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The Dear Claire Podcast

The Dear Claire Podcast

著者： Claire Magenheimer
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Welcome to Dear Claire: The Art of Healing Adoptee Attachment. This is where we go way beyond just being aware of your attachment style, we will be breaking it down so that you understand why you feel so triggered or stuck sometimes. We are going to be healing your core wounds so that you can improve the quality of your relationships and bring more peace into your life. We are diving into the somatic tools, subconscious reprogramming, and manifestation practices that move the healing from your head into your heart and your nervous system.




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  • Becoming Your Own Mother — Reparenting the Adoptee Inner Child

    Becoming Your Own Mother — Reparenting the Adoptee Inner Child
    2026/06/21
    There's a little one inside you who's been waiting a very long time. For adoptees, she's often younger than words — holding the original loss alone since before you had memory of it. This week, we go inward to meet her.I'm braiding together three things that changed how I do this work: Internal Family Systems (Richard Schwartz) to understand your parts — the wounded "exile" and the protectors guarding her; Self energy, the calm, undamaged inner parent that's been in you all along; and a real, repeatable reparenting process from Thais Gibson, plus the tender inner-child practice Gabby Bernstein teaches so well.Then we don't just talk about it — I guide you through an inner-child healing meditation, right here in the episode, so you can meet her yourself.This is the work that changes everything. Once she knows she's not alone in there — that there's finally an adult in the room, and it's you — the whole system softens. The protectors lay down their weapons. And you get to live as the person you always were underneath the survival.Inside the episode:What the inner child really is — and why, for us, she's often much younger than expectedExiles and protectors, made simple: the wounded young parts, and the coping that guards themSelf energy and the 8 C's — the inner parent no loss could ever touchWhy the adoptee inner child is especially young and guarded — and how each attachment style guards her differentlyA reparenting process you can use in real time, plus the simple three: soothe, validate, reassureA guided meditation to meet her, ask what she needs, and bring her home"You spent your whole childhood waiting for a parent who could reach the part of you that hurts. The plot twist of your healing is that the parent you were waiting for is the one who's been carrying her this whole time."Mentioned in this episode:Richard Schwartz — Internal Family Systems: Self, exiles, protectors, the 8 C'sGabby Bernstein — Dear Gabby ("How to Connect with Your Inner Child") and Happy DaysThais Gibson + The Personal Development School — reparenting and Integrated Attachment TheoryEpisode 6 (coping mechanisms, the BTEA loop) and Episode 7 (somatics, the nervous system, the "voo")Seoul Tour Guide Alex Kim - https://www.facebook.com/groups/koreatravelguideResources & Links:Free Adoptee Workshop Sunday, June 28 @1:00 PM EST - The Art of Healing Attachments: You've felt the pattern your whole life — now give it a name. Take the quiz live and finally understand why you connect, and pull away, the way you do. You'll leave with real language for something you've carried for years. Join us for doing the deeper work to heal through subconscious reprogramming, somatics, and sharing with community! Sign up for the workshop by joining my free adoptee community on Skool (link below).Join The Empowered Adoptee Circle (free): https://www.skool.com/the-empowered-adoptee-7690/aboutSubmit Your Question for Dear Claire: https://forms.gle/Z6mc6CxbY35jxkE5AWork 1:1 with Claire: claire@coachwithclaire.com Share your reflections, stories, or Dear Claire questions with me!Connect with Claire:Subscribe: Hit that follow button so you never miss a step on the journey back to yourself.Rate & Review: If this episode spoke to your heart, please leave a 5-star rating and review. It acts as a lighthouse, helping other adoptees find this safe space.Join the Empowered Adoptee Circle: https://www.skool.com/the-empowered-adoptee-7690/aboutWork With Me: Website and Email: claire@coachwithclaire.com Share This Episode: Let's continue to empower and uplift our adoptee community by sharing this episode with another adoptee and on your socials. Connect On Socials: FaceBook, Instagram Support The Show: If today’s message or somatic tool brought you a moment of peace, or if our conversation helped you feel a little more seen in your journey, I invite you to join me in an energy exchange. This podcast is a labor of love and a completely independent production. If you’d like to help keep this space ad-free and sustainable, you can send a small donation via my Venmo. Your support allows me to keep showing up as an empathetic witness...
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  • Coming Home to the Body: Somatic Healing for the Adoptee Nervous System

    Coming Home to the Body: Somatic Healing for the Adoptee Nervous System
    2026/05/28

    You cannot do deep healing work from a state of fight-or-flight.

    I wish I'd known that a decade ago. I would have saved myself hundreds of hours of therapy I wasn't biologically ready to use. Because the body — your beautiful, brilliant, way-too-loyal body — is the one carrying the wound. And until we learn to come home to it, no amount of insight is going to move the trauma.

    This week we're going somatic. We're talking about why the adoptee nervous system runs the way it does. The five survival responses — fight, flight, freeze, fawn, collapse. The Peter Levine concepts of titration and pendulation that changed the entire field of trauma healing. The "voo" sound. And — for the first time on this podcast — I lead you through a real, daily somatic breathwork practice. Clearing and integration. The kind of work that finally let me release decades of stuck trauma from my body.

    This is the episode where the body finally gets to be the teacher.

    If you've ever felt frustrated that you can "understand" your wound and still can't seem to heal it — please hear me. The understanding was never the problem. The understanding just hasn't reached your body yet. And today we change that.


    Inside this episode:

    • Why talk therapy alone leaves so many adoptees stuck — and what's actually missing
    • Peter Levine's life-changing concepts: titration, pendulation, and the cheetah-and-impala story that explains every locked nervous system you've ever met
    • The five survival responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn, collapse) and how they show up in the adoptee body
    • The "voo" practice — the simplest, most underused somatic tool I know
    • A guided eight-minute somatic breathwork journey — the clearing phase and the integration phase, together, in real time
    • Why "islands of safety" matter more than any single breakthrough
    • A listener question from Young Suk on the friendship that keeps "leaving verbal paper cuts" — and how the body answers before the mind does


    A quote from the episode

    "The wound was made in a body that couldn't yet speak. So no amount of speaking will ever fully reach it. We have to go back the way we came in."



    Join the Empowered Adoptee Circle

    If this episode opened something in you, please don't do this work alone. The Empowered Adoptee Circle on Skool is where the conversation keeps going — adoptees doing exactly this work, in community, with me sharing tools to heal your adoptee attachment. It's free.

    Take a free quiz and discover your attachment style as an adoptee. Then share your insights and stories of healing with others who just "get it".

    I read every single post.

    → Join here:

    https://www.skool.com/the-empowered-adoptee-7690/about



    Share your reflections, stories, or Dear Claire questions with me!

    Connect with Claire:

    • Subscribe: Hit that follow button so you never miss a step on the journey back to yourself.
    • Rate & Review: If this episode spoke to your heart, please leave a 5-star rating and review. It acts as a lighthouse, helping other adoptees find this safe space.
    • Join the Empowered Adoptee Circle: https://www.skool.com/the-empowered-adoptee-7690/about
    • Work With Me: Website and Email: claire@coachwithclaire.com
    • Share This Episode: Let's continue to empower and uplift our adoptee community by sharing this episode with another adoptee and on your socials.
    • Connect On Socials: FaceBook, Instagram
    • Support The Show: If today’s message or somatic tool brought you a moment of peace, or if our conversation helped you feel a little more seen in your journey, I invite you to join me in an energy exchange. This podcast is a labor of love and a completely independent production. If you’d like to help keep this space ad-free and sustainable, you can send a small donation via my Venmo. Your support allows me to keep showing up as an empathetic witness...
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    1 時間 11 分
  • The Issue Isn't the Issue — Overcoming Your Coping Mechanisms

    The Issue Isn't the Issue — Overcoming Your Coping Mechanisms
    2026/05/17

    I always thought the problem was the wine. Or the scrolling. The over-working. The over-functioning. I'd white-knuckle a promise to myself, last about four days, and crash right back into the thing I swore I'd quit. Then I'd hate myself for it.

    None of it was ever the problem. It was the band-aid. The pain underneath — the grief, the relinquishment wound, the belief I had to earn my place — that was the issue. And you cannot willpower your way out of a wound.

    This week, we're getting honest about coping mechanisms. Why each attachment style reaches for a different "drug of choice," how these loops hijack our brains, and the exact framework I use with my clients to break the cycle — without shame.

    If you've ever felt broken for not being able to "just stop," this one is for you.

    In this episode we cover:

    • What addiction actually is, in Gabor Maté's words: "Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain"
    • The 4-step loop that hijacks your brain — and why willpower keeps losing to it
    • The three flavors of adoptee coping: Numbness, Replacement, and Rescue
    • How anxious, fearful-avoidant, and dismissive-avoidant adoptees each numb out differently
    • The 5-step Emotional Processing Tool to use the moment you feel the urge to escape
    • A somatic toolkit for when the feeling is too big to think through
    • A listener question from Hyejin, a Korean adoptee flying solo to meet her birth parents

    A quote from the episode: "The behavior is not the issue. The behavior is the smoke. The pain underneath is the fire. And we've spent our whole lives trying to wave the smoke away."

    The "Dear Claire" Segment

    Healing happens in community when we find that empathetic witness to help us hold the weight of our stories. This space is a collective healing journey, and I want to walk this path with you. Do you have a question about a relationship trigger, a core wound, or a manifestation block?


    SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE



    Share your reflections, stories, or Dear Claire questions with me!

    Connect with Claire:

    • Subscribe: Hit that follow button so you never miss a step on the journey back to yourself.
    • Rate & Review: If this episode spoke to your heart, please leave a 5-star rating and review. It acts as a lighthouse, helping other adoptees find this safe space.
    • Join the Empowered Adoptee Circle: https://www.skool.com/the-empowered-adoptee-7690/about
    • Work With Me: Website and Email: claire@coachwithclaire.com
    • Share This Episode: Let's continue to empower and uplift our adoptee community by sharing this episode with another adoptee and on your socials.
    • Connect On Socials: FaceBook, Instagram
    • Support The Show: If today’s message or somatic tool brought you a moment of peace, or if our conversation helped you feel a little more seen in your journey, I invite you to join me in an energy exchange. This podcast is a labor of love and a completely independent production. If you’d like to help keep this space ad-free and sustainable, you can send a small donation via my Venmo. Your support allows me to keep showing up as an empathetic witness...
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    1 時間 5 分
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