In episode 283, I'm getting personal about how people pleasing made me settle in dating, friendship, and work, how it led to panic attacks on my lunch break, and the three-step formula I used to quit, one small choice at a time.

→ I thought I was and wanted "too much," and how that kept me in a relationship where none of my emotional needs were met

→ How people pleasing was showing up in every relationship in my life, from texting clients at 10 p.m. to making every single plan for my friend group

→ How you can go from feeling sick with people pleasing, like I was, to building an expansive, joyful life as the main character

→ The unconventional way to use guilt as your roadmap to give yourself more permission

→ The three-step formula I used to quit people pleasing and build main character energy, even when I was afraid

Main Character Era -- my small group 6-month mastermind for people-pleasing burnt-out feminists to build rock-solid self-trust and finally get what they want in love, friendship, and work -- applications close tonight at midnight.

💎 Apply for Main Character Era: https://datebrazen.com/era

Work with Lily:

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

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Jackie was burnt out to a crisp. She was in a job she felt trapped in, because the story was that she had to be of service no matter how she felt. She had taken a sabbatical that was supposed to be two or three months, and it took her a couple of months just to relax. She came back and was immediately depressed. She couldn't see the forest through the trees. She had no vision. She just wanted to lay down.

She also knew she was a background person who wanted to be a main stage person, and she couldn't say that out loud without shame about abandoning her community.

Inside Episode 282 of The Feminist Dating Show, Jackie share your story of how she quit people pleasing as her default inside Main Character Era Mastermind (formerly Main Character Energy Mastermind), and what happened in the six months after. She left the job. She started her own company. She moved abroad, got the apartment she wanted in Edinburgh, and started dating with a lot more freedom.

Inside episode 282:

→ The difference between rest that hides burnout and rest that heals the burnout

→ How the skillset of self-trust changed Jackie's dating experience for the better.

→ The micro inflection points where your brain wants to dress rehearse tragedy instead of claiming that it's working, and how to catch yourself and redirect toward the best case scenario.

→ How Jackie built a self-care action plan she runs the second she notices herself spinning, instead of waiting until she's already spiraled

💎 TONIGHT: Join my free live training, Quit Being the Best Friend: How to Stop People Pleasing and Finally Get What You Want in Love, Friendship, and Work Without Overthinking and Anxiety.

You'll learn how to stop people pleasing, build rock solid self-trust, and become the main character of your life: https://datebrazen.com/best-friend

Work with Lily:

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.

So when you're stressed about the question "when is the right time to have sex??" and outsource your answer to another dating expert or another tiktoker, I hear an opportunity to build a life changing skillset that will create clarity for this question (and all questions)....

That skillset? Self-trust.

When you build the skill set of self-trust, with sex, with friendships, with romance, with work, it all gets more easeful.

Episode 281 unpacks what this question is really asking and gives you a framework to come to your best answer, whatever it is. Not just for this. For everything.

Because the skillset of self-trust will help you get clarity everywhere.


Inside this episode:

→ Self-trust defined: the firm reliance on the integrity of yourself. It does not mean everything goes your way. It means you will have your back no matter what happens.

→ ACK. Acknowledge, compassion, kind reframe. The self-coaching tool Lily teaches in main character dating, applied to a decision you have been agonizing over.

→ The small self-trusting decisions that you can make today that will start to build self-trust.

💎 Join my free live training, Quit Being the Best Friend: How to Stop People Pleasing and Finally Get What You Want in Love, Friendship, and Work Without Overthinking and Anxiety: https://datebrazen.com/best-friend

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen