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Here is the link to my Introduction Playlist on YouTube. I created this series so new viewers could spend time learning and listening to our primary purpose of The InBetween Man Podcast, Who the host is, Where can you find the content and How the podcast is going to use different social media outlets to help create a new narrative for who and what the Modern Man may be going forward. The link is below.

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This is Part #2 of How Do You Know If You’ve Hit An Emotional Bottom. This episode is with Marcus & Amber Capone. How I found out about both Marcus & Amber is from the research I did for DJ’s video. Patsy, DJ’s wife, calls Amber because she is very worried about DJ and if Patsy is calling Amber, there has got to be a good reason. Marcus, like DJ is a retired DevGru / Seal Team 6 operator and was also interviewed by Shawn Ryan back when he first launched his podcast & YouTube Channel. Another awesome interview conducted by Shawn.

In this episode we start out the first 10 minutes listening to Marcus talk about his experience on Seal Team & DevGru being a breacher. For those of you who don’t know, Marcus was responsible for blowing up small locks on doors or cutting a steel door in half if it’s in the way of their mission objective. It never dawned on me that exposure to 350, 500 or over a 1000 small, medium and large blasts could have such an effect on anyone's brain, but it does make sense. I’ve added a couple of examples into Marcus’s 10 minute overview to try and provide an example of the kind of force these blasts can have on anything. The one video I included, you can see the concussive blast spread out from when it exploded and you can see the camera shocking as a result.

Marcus and DJ’s examples are extreme because they include trauma 90% of the civilian population will never experience. The only similar job compared to what our military might experience is playing football professionally. How many times have you heard Troy Aikman, Steve Young, Jim McMahan all former QB’s talk about getting their bell run and having concussions. But nothing like Marcus or anyone military personnel who have been in combat for a long period of time. I also included a short clip of the movie Warfare that was recently in the movies and available on Amazon Prime. I watched a clip from DJ talking about taking Patsy to go see that movie and at the end, she was balling her eyes out. According to DJ, this movie is what soldiers can experience from a TBI & CTE perspective and the movie only depicted one mission. Some soldiers might have 5 - 10 - 25 missions like this a week. So the numbers add up and the body keeps score.

The remaining clips of the interview with Shawn Ryan are with Amber, Marcus’s wife. Her account of what happens when Marcus retires and what happens when they move back to Texas is just amazing. It’s such a power of example for me there aren’t any words I can think of that describe what Amber & her children went through. The trauma is real, their pain is real, the medical options available to them are small and the emotional toll it takes on Amber is what super hero’s are made of. Amber inspires me and so does Patsy, DJ’s wife.

It’s like getting into a fist fight with someone and having one hand tied behind your back and don’t even know it. I'll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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Here is the link to my Introduction Playlist on YouTube. I created this series so new viewers could spend time learning and listening to our primary purpose of The InBetween Man Podcast, Who the host is, Where can you find the content and How the podcast is going to use different social media outlets to help create a new narrative for who and what the Modern Man may be going forward. The link is below.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLI5wg9OtBZJpw4C63UerC7joPcu2EuhR7

This week I published a podcast episode, titled, “How Do You Know If You’ve Hit An Emotional Bottom?" The link to the episode is below. I edited the last 30 minutes of DJ Shipley’s interview with Shawn Ryan. DJ goes into great detail describing and giving us an example of how someone experienced hitting an emotional bottom. What DJ was willing to do and what DJ wasn’t willing to do and how the consequences for “NOT” being willing to share our secrets could impact our state of mental health. The link to the episode is below.

https://youtu.be/yG60fVhzOfw

This week I also published a podcast episode titled, “Can You Identify With My Pain?”. The examples I provided were specific and hopefully left you with a sense of finality. I believe, men will rarely share their true feelings about any past or present emotional trauma until they have reached a point where they can no longer “keep it” inside.

https://youtu.be/5IHYzbJEkVM

In this episode, I provide the Top 5 dynamics addicts and alcoholics may find themselves in before they are ever ready to admit they could have a drug or alcohol problem. If you’re not an addict or alcoholic, these examples may seem extreme and don’t apply to you. If that is the case, good. The reason for sharing these dynamics is to hopefully widen your perspective on how deep some drug addicts and alcoholics are willing to go to keep their habit going.

Being able to identify with one or more habits, behaviors or emotions in a less extreme sense may compel you to investigate further on your own with help from a professional counselor, the clergy, a close friend, loved ones or a recovery expert. Understanding the cause and effects of our behaviors may help us to be more accountable for our actions. Not anyone else's.

This episode should be considered a “point of reference” you could use personally or share with a friend or maybe understand why someone in your family might be acting the way there are and you suspect they are using. PERSPECTIVE, PERSPECTIVE and PERSPECTIVE. I’ll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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In this episode, I share nine statements I remember telling myself before I become willing to share my deepest and darkest emotions with someone. The statements I made to myself convinced me that I was unique and no one else in the world could ever understand how much emotional pain I was in. It’s all just a lie in the end to keep me feeling isolated from help.

There were many times when I thought about harming myself was my only answer and even after considering it, I was too afraid to follow through with it because I didn’t want to put my x-wife and three boys through that level of serious trauma. So I didn’t and because I didn’t, I was compelled to do what I feared the most. Which was, talk about my most inner secrets I swore I would go to the grave with. I was in enough pain already and finally shared them all with a trustworthy person, I felt reborn.

In this episode, I use the example of a backpack that I carried with me every day and any emotional pain I had on a personal or professional level I would stuff the backpack with these emotional rocks. Over the years of countless suffering, the backpack became so overloaded with emotional rocks I never worked through, I couldn’t carry the load anymore and my knees buckled.

I hope most men can identify with this analogy because I believe we all do this. I think most men get ourselves painted into a corner where we finally have to ask for help with our emotions or we either follow through with harming ourselves. Harming yourself is NEVER a viable option, but why are so many men doing it today?

If you can identify with any of my statements I told myself when I wasn’t willing to share my internal pain with anyone, that is a good thing. It means you aren’t alone and might be willing to accept that you’ve put yourself through enough emotional pain already. Feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions and I will be sure to get back to you. More to come. I’ll see ya in there.

Keep smiling,

R-

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