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My wedding day did not go according to plan…and somehow, it was still the best day ever.

After months of planning every detail myself, I thought being prepared was how I would create the perfect wedding. Instead, the process became an unexpected lesson in everything I thought I had already worked through: perfectionism, control, people-pleasing, visibility, overthinking, and my tendency to high-perform my way through stressful seasons.

In this episode, I'm taking you behind the scenes of planning my wedding as a Type A, high-achieving woman — from realizing that wedding planning had essentially become my new job, to navigating difficult RSVPs, other people's opinions, asking for help, slowing down my business, and learning to regulate through one of the biggest transitions of my life.

And then the wedding day arrived…and things still went wrong. It rained. We moved the ceremony. We fell behind schedule. The sound had issues. After spending months trying to control every possible outcome, I finally understood that the goal was never to create a perfectly executed day.

The goal was to be present enough to experience it.

Whether you're planning a wedding, navigating a major transition, growing a career, raising a family, or entering a new season of life, this episode is about learning when to prepare and when to finally let go.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Positive life changes can still stretch your nervous system and bring old patterns like perfectionism, control, and people-pleasing back to the surface.
• Not every season needs to be about growth—sometimes maintaining is what gives you the capacity to be present for what matters most.
• You can prepare for every detail, but real freedom comes from knowing when to let go and trust that things will work out.

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Episode Highlights: wedding planning stress, Type A bride, nervous system regulation, wedding anxiety, perfectionism, letting go of control, high achiever burnout, wedding burnout, planning your own wedding, stress management, emotional regulation, people pleasing, perfectionism and control, staying present, high achieving women, nervous system healing, wedding planning tips, bride anxiety, self regulation, life transitions, burnout recovery, ambitious women, personal growth

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CHAPTERS

00:00 — My Wedding Didn't Go According to Plan
03:27 — When Wedding Planning Became Burnout
08:03 — What Actually Stressed Me Out
09:30 — The Vulnerability of Being Seen
12:44 — Learning to Be Present for the Process
15:02 — What the RSVPs Taught Me About Friendship
20:00 — Dealing With Other People's Opinions
23:30 — When Exciting Things Dysregulate You
27:20 — Choosing to Maintain Instead of Grow
30:50 — Delegating and Letting Go of Control
36:45 — When the Wedding Day Plans Changed
40:48 — Presence Over Perfection
43:45 — Prepare, Let Go, and Trust
45:38 — A New Resource for Type A Brides

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I'm taking my own advice and stepping away from the podcast for a few weeks as I head into the final stretch before my wedding.

As excited as I am to marry Thomas, this season has stretched my nervous system in ways I didn't fully expect. Between planning every detail, navigating other people's opinions, chasing RSVPs, managing stress, and allowing myself to actually be seen and celebrated, I've had to confront some old patterns around people pleasing, visibility, and asking others to show up for me.

In this episode, I'm sharing what this season has taught me about nervous system capacity, allowing yourself to feel your emotions instead of suppressing them, and recognizing when it's time to adjust your expectations. Most importantly, I'm talking about why sustainable success requires us to adapt to the season we're actually in instead of forcing ourselves to maintain the same pace forever.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Sustainable success requires adaptability. The strategy and pace that worked in one season of your life may not be what you need in the next.
• Being seen and supported can stretch your nervous system. Growth is not only about handling more responsibility. Sometimes the uncomfortable part is allowing other people to celebrate, love, and show up for you.
• Being capable of pushing through doesn't mean you should. Listening to your body and adjusting your priorities is not weakness. It can be exactly what protects you from resentment, exhaustion, and burnout.

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Episode Highlights: burnout, nervoussystem, regulation, stress, success, alignment, boundaries, capacity, resilience, visibility, vulnerability, emotions, growth, mindset, productivity, rest, recovery, adaptability, overwhelm, perfectionism, peoplepleasing, wedding, relationships, hormones, balance, selfcare, fulfillment, burnoutrecovery

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CHAPTERS

00:00 – Taking My Own Advice
02:38 – Wedding Planning & Regulation
03:42 – The Visibility of Growth
05:00 – My Visibility Wound
05:40 – People Pleasing & Wedding Stress
07:23 – Letting Myself Have the Meltdown
09:43 – Knowing When to Pivot

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What if one of the greatest gifts you could give your child isn't better parenting, but a more regulated nervous system?

In this episode, I sit down with nervous system coach Laura Larios to explore how our childhood experiences shape the way we lead, parent, and respond to stress. We discuss why children borrow the nervous systems of the adults around them, how unresolved emotional wounds show up in high performers, and simple ways to break generational patterns without striving for perfection.

If you've ever wondered why your child's emotions trigger you or how to create a calmer, more connected home, this conversation is for you.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Your child learns emotional safety from your nervous system before they learn it from your words.
• Unresolved childhood wounds can quietly shape how you parent, lead, and respond to stress.
• Small moments of regulation can create lasting change for both you and your children.

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Episode Highlights: nervous, system, regulation, parenting, trauma, childhood, emotions, children, burnout, stress, leadership, healing, safety, connection, triggers, dysregulation, attachment, somatic, grief, anger, anxiety, overwhelm, caregivers, teachers, capacity, presence, resilience, relationships, generational, patterns

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LINKS & RESOURCES

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lauralisalarios/

LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauralisalarios/

Website →https://lauralisalarios.com/

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro

01:01 Why Nervous System Work Matters More Than Ever

07:08 What It Means When Children Borrow Your Nervous System

11:41 How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adulthood

17:35 Why High Performers Repeat Unhealthy Patterns

20:33 Why Your Child's Emotions Trigger You

26:57 Why You Need to Feel Every Emotion

33:06 Creating Safety Before Healing

38:40 Breaking the Cycle With Your Children

44:17 Practical Steps to Stay Calm in Difficult Moments

52:25 Small Changes That Transform Your Nervous System

54:32 Final Thoughts & Where to Find Laura

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What if the goal of nervous system healing isn't to feel calm all the time?

In this episode, I challenge one of the biggest misconceptions about healing and explain why true emotional resilience comes from increasing your capacity to experience the full range of human emotions. I share why high achievers often suppress anger and sadness, how those emotions become stored in the body, and practical ways to safely release them.

If you've been chasing peace but still feel stuck, this episode will help you understand why making space for difficult emotions is the key to experiencing more joy, connection, and freedom.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why emotional resilience is more important than feeling calm all the time.

• How repressed anger and sadness contribute to burnout and chronic stress.

• Practical techniques to safely process and release difficult emotions.

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Episode Highlights: burnout, nervous system, emotions, healing, stress, anxiety, resilience, regulation, trauma, somatics, mindset, leadership, executives, performance, wellbeing, wellness, grief, anger, sadness, confidence, joy, peace, freedom, relationships, connection, burnoutrecovery, emotionalhealth, nervoussystemhealing, selfawareness, growth, mindfulness

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro
01:06 Calm Is Not the Real Goal
02:03 What You're Actually Chasing
03:28 The Stress Bucket Explained
04:36 The Problem With Positive Thinking
05:51 Why High Achievers Suppress Emotions
07:27 Where Emotional Repression Begins
09:44 Why Anger Gets Stuck in the Body
11:31 Using Voice Notes to Release Anger
13:05 Safe Ways to Physically Release Anger
14:29 Why You Need to Let Yourself Cry
19:15 Making Space for Joy, Peace, and Connection

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I thought wedding planning would be stressful because of the logistics, but I realized the hardest part had nothing to do with vendors or timelines. It was the vulnerability of being seen and allowing people to celebrate me.

In this episode, I share how planning my wedding uncovered a deeper belief that I have to earn love instead of simply receiving it. We explore how nervous system regulation, trusted relationships, and challenging old stories can help us let people show up for us. Whether you're planning a wedding, celebrating a birthday, pursuing a promotion, or stepping into a new season of life, this episode is an invitation to stop shrinking yourself and start receiving the love that's already there.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Wedding planning can uncover deeper emotional patterns, including the fear of being seen and the belief that love must be earned.
• Regulating your nervous system and leaning on trusted people helps quiet anxious thoughts and reconnect you with the truth.
• Life's biggest moments are meant to be celebrated. Learning to receive love and let others show up for you is an important part of healing.

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Episode Highlights: wedding, weddingplanning, bride, brides, bridal, bachelorette, bridalshower, weddingstress, visibility, vulnerability, selfworth, selflove, confidence, burnout, nervoussystem, regulation, healing, anxiety, perfectionism, peoplepleasing, boundaries, innerchild, mindset, relationships, love, receiving, celebration, birthdays, emotionalhealing, personalgrowth, selfacceptance, authenticity

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why Being Celebrated Feels So Uncomfortable

00:55 Wedding Planning Wasn't the Real Stress

02:20 Why Good Things Still Stress Your Nervous System

03:45 The Anxiety of Sending Wedding Invitations

05:31 The Belief That I Have to Earn Love

07:22 Why We Downplay Birthdays and Big Milestones

08:47 The Visibility Wound High Achievers Carry

10:06 Learning to Let People Help

11:08 The Moment Thomas Changed My Perspective

12:26 How I Challenge Anxious Thoughts

13:50 Let People Show Up for You

14:44 Life Is Meant to Be Celebrated

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If you've been thinking about quitting your job because you're completely burnt out, I want to encourage you to pause first. In this episode, I share why I no longer tell people to simply quit when they're unhappy at work.

I take you through my own burnout journey from working in finance at Mercedes-Benz, surviving on very little sleep, living in constant stress, and waking up every day with dread, to eventually building a business that feels deeply aligned with who I am.

The biggest lesson I learned is that burnout changes the way you think. When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, it's difficult to make clear decisions about your career, relationships, and future. I'll explain why healing your burnout first allows you to see your situation with clarity so you can decide whether it's truly your job that needs to change or whether there's a deeper pattern asking for your attention.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Burnout changes your perception, making major life decisions feel more urgent than they actually are.

• Healing your nervous system creates clarity so you can make decisions from alignment instead of survival.

• If you don't address the root cause of burnout, the same patterns often follow you into your next job, relationship, or chapter of life.

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Episode Highlights: burnout, stress, nervous system, healing, regulation, dysregulation, mindset, career, work, workplace, job, leadership, entrepreneur, highachiever, anxiety, resilience, wellness, wellbeing, growth, clarity, alignment, productivity, exhaustion, recovery, emotions, mindset, self awareness, meditation, spirituality, purpose, confidence, balance, habits, transformation, coaching, performance, health, success, nervous system work, burnout recovery

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LINKS & RESOURCES

Listen to The 4 Nervous System States That Secretly Control Your Thoughts | EP 88 | https://open.spotify.com/episode/10pBK4hscjrvo3dOqPBk01?si=8AZpxzR6Q_KtmWrhjkamDQ

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CHAPTERS

00:00 – Is It Really Your Job?
01:00 – Why Burnout Changes Your Perspective
03:26 – How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Thoughts
04:21 – My Burnout Story at Mercedes
08:12 – The Turning Point
10:29 – Healing Before Making Big Decisions
12:47 – One Small Step Every Day
15:09 – Why I Didn't Quit Right Away
17:26 – Knowing It Was Finally Time to Leave
21:46 – Preparing for the Leap
24:06 – Don't Let Burnout Follow You
26:23 – The Most Powerful Place to Look