You know that moment you've been triggered and you just react. You say or do something you later regret.

Like you're at pickup, and the ex says something in front of the kids, and before you know it you’re having an argument with your partner on the way home about it.

And then you spiral into all these thoughts. Thinking about what she said. What you should have said back. What your partner is thinking. You lose the evening arguing with your partner. You lose sleep. You’re distracted at work.

And later you’re thinking, “how did that happen? I don't even want to be doing that.” But it’s like you just can’t help it.

Most of us only recognise that we’ve been triggered once we’ve already reacted, when it's too late to stop it. But your reaction doesn’t come out of nowhere. You have a trigger pattern.

Once you can see it, you can catch it earlier – before the spiral completely takes over your day.

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👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

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You helped with school pickup – and you were criticized for overstepping. So you stopped – now you're accused of not caring about the kids.

Eventually you start wondering what you're doing wrong. Because you're just trying to fit into this family, but everything you do just seems to make things worse.

This is world of the no-win stepmum, where no matter what you do, it's wrong. Most stepmums dealing with a high conflict ex find themselves here.

So what exactly are you supposed to do? I'm going to answer that question today.

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

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You've decided to meet with the high conflict ex.

That means you’ll be sitting across from someone you don't trust, in a conversation where you have no control over what she says or does. It’s enough to send you into a spiral.

If this was a meeting with a reasonable person, then you could just turn up, have a normal conversation, and leave.

But dealing with someone with a history of conflict is different. You can't assume the conversation will stay on topic, remain respectful, or end when it's supposed to.

Most stepmums make the same mistakes. They don’t prepare, they get caught off guard and set themselves up for trouble.

This episode is your preparation – so you can walk in steady, stay in control, and leave on your terms.

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

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So... the high conflict ex wants to meet with you.

She says “it’s not unreasonable to want to meet the woman who’ll be living with my kids.”

And it’s not unreasonable... if it was coming from someone reasonable.

You immediately know this is a loaded invitation. Now you feel trapped between two bad options – meet and risk being interrogated and having your words twisted, or refuse and risk being painted as rude and uncooperative.

So is saying yes the right thing to do?

Does saying no make you look like the problem?

Today I’m going to show you what’s really behind this meeting request, and how to decide whether to say yes or no.

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

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Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

You're suspicious. Of course you are. The ex has been hostile for months. And then one day… she’s suddenly being nice.

It's weird. She must be up to something.

But no one else seems to think so. Your partner thinks things are settling down. Maybe your friends think she's finally coming around.

And now you wonder – am I just cynical?

Today I'm going to show you what's really behind this weird ‘nice’ behaviour of hers, and what to do the next time it happens.

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

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Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

You set a boundary. You meant it. Then the ex lost her s**t, your partner caved, and you backed down. Now you're back where you started.

Here's the thing. The reason this happens is not just because boundaries are hard. It's because most of us don't actually know how to hold a boundary.

Holding a boundary is a skill. And today, I'm going to show you how to do it.

👉 Ep 13: Setting Boundaries With the Ex When You're Terrified of What She’ll Do

👉 Grab my FREE Escalation-Proof Boundary Planner – identify all the ways the ex might push back and what you'll do to protect yourself

👉 Ep 47: How to Finally Step Back from the Drama… & Stay There (Part 3/3)

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

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Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

Boundaries with a high conflict ex are harder than anyone tells you. In this Q&A I'm answering real boundary questions from stepmums:

• She ignores every boundary we set. How do you actually get a high conflict ex to respect them?
• She keeps contacting me directly. Should I say something – or just block her?
• Every time I ignore her I feel so guilty, and then I give in. How do I stop?
• I resent my partner for not setting boundaries. Am I wasting my energy trying to help him?
• I set a boundary, the ex retaliated and I backed down. What do I do now?

👉 Episode Show Notes

👉 Ep 8: When Your Partner Won’t Set Boundaries With the Ex

👉 Ep 45: When Stepping Back from the Drama Isn't Working (Part 1/3)

👉 Ep 13: Setting Boundaries With the Ex When You're Terrified of What She’ll Do

👉 Grab my FREE Escalation-Proof Boundary Planner, so you can set your first boundary today and know exactly what to do when she pushes back.

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

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Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

You're pregnant. You and your partner are building something together. Something that is finally, completely, entirely yours. This was supposed to be one of the best moments of your life.

But instead of just getting to enjoy it, you're already thinking about what the high conflict ex is going to do to ruin it. The threats. The financial demands. The things she'll say to the kids.

This is supposed to be your moment and you feel like she's stealing it.

Today I'm talking about why she's doing it and how to protect your pregnancy from the high conflict ex so she doesn't take your energy, your health and your happiness.

If you're pregnant, or planning to be – you need to hear this.

👉 Episode Show Notes

🔍 Not sure if your partner's ex is truly high conflict or just difficult? Knowing makes all the difference. Take my quiz – you’ll know in 2 minutes: highconflictblueprint.com/quiz

📩 Join my list. My emails are where I share things I don't share anywhere else (because I don’t just teach this stuff, I actually live it). Join here: highconflictblueprint.com/email

🎙️Got a question or situation you'd like me to cover on the podcast? Tell me here: highconflictblueprint.com/questions

Heads up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is for educational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.