share my deepest and darkest emotions with someone. The statements I made to myself convinced me that I was unique and no one else in the world could ever understand how much emotional pain I was in. It’s all just a lie in the end to keep me feeling isolated from help.

There were many times when I thought about harming myself was my only answer and even after considering it, I was too afraid to follow through with it because I didn’t want to put my x-wife and three boys through that level of serious trauma. So I didn’t and because I didn’t, I was compelled to do what I feared the most. Which was, talk about my most inner secrets I swore I would go to the grave with. I was in enough pain already and finally shared them all with a trustworthy person, I felt reborn.

In this episode, I use the example of a backpack that I carried with me every day and any emotional pain I had on a personal or professional level I would stuff the backpack with these emotional rocks. Over the years of countless suffering, the backpack became so overloaded with emotional rocks I never worked through, I couldn’t carry the load anymore and my knees buckled.

I hope most men can identify with this analogy because I believe we all do this. I think most men get ourselves painted into a corner where we finally have to ask for help with our emotions or we either follow through with harming ourselves. Harming yourself is NEVER a viable option, but why are so many men doing it today?

If you can identify with any of my statements I told myself when I wasn’t willing to share my internal pain with anyone, that is a good thing. It means you aren’t alone and might be willing to accept that you’ve put yourself through enough emotional pain already. Feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions and I will be sure to get back to you. More to come. I’ll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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As a man, have you asked yourself, how do I know if I’ve hit an emotional bottom? Most men don’t ask themselves this question. The idea of having any emotional problems or mental health problems is a sign that confirms “You’re a pussy!”. No man is going to admit to that. Ever!

Men could be close to hitting an emotional bottom if the thought of really hurting themselves becomes a serious consideration. Ten, fifteen or twenty years plus of kicking the emotional can down the road because men haven’t found an acceptable solution for solving their broken emotional state starts to come apart. Men often turn inward and project the pain we haven’t faced onto other people that we love and are closest to the most.

In this episode, I take the last thirty minutes of DJ Shipley’s interview on The Shawn Ryan show and break it down into twelve clips. The clips will give anyone insight into how one man, DJ talks and works through trying to overcome emotional pain. There will be an overview of V.E.T.S, a non-for-profit started by Amber & Marcus Capone. Here is the link to their trailer that mentions he watched and cried after watching it.

https://youtu.be/tqZ6jO7ZgnU?si=BKPLcEzns_39i41_

This video podcast is just one example of how a decorated DevGru team member overcame incredible odds. Not only when they were on the battlefield, but when they retired and came home to their families still broken emotionally & physically.

The same applies for men who haven’t served in the military. It’s just amazing how much pain you inflict on others and even ourselves before we reach a point (bottom) when we’ve had enough. It’s the idea of being “emotionally stoic” that men have grown up listening to for centuries. This podcast aims to bring to light one story, shared by an amazing man who after all the incredible things he’s done for his country is still not 100% willing to purge every secret he has to be free. I hate this for men, it makes me angry, furious actually and I don’t know where to direct my anger and rage when I realize that I’m powerless over anyone who is trying to get better. It’s an individual thing, you have to want it so bad you aren’t willing to die for it. Harming yourself isn’t an answer in my opinion, but I do know many people who believe it is because there is no other logical solution that makes sense to them. The horror of sharing your own deep and darkest secrets is so great that harming yourself feels like the only logical solution and I’m here to tell you it isn’t.

So please consider listening to this entire podcast and ask yourself after watching it if you can identify with DJ’s pain. Not his circumstances, but his pain. I could. 10,000% I could and I love DJ even more for being brave enough to push himself through the process. I don’t often say this, but in this case I happen to believe it’s true. DJ’s story and Patsy’s response to uncovering his secret, is, in my opinion, divinely inspired. There is just no other explanation I can come with that confirms for me it’s not. If you can ID with DJ and believe his story, then you too are capable of doing the same thing DJ did. We just have to be willing, even if it’s just a little bit. It’s amazing how dynamics like DJ’s & Marcus’s seem to work themselves and I don’t believe it’s by accident. I do believe though, anyone who is willing to look at the truth about themselves the way DJ has the universe seems to find a way to carry anyone in their arms. If I can do it, you can to. If DJ and Marcus can do it, then so can you. This video proves it and it’s undeniable.

Keep smiling,

R-

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In this episode we are going to be talking about Learning How To Speak Female. I’m going to provide two different examples of “jobs” you can do if you're newly married and aren’t sure how to support your wife when she says this to you, “Do you have time to talk?”. If you’re newly married hopefully you haven’t got yourself in any trouble yet by providing “MALE” feedback to emotional challenges you haven’t been given permission by your wife to provide.

In this episode we are going to go over the two different “JOBS” you have when confronted with a dynamic like this. The first stage is LISTEN & REPEAT/CONFIRM and most importantly do not provide any feedback. You’re feedback is rooted in raw & honest male feedback like you would provide to the guys in the locker room after you just one a big game. Women don’t respond to male feedback and if you listen and follow through with this simple process, you’ll understand how you can be supportive to your wife in the best way possible for her. This your wife remember, not a hooker you met in Vegas after college.

The second stage is LISTEN & REPEAT/CONFIRM and provide empathetic feedback within a manageable time frame for you. This video will go over the details and we can create another series like this to add more color if necessary.

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That’s all I got for now! I’ll see ya in there!

R-

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This episode I'm going to taking CLIPS from two different interviews that were posted to YouTube.

The first interview is with Scott Galloway and he was interviewed by the Diaries Of A CEO podcast. The title of the video is, "The Real Reason Why 90% Of Men Are Lost In Life". If I was assigning homework, which I'm not! I would recommend watching the whole video. It's only 20 minutes.
https://youtu.be/noAwyPyYjKQ?si=5OjUaf5iCPIcqE1Q

The second Interview is with Richard Reeves and he was interviewed by someone on the Amanpour and Company YouTube Channel. The title of the video is "Of Boys To Men:" Why the Modern Male Is Struggling. Richards entire interview is about 17 minutes and you should watch this one also. https://youtu.be/kLBHUC90UFg?si=TMPkDdtAO-Ob8kKj

The reason for sharing these insights and facts are so YOU might be able to understand in greater detail, "Why Are Men Struggling Today?" and it isn't just a YOU problem. Let me explain, I believe most men think their unique struggles/problems are theres alone and no one else has ever had similar personal challenges. This simply isn't true, it's one of the downfalls of living an emotionally stoic life passed down to us by the traditional male value system. Men default to stuffing everything and believe they are the only ones in emotional pain. For me, the more I shared about my own personal pain, the more I was told that I was far from unique and many other men shared similar battles.

One of the other challenges I faced was accepting that society has evolved and become more modern. What I didn't appreciate was no one ever informed of the changes once it happened. They just happened and society wasn't concerned at all about how I felt about any of them. The fact that I had to accept these changes without me sharing any of my feedback was unacceptable to me. But guess what? Society doesn't need my permission or any males permission to make changes they believe are in the best interest to the "Greater Good".

For me, this is where the rub is. Things just changed and it wasn't just a few things, it was a number of things. Having to deal with all of them at once made me overwhelmed and uncertain of the most appropriate way to respond. In hindsight, I accepted some of the new changes with very little resistance but the one's I didn't care for just made me ANGRY! I got angry because I didn't have the right tools or words to express myself and proceeded to isolated myself from the outside world while I played video games.

I believe a lot of men are dealing with all the new evolved and modern changes this way and I'm hoping together we can figure out a better to work through them and deal with our frustrations. This is another reason why I've started the private male only Discord server, so join us if you can ID with anything I've mentioned about.

So watch this podcast episode and let it soak in. Watch it a couple of times to let it settle in deeper. I know all of us will be much better off if we can create our own narrative and set up manageable and realistic personal boundaries for dynamics happening today men appreciate. Like anything else, it just takes practices. I'll see ya in there!

Keep smiling,
R-

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With regards to today’s episode, I’ve had time this week to connect with a couple of my boys who are straight up blue collar men and listen to their feedback. When I asked them if they could relate & understand my content on the podcast, their reply was, “I’ve got to let it sink in!”.

That was all I needed to hear to realize I needed to make a change and this episode is a result of following through based on their feedback. My goal is to make the content even more simpler for everyone to understand.

There is another reason which I've considered and maybe I’m not explaining myself well enough to effectively get my point across and it’s getting lost in translation. Either way, we will go with this approach for at least this episode.

I knew I needed a practical example my boys could ID with and connect it to how today’s “WOKE” culture has impacted, criticized and overlooked the importance of some of the traditional male values.

In this episode, I attempt to convey my point about how the new “WOKE” mentality has inadvertently overlooked and criticized how men value themselves and I'm going to do this be using Salsa dancing.

I hope we would all agree that it would be awkward to see a female partner, in the middle of a salsa dancing routine, suddenly stop during the dance and tell her male partner that she no longer valued his role as a male dancing partner and she wanted to take his place. The image in my head of this actually happening on a professional stage just doesn’t make sense to me and I can't ever seeing imagine it really happening.

Although if you exchange salsa dancing with how men are being treated today's in our new "WOKE" culture and mentality, doesn't it make a little more sense?

Wouldn't you agree? Men? Ladies? Maybe not. Regardless, please comment if you disagree and provide an example of how this analogy isn’t a practical rexample of how men are being treated today. Go ahead and bring it on, I’m ready to get into a healthy and collaborative debate. I’ll see ya in there!

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R-

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This episode is a Part 2 of the previous episode, titled The Overlooked and Challenged Benefits of The Traditional Male Value System. On this episode, I I take a moment and breakdown when the "WOKE" or Evolved & Modern Female Gender Roles became common place in society. So there are two time lines to consider, Pre "Woke" or Evolved & Modern Female Gender Roles or the old version of Traditional "Female" Value System and then the current state or TODAY. We go over how these new "WOKE" or the new Elevated & Modern Female Gender Roles re-wrote female gender roles to where they are today.

In this episode, I will spend time going over how the updated "WOKE" or Elevated & Modern New Female Gender Roles overlooked and even challenged a number of today's Traditional Male Role Models. While listening today, try and count how many times I mention the word "expectations" when describing the changes & contridictions men had to learn to overcome and accept. Within this video I will show three different graphs going over the previous Tradition "Female" Role Model acceptable behaviors, attributes and roles. Then I will highlight how the new "WOKE" or Evolved & Modern Female Gender Roles re-wrote acceptable behaviors, attribute and roles. From there I will spend time discussing the unintentional impact these new "WOKE" or Elevated & Modern Female Gender Roles impacted how men viewed/ valued themselves in today's society.

I hope you find it interesting and compelling.

The plan for next episode is to provide more concrete examples of how the new "WOKE" or Elevated & Modern Female Gender roles impacted men in many ways. I'll share some of my personal experience of how I learned to accept the new evolved & modern gender roles. There is a lot to talk about and discuss so please join my Private Discord Server, you've got nothing to lose, it's free. It's worth your time to listen if you are a dude who happens to be struggling today and unsure where you "FIT IN" in today's society. It might answer some questions for you and hopefully help you adjust and create more boundries in your personal life and professional career. I'll see ya in there.

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My links to my notes are below and so are the graphs. I've added just one graph to the my notes.

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R-

Notes Link.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vSb08SvnbjVSJWstMRKJKZ0g7HUZ1eOS2nIp1D6YNIRXCLNrG8-FvZXX-m3LC4X3VrtTQRRSR2mvXqt/pub

Graph Links.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vQJRjaiKtjUSi09uB2L2WPJ4Telfm7cIyBszPN7VIn1qnNm2bqeqr3opAqcFrSgQvAQqY960_p8D5sL/pub

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