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The Imperfects

The Imperfects

著者： Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.2026 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • Luke Bateman - Gambling With My Life

    Luke Bateman - Gambling With My Life
    2026/09/27
    Mid 20's and $250,000 in debt. Gripped by a gambling addiction. How do you recover? 💌 Join 9,500+ others in our newsletter community - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/ From the outside, it looked like Luke Bateman was living the dream: a professional NRL career with ludicrous pay checks and sponsorship deals. On the inside, Luke was battling a crippling gambling addiction, deepening depression and a widening chasm between the character he was playing, and his true authentic self. With immense courage, honesty and vulnerability, Luke takes Hugh, Ryan and Josh through the ups and downs of his recovery journey. Luke unpicks the difference between unconditional love and conditional help from his parents, and why his time in rehab was the best thing that ever happened to him. Luke speaks about how his journey with addiction impacted his relationship with his mum, and the gratitude he feels for her now, and how learning about internal family systems changed his life forever. Luke, you are such a beautiful person. Thank you for joining us today. This episode discusses gambling addiction and suicidal ideation. Please take care when listening. This episode is part of the BE HOPE Podcast Takeover, bringing podcasts around the world together to explore the themes of hope and how we can continue to make progress in a rapidly changing world - https://globalgoals.org/behope/ 🚨If you, or someone you know is struggling with a gambling addiction Call LifeLine - 13 11 14Register at BetStop - betstop.gov.auGamblers Anonymous - https://bit.ly/3TJ1C6dGambling Help Online - gamblinghelponline.org.auIn an emergency, always call 000 🩵To hear our chat with Luke about The Manosphere and to join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 0:00 – Trailer: $250K of Gambling Debt1:26 – Be Hope Podcast Takeover Announcement4:15 – Luke Bateman doesn’t fit in a box6:06 – Growing up ‘soft’ in Rural Queensland10:03 – Hiding Books from the Boys17:11 – The Shame of Reading19:22 – Chasing a Dream to Fill the Void22:26 – Money, Drugs & Alcohol in Professional Sport27:40 – Lies, Debt & Betting Company ‘VIP’ Treatment30:26 – Should Gambling Sponsorship Be Banned?31:11 – Rock Bottom33:18 – The Phone Call That Saved His Life39:45 – Rehab, Recovery + Relinquishing Control43:40 – Inside Rehab “Get a Real Addiction”47:21 – Recovery Is Not Linear50:21 – Internal Family Systems: Healing the exiled child56:05 – Generational Masculinity: Why Men Struggle to Connect58:19 – Denial + Corporate Greed1:03:13 – Luke’s Honesty Policy1:06:08 – Unconditional Love vs Conditional Help1:10:18 – Sharing Shame with Teammates1:11:37 – Luke’s Message to Anyone Struggling Right Now1:13:03 – Finding Your Way Back 🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode Jack’s Gambling Addiction Story - https://bit.ly/4hFQmk1 📚Things to read The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane, by Kate DiCamillo - https://bit.ly/46FkS7vKeys to the Kingdom, by Garth Nix - https://bit.ly/4AnBxKBThe Midnight Library, by Matt Haig - https://bit.ly/4d2OzmxNo Bad Parts, by Richard C Scharwtz - https://bit.ly/46FSGkUYou Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For, by Richard C Schwartz - https://bit.ly/3Tp0gx8 🎧Things to listen to In The Good Books with Luke Bateman I Matt Haig: Writing What You Need to Hear - https://bit.ly/4jjvBvK 📱Things to check out Luke’s Instagram (and his thoughts on male silence) - https://bit.ly/46AnIuy 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts http://apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Dr Emily - The Phenomenon That Is Imposter Syndrome

    Dr Emily - The Phenomenon That Is Imposter Syndrome
    2026/09/20
    Do you live in fear of being found out as a fraud? That despite your years of competency, achievement and high performance someone will uncover the truth? Well, you’re in the right place. Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is here to tell you that your imposter syndrome is nothing to be afraid of. In fact, it’s not even a syndrome. 💌 Get practical take-aways from this episode, and join 9,400+ others in our newsletter community - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/ To get a little bit meta, Dr Emily explains that knowing that you don’t know everything, is a good thing. Especially if you’re starting a new role, or trying something for the first time. HOWEVER, the long-term consequences of the imposter cycle such as perfectionism, overcompensation, burnout, or even avoidance and procrastination, may impact your willingness to say yes to new opportunities, such as going for that promotion or asking for support. In this episode, Dr Emily asks Hugh, Ryan and Josh to think about the balance of their competence and confidence, and provides them (and you!) with four practical strategies for combatting this pesky phenomenon. And then, a weird amount of chat about Vlad the Impaler. 0:00 – An Emisode!2:41 – Adam Grant is not an imposter5:11 – Origins of Imposter Syndrome6:45 – ‘Syndrome’ is the wrong word8:19 – It all comes back to belonging10:39 – How common is imposter syndrome?12:20 – Fear of being found out as a fraud15:16 – The evolutionary psychology of belonging and self-doubt16:35 – Is self-doubt actually healthy?17:42 – Is your confidence a mask?18:57 – The Dunning-Kruger Effect23:15 – The more you know ….25:12 – Competence vs confidence26:29 – The Imposter Cycle: anxiety, perfectionism, luck32:09 – Becoming your own favourite artist35:55 – Avoidance, procrastination + self-fulfilling prophecies38:29 – Long term consequences ft. Hugh’s anus45:26 – Authenticity as the antidote46:22 – Less growth, less promotions48:52 – Strategy 1: write down your skills49:53 – Strategy 2: name your shame51:40 – Supporting a friend with imposter phenomenon52:29 – Self-doubt in a new role is a good sign57:12 – Strategy 3: mentor a near peer1:00:38 – Strategy 4: celebrate your success1:02:57 – Creating a good workplace culture1:04:06 – Belonging is good for business1:06:25 – Want more on belonging? Dr Em, thanks for joining us. 🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://bit.ly/4jc0DFMDr Emily - We’re Longing for Belonging - https://bit.ly/4yElLJpRana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - http://bit.ly/4odhGY8Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You - https://bit.ly/4yxgljs 🎧Things to listen to The Curiosity Shop with Brene Brown and Adam Grant - https://bit.ly/4gT05mW 📖Things to read Hidden Potential, by Adam Grant - https://bit.ly/4AemQcvHardwiring Happiness, by Rick Hanson - https://bit.ly/3T6IhM0 📺 Things to watch Mad Men - https://bit.ly/4cLB6zx 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts http://apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Andy Lee - DO NOT Listen To This Episode!

    Andy Lee - DO NOT Listen To This Episode!
    2026/09/13

    When he was 15, Andy Lee’s mum forgot who he was.

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    Given only two weeks to live, Andy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how this news impacted his family, impacted his childhood, and continues to impact his sense of self.

    And then, we’re going all the way back to the early days of Radio Karate, and Hamish & Andy.

    In a long overdue conversation (recorded, of course), Ryan and Andy chat about their own friendship dynamic and why they both felt like the odd one out.

    Getting down to business, Andy and Ryan discuss how a bunch of 20 year old guys made tough financial decisions while trying to remain mates, how they learnt to give constructive criticism to each other, and with the blessing of hindsight, how they feel about that time now.

    Andy, we’ve been waiting for this episode longer than a baker with his oven off.

    0:00 – 2 years of secret vocal coaching
    4:35 – HOW long for one cartoon episode?
    5:48 – When Andy met Hamish (and Ryan)
    9:39 – The impact of getting cancelled after 5 episodes
    10:08 – The best advice Andy received
    14:07 – Jealousy, Jealousy
    20:25 – The Four Way Split of Hamish & Andy
    23:42 – Should we be recording this?
    25:10 – Social media has replaced the paparazzo
    26:11 – Andy’s nude photo scandal
    30:23 – Inspiration and renegotiation
    36:55 – The Vulnerabilitea House
    38:02 – When your mum is given two weeks to live
    40:30 – Rapid deterioration and rush to hospital
    43:28 – Taking on the parent role at 15
    46:04 – Furious at the new normal
    49:09 – Why “Don’t Worry, It’ll Be Fine” is the worst thing to say
    54:36 – Andy’s Dad’s incredible sacrifice
    58:20 – The Lee Gazette
    1:00:50 – Why we should talk about will’s

    🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

    • Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/4A230B5

    📺 Things to watch

    • Institute of Sayings from Real Stories - https://bit.ly/4xBJHgq
    • Do Not Watch This Show! - https://bit.ly/4cAwlIZ
    • New Zealand Spy - https://bit.ly/4hdjPBI

    🎧Things to listen to

    • Andy Lee on Falling Upwards with Kate Langbroek - https://bit.ly/4yucp30

    🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - theimperfects.com.au/shop

    🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - theimperfects.com.au/shop

    🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

    🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts http://apple.co/theimperfects

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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