In this solo episode, Betsy comes back to a line she's been circling for months - since being diagnosed with cancer. She records this episode on the other side of a summer of chemotherapy, which she didn't know was coming when she first jotted down notes for this episode.

She bites into Anthony de Mello's line "life is a feast but most people are starving to death."

This isn't a recovery story. It's not "here's what cancer taught me," tied off with a bow. It's Betsy asking the same question mid-feast that she asked in March, post-cancer diagnosis, pre-surgery, pre-chemo: are you feasting, or are you starving in a room full of abundance?

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• What it costs to keep choosing the feast when circumstances get harder instead of easier

• "Starvation consciousness" - the stories that convince us we're in famine when we're not: not enough, behind, wrong country, wrong timing

• Why abundance was never about the conditions. It's about what you let yourself taste

• The direct line between nervous system regulation and whether life feels vivid or flat

• The difference between numbing pain and actually metabolising it

• Why presence doesn't require the threat to be gone, and why that's the uncomfortable part

• What it costs to want things fully when wanting itself feels risky

• Why she refuses to sit here and politely starve

The discomfort practice for this week:

Notice where you're starving in the middle of abundance.

Where are you postponing joy? Where are you numbing instead of tasting? Where are you pretending not to want what you actually want?

And where might life already be offering you something you're afraid to receive?

Just take one bite...

The Discomfort Practice explores the edges where growth, truth and aliveness meet, the places we usually avoid, but where our real lives actually begin.

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This is an unusual episode of The Discomfort Practice. For six years, Betsy has only recorded solos when she's felt in creative flow, with thoughts already framed. This one is different. She's a week late posting, and instead of waiting for the mood to arrive, she's recording from inside it: chemo has gotten hard, a client canceled projects and wiped out her planned summer income and another piece of work fell through yesterday; she's newly and suddenly in menopause - with a nervous system that has lost its usual brakes; it's been 100 degrees in southern Spain for days with a month of heat still ahead; she's bald from chemo and her feet hurt all the time (but she still has to walk her dog); and she's mostly alone with it. And kind of over it. But not yet through it…

This is the edge of her own discomfort practice, and she decided that's exactly what belongs on the podcast. Not a lesson extracted afterward. Not a tidy insight. Just what it sounds like to turn on the mic without knowing when any of this ends, or what it's for. She gets a little weepy, which is not something she would have been brave enough to post even six months ago. But this is Betsy, living life out loud and welcoming others to do the same, whatever state they're in.

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• Why she's recording this solo without waiting to feel "in the mood," and what that shift is teaching her

• What it's actually like to be a week behind on the podcast because life didn't cooperate

• Chemo, sudden surgical menopause, and a nervous system with no brakes left

• Financial crisis, cancelled work, and not having the energy to reinvent her business again

• Deep summer heat in Spain, and losing rest as a coping tool just as she needed it most

• The loneliness of long stretches without real human contact, even while being cared for

• Sitting with the question "what's the lesson in this?" and not forcing an answer

• Being the homework for the Embodied Leadership Lab — living out loud as the method, not just teaching it

• A line from the late poet Andrea Gibson, who wrote from her own chemo chair: measuring a life by width, not length

• Pema Chödrön's words on the "off-center, in-between state" as the actual practice, not an obstacle to it

The Discomfort Practice explores the uncomfortable edges where personal growth, leadership, embodiment and systems change intersect. Follow Betsy for more reflections on reinvention, craft, uncertainty and building a life that feels vividly alive.

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In this episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy is joined by Claire Carpenter - coach, social innovator, entrepreneur, and founder of Scotland's Centre for Social Innovation, The Melting Pot - for a conversation about what it really costs to build something before the world even has language for it.

Claire founded The Melting Pot nearly twenty years ago, long before coworking became mainstream and before "social innovation" became a buzzword. Together, Betsy and Claire explore the loneliness, creativity, exhaustion, identity shifts, and deep purpose of being an early pioneer - particularly in the social impact world.

They talk candidly about burnout, leadership, the hidden emotional cost of sustaining mission-driven work, and the uncomfortable reality that many nonprofit structures may inadvertently prevent the very change they exist to create. This is a conversation about building community, surviving systems that weren't designed for humans, and what happens when the people trying to make the world better forget they are human too.

• What it feels like to create something before people understand why it matters

• The early days of coworking and social innovation in Scotland

• Why pioneering often means spending years swimming against the current

• The emotional and relational cost of building mission-driven work

• Leadership, burnout, and learning to care for yourself while caring for a vision

• How COVID changed Claire's perspective on charities and social impact structures

• The tension between purpose and exploitation in the nonprofit world

• Why having your ideas copied is often a sign you've succeeded

• The shift from building organisations to coaching the humans inside them

• What social innovators need beyond passion and resilience

Final thought: Claire leaves listeners with a challenge she never imagined her younger self would say out loud:

"Don't set up a charity."

Thoughtful, honest, occasionally spicy, and full of hard-earned wisdom, this is a conversation between two women who have spent decades building things at the edges of leadership, culture, and social change.

Claire Carpenter is a coach, social innovator, and entrepreneur with more than thirty years' experience helping people and organisations navigate change. She is the founder and former CEO of The Melting Pot, Scotland's Centre for Social Innovation, and one of Europe's pioneering coworking communities. Today she works with leaders, entrepreneurs, and purpose-driven organisations to help them overcome challenges, lead more sustainably, and create meaningful impact without sacrificing themselves in the process.

Website: www.clairecarpentercoaching.com

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What happens after the brave thing? Not six months later. Not when the results are in. Immediately after.

In this solo episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy reflects on what happened in the hours after launching the very first Embodied Leadership monthly Members' Lab in July 2026. The session itself was deeply moving, but not long after the room closed and her nervous system finally let go of months of holding, an old pattern came rushing in: the urge to burn it all down, disappear, and hide before anyone could reject something deeply personal. Something that truly matters to her.

Rather than trying to fix or fight the thoughts, Betsy did what she teaches others to do: she observed them.

Because sometimes we're not just teaching the work. We ARE the homework. And, as Betsy has found, in her work teaching embodied leadership, she most often IS the homework for things she passes on to others.

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• Why old narratives often surface immediately after moments of courage

• The gap between what the body is experiencing and the story the mind creates

• How exhaustion can muddy the truth

• Why self-sabotage often arrives disguised as "being realistic"

• What it means to witness your patterns without becoming them

• A simple practice for noticing the story that appears after you do something brave

If you've ever launched something, had a vulnerable conversation, taken a risk, or finally put yourself out into the world, only to immediately want to retreat, this episode is for you.

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Betsy is the founder of Embodied Leadership Lab, where she works with leaders, teams and organisations to develop embodied leadership, nervous system intelligence and capacity and more personally sustainable ways of leading in complexity.

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In this solo episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy answers a comment a friend once made — "You never talk about having hobbies" — by unpacking why that's true, and what it reveals about how she actually relates to her own life.

The answer isn't that she's hobby-less. It's that she doesn't experience her life as something to escape to something better. She experiences it as a craft — a container she's devoted to, refines, and is shaped by in return. And lately, that craft has had to make room for something she didn't choose: chemotherapy.

This episode is about what happens when rest, receiving and doing less become the most demanding practice you've ever undertaken — and why a culture obsessed with visible effort has no real language for the mastery that looks like slowing down.

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• Why she doesn't have 'hobbies' and what that has revealed to her about her relationship to her own life.
• The difference between a 'hobby' and 'craft' - and why it's not about doing more.
• How chemotherapy, rest and receiving have become part of her 'craft' of living, not interruptions to it.
• Why visible effort gets rewarded and invisible work, like healing, integrating and surrender, doesn't.
• Defining 'letting life carry you' as a different kind of strength.
• Plus a closing mantra / question to sit with: where are you treating something as an interruption when it can actually be part of making your life a 'craft'?
  
  

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In this episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy is joined by Katherine Wela Bogen - scholar, activist, storyteller, and self-described "joyful little freak" - for a conversation that refuses to stay in its lane (in the best possible way). Katie, as she's known to her friends, is a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology researching the intersections of bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink. She has published more than 30 peer-reviewed papers, hosts the political podcast Superhumanizer, and has just released her debut novel Queering Him - the first in the Avra and Kiran trilogy.

They talk about the particular loneliness of being a multi-hyphenate; the tension of being a storyteller who is also a rigorous scientist and a justice activist; growing up queer and Jewish in rural Connecticut; the grassroots, intergenerational nature of rural queer organizing; purity culture in activist spaces (yes, that purity culture); and why the internet may be doing something genuinely sick to our capacity for human connection. Oh, and they coin a new term: queer-narc. You're welcome.

This is a rich, wide-ranging, deeply honest conversation about sovereignty, disruption, and what it means to hold a fully realized identity in a world that keeps trying to flatten you.

• The tension of being a scholar-activist-storyteller, and why each community will always think you're betraying the others

• How the skills we sharpen to keep ourselves safe become our superpowers

• Signing a "closeting contract" at boarding school, and what that taught Katie about using intellectual excellence as a shield

• Growing up queer and Jewish in a majority-Christian rural Connecticut town, and the casual antisemitism that surrounded her Holocaust-survivor grandfather

• How rural queer activism works - whisper networks, safe parents, rainbow sidewalks painted in the dark, and the teachers whose doors you know are open

• Activist perfectionism and online purity culture: "Why are you being such a cop?"

• Impact vs intent, and why a well-meaning neighbour is not your enemy

• Katie's debut novel Queering Him: two flawed, bisexual adolescents asking the hard questions about desire, kink, fetishization, and queerness, and why readers who want to cancel fictional teenagers might want to look inward

• What the kink community models about accountability, community repair, and anti-carceral approaches to harm

• COVID, the digital age, and what we've lost by moving so much of human life onto a screen

• Final thought: Don't let the internet take your humanity from you.

Katherine Wela Bogen (she/her) is a bisexual, Jewish scholar-activist and storyteller whose work sits at the intersections of consent, kink, pleasure politics, and self-advocacy. She is currently completing her doctoral degree in clinical psychology (NIH-funded research on bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink). She has published more than 30 peer-reviewed papers and hosts the political podcast Superhumanizer. Her public-facing platform is k.w.bogen, where she reaches over 500,000 followers with millions of monthly views. Her debut novel Queering Him - the first in the Avra and Kiran trilogy - is out now. Books two and three follow in January 2027 and January 2028 respectively, with two spin-off novels to follow.

Find Katie:

• Instagram / social: @k.w.bogen

• Podcast: Superhumanizer

• Novel: Queering Him (Avra and Kiran trilogy, Book 1) - available wherever books are sold

• Queering Him by Katherine Wela Bogen (Avra and Kiran trilogy, Book 1)

• Podcast: Superhumanizer

• Katie mentioned sharing academic articles on queer rurality in shownotes; check her social platforms for those links

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In this solo episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy reflects on the deeply inconvenient timing of becoming wildly, viscerally alive in the middle of grappling with mortality.

A few months after a cancer diagnosis and before chemotherapy has even begun, she finds herself blindsided by something she genuinely did not expect: a crush. Not a sensible attraction. A full nervous-system hijack. The kind that turns a self-aware adult woman into a fluttery teenage disaster because someone walks into a room.

But beneath the humour is something deeper.

This episode explores what happens when the body you've suddenly begun relating to through fear, uncertainty and medical language unexpectedly remembers desire, curiosity, embodiment and aliveness. It's about eros as life force. About mortality sharpening beauty. About the absurdity and sacredness of still being emotionally movable in the middle of the unknown.

It's definitely existential, ya'll.

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• Why a crush feels strangely healing during a cancer diagnosis

• Mortality, identity and the fear of becoming untethered from yourself

• Erotic aliveness as animating life force

• The nervous system's refusal to become purely practical

• Why being deeply affected is sometimes evidence of being deeply alive

The Discomfort Practice explores the uncomfortable edges where personal growth, leadership, embodiment and systems change intersect.

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In this solo episode of The Discomfort Practice, Betsy reflects on what happens when life blows apart the illusion of linearity, and why that rupture may be the beginning of something far more honest.

A few weeks after unexpectedly being diagnosed with cancer and undergoing surgery, Betsy finds herself in a strange in-between space: giving keynote speeches and being invited into rooms of influence, while simultaneously asking for financial grace, facing chemotherapy and confronting the uncomfortable realities of building an unconventional life.

This is an episode about the collision between external accomplishment and internal uncertainty. About the shame that emerges when you compare your real life to an imaginary timeline. And about what becomes possible when you stop treating your life like it's late.

Betsy explores the myth of the "correct" life path - marriage, stability, financial security, certainty - and what it means to consciously choose freedom, creativity, reinvention, and impact instead. She speaks candidly about the sharper edges of that choice: ageing alone, financial precarity, mortality, identity and the fear that maybe none of it adds up the way you thought it would.

But she also asks a different question:
What if life is not a ladder, but a series of eras, chapters, and initiations?
What if this moment is not failure, but intermission before the next becoming?

In this episode, Betsy explores:

• Why cancer shattered the illusion of "later"
• The shame that comes from comparing human lives to linear timelines
• The difference between external achievement and internal alignment
• Choosing freedom over safety and the costs and gifts of that path
• What ageing, uncertainty, and mortality reveal about what actually matters
• Why this chapter may be less about proving herself and more about becoming fully herself
• Embodied Leadership Lab as work born from lived experience, not polished theory
• How to stop treating your life as though it's somehow behind schedule

The Discomfort Practice explores the uncomfortable edges where personal growth, leadership, culture, and systems change intersect. If this episode landed for you, follow Betsy for more reflections on embodiment, reinvention, and building a life that is fully your own.

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