If you have been told that vaginismus is simply a vaginal problem, this episode will change everything you thought you knew.

In this conversation, I sit down with Faith Duncan Shotunde, a pelvic floor physiotherapist, to unpack what vaginismus actually is. Faith breaks down the different types of vaginismus, the causes that Black and Brown women specifically may never have considered, and why vaginismus is a full-body issue that goes far deeper than the vagina alone.

We also get into the role of the pelvic floor muscles in vaginismus, the trauma that often sits underneath the physical symptoms and the effects of vaginismus on newborns during childbirth.

About Our Guest

Faith Duncan-Shotunde is an Award-winning Pelvic Floor Expert | Global Speaker |Educator | Creator of Fast-Result Pelvic Health Systems.

She was recognised as the pioneer of Women and Pelvic Health Physiotherapy in Lagos State, Nigeria. She has spent the last 16 years developing rehabilitation systems, training physiotherapists, and designing structured solutions that help men and women overcome pelvic floor dysfunctions within 30 days.

Through her systems, she has helped women achieve pain-free vaginal penetration after years of fear, men experience consistent erections and improved stamina, individuals eliminate urine leakage during daily activities, and pregnant women experience shorter labour without vaginal tears- improving the quality of life around intimate health and scaling economic development with healthy individuals.

She is ranked as Nigeria's Number one Leading Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist and a top three pelvic floor physiotherapist in Africa.

She is the creator of Fear Free Sex, Hard Stamina, Control Over Peezing and Preggofit- proven frameworks that help individuals overcome Pelvic floor problems within 15 days.

She has collaborated with notable women's health organisations including Jumejilo, Fertitude, Babymigo, and Lavendarcare. Her work has been featured on platforms such as the International Forum on Women's Health Care, Mypelvicfloormuscle, RCCG Convention, Eko FM, amongst others.

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wa.me/+2347063993734

www.thewomanhealthphysio.com

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Keywords: vaginismus, pelvic floor, types of vaginismus, women's sexual health, vaginismus and childbirth, pain during sex, pain during penetration, trauma and vaginismus

In this episode, I am sharing my personal journey with vaginismus. The years of painful sex I called normal, the compliments I mistook for confirmation that everything was fine, and the moment a doctor confirmed what a stranger on the internet had already told me. This is the episode I wish had existed when I was trying to figure out what happening to my body.

THis episode opens Season 3 of The Fat and Horny Podcast, themed Body Uncensored. A season dedicated to the pain African and Black women are told is normal, the diagnoses that take too long, and the conversations our communities are not having about women's sexual health. This season we are covering vaginismus, endometriosis, PMOS, menopause, menatal health and sexuality, STIs, FGM, and more!

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Keywords: vaginismus, women's sexual health, vaginismus diagnosis, vaginsimus symptoms, pain during sex, Nobuhle N Nyoni

Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about various forms of sexual assault and violence. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode.

In this episode, Alice Mills Mai helps us understand the sexual trauma often faced by same-sex violence survivors. She defines what intimate partner violence can look like and speaks to the reality that healing and trauma recovery don't look the same for every survivor. Society and authorities lessen the severity of these charges because "it was just a woman." Yet bodies only remember the sexual violence exerted on them, not the gender of the perpetrator. This problem exists because the legal definition of rape or sexual assault is penetration-centred, ignoring non-consensual acts such as touching, coercion, and the violation of boundaries within BDSM dynamics.

Dr. Alice brings a key perspective on validating survivors' experiences, especially when their trauma is dismissed because the perpetrator was another woman. The discussion sheds light on the barriers faced by marginalised groups, including Black women, masculine-presenting lesbians, and fat women, who are often not believed by law enforcement or their own communities.

Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community.

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Keywords: sexual violence, sexual assault, sexual trauma, consent, LGBTQIA+, body image, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, Dr Alice The Trauma Therapist,

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode.

How do you reclaim your body and find pleasure after sexual trauma? In this conversation, we speak with Amanda Tayte-Tait, a survivor of child sexual abuse that began when she was just six years old. Amanda shares her journey of healing from the sexual shame, numbness, and societal silence surrounding abuse, highlighting the harm behind purity culture and how it inhibits healing and self-forgiveness.

She helps us understand what it took for her to understand the power of consent, communicate her sexual boundaries, and reconnect her body to sex and pleasure after years of living with sexual trauma. We also discuss the powerful message behind her book, At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me?

Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community.

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Keywords: child sexual abuse, sexual trauma, sexual assault, rape, sexual violence, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, hypersexuality, sexual shame, pleasure

What if your sexual wellness and pleasure weren't just a personal goal, but a power you were always meant to claim?

In this episode, holistic sexologist and intimacy coach Dawryn Nyiramugisha explores the revolutionary idea that fat women have an erotic birthright, and she takes us back into African culture to prove it. She dismantles the colonial myths and shame that have historically denied this truth, replacing them with a joy-filled roadmap to reclaiming your sensual power.

Dawryn shares how to blend African sensual wisdom with practical tools, techniques to rewire your brain, and how to express your sexual desires, especially in queer relationships confidently. She reminds us of the importance of breathing and staying present during sex. Bonus: She teaches us how to breathe during sex for heightened pleasure.

Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community.

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Keywords: decolonising sex, sex and sexuality, body image, beauty standards, sensuality, African culture, intimacy, women's pleasure, sexual wellness

Hookup culture is sold as fun, freeing, and low-pressure. But for women, especially those navigating societal expectations and internalised sexual shame, the reality can be a minefield of ghosting, mixed signals, and shattered confidence.

In this conversation, award-winning therapist and author Dr. Donna Oriowo dismantles hookup culture myths and explores the heart of what sexual liberation truly requires. She asks the tough questions: What are the mental and emotional costs of casual sex? How does being ghosted truly impact self-worth? And is the goal really "hookup culture," or are we just seeking power in a world that tells us our desire for pleasure is wrong?

Dr. Donna challenges listeners to move beyond toxic individualism and see sexual healing as a community project. She helps us understand how to define sexual liberation for yourself, the crucial role of masturbation in self-knowledge, and why the LGBTQIA+ community holds the blueprint for the freedom so many claim to want.

Book recommendations to decolonise your pleasure: Pleasure Activism, Good Sex, and Dr. Donna's Drink Water & Mind Your Business.

Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community.

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Keywords: sexual liberation, hookup culture, patriarchy, casual sex, pleasure, LGBTQIA+, body image, healing, masturbation, sex and sexuality