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  • Intro episode

    Intro episode
    2025/07/09
    Welcome to The ENM DNM Hey friends! This is a quick intro to The ENM DNM – a podcast where we have deep and meaningful conversations about ethical non-monogamy.

    I’m Adam (he/him), a counsellor, youth worker, and community member, and this podcast is just people sharing their real experiences of ENM.
    No advice, no preaching—just honest chats.

    If you like what you hear and want to support the pod (and help me offer free or discounted therapy to those who need it), you can join the Discord by chucking in a few dollars on Ko-fi. It really helps. Thanks for being here. Let’s get into it.
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    4 分
  • Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

    Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM
    2025/07/09
    Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

    What happens when your queerness, culture, neurodivergence, and upbringing all collide with ethical non-monogamy? We’re talking about the beautiful mess that is intersectionality. In this episode, we explore how identity shapes the way we show up in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). From growing up in religious households or navigating white privilege to being queer, neurodivergent, or culturally “othered,” we get real about how our histories affect our desires, relationships, and sense of belonging in polyamorous and open relationship spaces. This is one for anyone who's ever wondered, "Am I doing this right?" or "Is it just me?" (Spoiler: it’s not.)

    What We Talk About:
    • How race, culture, gender, and queerness influence our experiences in ENM
    • The impact of religious and conservative upbringings on identity and relationships
    • Shame, internalised norms, and how we begin to unlearn them
    • The role of gender identity and sexuality in open relationships
    • Navigating ENM while feeling “not queer enough” or “too much”
    • Relationship structures beyond the mainstream
    • Friendship, intimacy, and redefining what connection means
    • Vulnerability, self-discovery, and making space for change
    Mentioned in This Episode:
    • Ko-Fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and our community
    • The Ethical Slut (book)

    Love what you hear?
    • If this episode resonated with you, give us a follow, leave a review, or support the pod on Ko-fi.
    • Want to keep the conversation going?
    • Join our queer-friendly Discord community where we talk ENM, identity, support, and more.


    Next episode, we’re diving into communication and boundaries—how we define them, where we struggle, and what it means to communicate well in ENM.
    Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, communication, consent, and community.
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    1 時間 18 分
  • Episode 2: Navigating The Early Days of ENM

    Episode 2: Navigating The Early Days of ENM
    2025/07/09
    Episode 2: Initial Struggles with ENM

    Starting out in ethical non-monogamy can feel like learning to walk on a tightrope—in the dark, with no map. We’ve been there.

    What we talk about in this episode:

    In this episode, we get real about the messy, confusing, and sometimes magical first six months of navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM). From awkward first dates and emotional overwhelm to finding community and unlearning monogamy norms, we share the stuff people don’t always talk about. Whether you’re newly polyamorous, deep in open relationships, or just curious about relationship structures outside the mainstream, this one’s for you. What We Talk About:
    • Our first steps into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory
    • Where we looked for information, advice, and emotional support
    • Early emotional challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and loneliness
    • The cultural and queer identity layers that shaped our experiences
    • How support groups, dating apps, and community events helped (or didn’t)
    • Good advice, bad advice, and everything in between
    • Personal reflections, resilience, and learning to sit with discomfort
    • What we wish we’d known when we were starting out in ENM
    Mentioned in This Episode:
    • ko-fi.com/enmdnm
    • yarnn.au
    • Poly Phelia Instagram
    • Shrimp Teeth Instagram
    • The Ethical Slut (book)
    Love what you hear?
    • If this episode resonated with you, give us a follow, leave a review, or support the pod on Ko-fi.
    • Want to keep the conversation going? Join our queer-friendly Discord community where we talk ENM, dating, identity, and more.
    • Next episode, we’re diving into intersectionality in ENM—how our race, gender, queerness, and lived experience shape the way we show up in relationships.
    Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, communication, community, and the very real struggles of starting out.
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    1 時間 2 分
  • Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

    Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM
    2025/07/09
    Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

    How We Found Ethical Non-Monogamy and What It Means to Us Curious about how people actually get into ethical non-monogamy? In this very first episode of The ENM DNM, we sit down with our full crew – Adam, Leonie, Ed, Ari, and Jacqui – to share how we each found our way into ENM, polyamory, or something a little harder to define. From queerness and curiosity to dissatisfaction with monogamy, our journeys into non-traditional relationship structures are deeply personal, sometimes hilarious, and always real. We unpack the words that have shaped us – like polyamory, relationship anarchy, and ethical non-monogamy – and how labels can be both empowering and frustrating. Whether you're still figuring out what label (if any) fits you, or you're happily dancing outside the boxes, this one’s for you.

    What we talk about in this episode:
    • How we each came to non-monogamy, and why
    • Why labels like polyamory, ENM, and RA can be useful… or not
    • What communication, consent, and boundaries look like in real life
    • Early challenges and moments of growth
    • How queer identity, community, and self-discovery intersect in our relationships
    Mentioned in this episode:
    • ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and help us keep going 💛
    • yarnn.au
    • hausofdizzy.com
    • kinyalerrk.com.au
    • clothingthegaps.com.au
    • Decolonise Yourself Card Game by Aretha Brown
    Love what you hear?
    • Join our community on Discord (coming soon!)
    • Support us on Ko-Fi
    • Subscribe or follow wherever you get your podcasts
    • Share this episode with your polycule, your curious mates, or your queer book club
    Next episode: Navigating The Early Days of ENM– we’re diving into the messy first six months of non-monogamy and how we survived them.
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    1 時間 4 分