In this episode, Arejay shares the powerful journey of transforming from a disempowered empath into an empowered empath. Through a four-step healing process:

1. Learn to manage energy

2. Release the absorption story

3. Stop claiming emotions

4. Work with emotions as messengers

This episode is both a deeply personal story and a roadmap for empaths ready to move from survival to sovereignty.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, wobbly, or like you should “have it all together by now,” this episode is your reminder that the mess is where the magic happens.

In this raw and encouraging episode, speaking directly to entrepreneurs, leaders, and anyone navigating growth, Arejay reminds us that perfection isn’t the goal—being human is.

With honesty and humor, she touches on:

• Why being seen in your struggles makes you more trustworthy, not less

• Shattering that feeling of “knowing nothing” because you’re figuring something out

• The importance of adjusting, growing, and embracing imperfection as part of leadership
  
  

Arejay encourages leaders to embrace their imperfections and seek help when needed. She highlight the value of relatability and practical experience over theoretical knowledge. Arejay also offers support through tarot readings and human design coaching

Arejay emphasizes the importance of letting some things miss you to avoid burnout and paralysis from overconsumption. She shares a personal experience and highlights the necessity of discernment to allocate time and attention effectively. The conversation underscores the value of self-awareness and strategic time management.

Arejay shares their experience with an AI interview, expressing frustration over the lack of an AI-generated avatar and the impersonal nature of the process. She highlights potential issues with delaying human interaction in the interviewing and hiring process. Overall Arejay was not a fan of the experience.

Arejay introduces a nine-card spread for self-reflection and guidance, inspired by Jennifer Kohler's August 2025 monthly forecast call. The spread includes questions like "What is top of mind?" and "What underlying belief is present in this want?" Arejay emphasizes flexibility and intuition, suggesting listeners adapt the spread if they feel guided to do so. The process involves pulling cards from multiple decks, if desired, and interpreting them intuitively before consulting guidebooks. Arejay encourages following inner nudges over rigid adherence to rules and promises to add an option to download the spread PDF on the episode's webpage https://theessenceofexpression.com/episodes/tarot-spread-self-support-august-2025/

Arejay emphasizes the importance of patience and understanding natural rhythms in personal growth. She warns against the impatience that arises from unrealistic expectations and the need for immediate results. Arejay suggests that hitting a wall might be a sign to pause and integrate new information. She advises seeking support and expanding beyond comfort zones. She highlights the non-linear nature of life, encouraging individuals to trust the process and let go of rigid timelines. Arejay reassures that progress is being made and that seeking deeper understanding and stillness can aid in the journey.

Arejay reflects on the concept of Sankofa, emphasizing the importance of learning from the past to build a better future. She shares a personal journey of rediscovering practices that brought her peace and clarity, including energetic cleansing and prayer. This led to insights and breakthroughs, helping her recalibrate from hyperfocusing to a more balanced approach. Arejay encourages others to revisit past lessons and treasures to guide their present actions, ensuring sustainable growth and alignment with their true selves.

Arejay discusses the importance of recognizing and responding to signals that indicate a need to rest, using a personal anecdote about burning bacon as an example. She emphasizes the value of pivoting when necessary and not pushing through when the body or mind is not fully present. Arejay highlights the consequences of ignoring these signs, such as reduced productivity and potential illness. She encourages listeners to pay attention to subtle and more obvious cues that signal a need for a break, suggesting that early recognition can prevent more severe issues. Arejay concludes by affirming that taking time for oneself is a valid need and essential for well-being.