Do you ever feel pulled between family expectations and the relationship you’re trying to build? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what happens when couples stop following old family rules and start choosing what truly supports love, growth, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how “old world” patterns keep partners stuck, why the holidays trigger so much stress, and how stepping into a “new world” together can strengthen communication, alignment, and connection.

With simple relationship frameworks and real client breakthroughs, this conversation shows you how to break generational cycles, create healthier traditions, and build a partnership that feels true to who you are becoming.

Show notes:
(2:44) Creating your own rule book
(4:10) Old world Vs. New world
(7:20) Butterfly metaphor for growth
(10:08) Family roles that shape us
(14:15) Choosing aligned traditions together
(22:16) Honest partnership conversations
(26:36) Books for Babes impact
(30:37) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Alan, Emilia & Tucker 2019
2. The Growth Journey
3. Dysfunctional Family Roles
4. Family Roles - Dysfunctional to Functional

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In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down why long-term love changes over time, what really happens in the brain when partners start taking each other for granted, and the simple relationship practices that bring back connection, spark, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how small daily moments rebuild trust, strengthen appreciation, and create the kind of partnership that grows instead of fades.

If you want a relationship that feels supported, seen, and deeply alive, press play and let this be the moment you choose love with intention.

Show notes:
(2:01) Why the brain stops noticing your partner
(5:40) Mental subtraction and remembering early love
(7:20) Noticing small changes that rebuild connection
(11:48) How commitment trains the brain to stay curious
(15:16) The RAS and why goals help relationships
(20:15) Capturing “core memories” in tiny everyday moments
(24:39) The nightly gratitude practice that strengthens love
(29:32) Why internal beauty matters more than external trends
(31:37) Three habits for long-lasting connection
(36:03) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.

If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.

Show notes:
(2:08) The green-yellow-red awareness system
(6:29) What creates the “collision zone”
(9:29) How your nervous system signals danger
(11:57) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder
(13:20) Simple language to avoid conflict
(19:17) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout
(22:02) Checking your state as a team
(23:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_link

Referenced Research Articles:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on

https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ

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What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You’ll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don’t just grow old together, grow better together.

Show notes:
(5:37) The study that shocked us
(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained
(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter
(11:47) How to create shared goals
(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(17:17) The power of time perspective
(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings
(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility
(29:05) Outro

Episode Reference:
The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this fiery episode, they open the secret rhythm running your relationship and how it quietly shapes your moods, energy, and connection. Forget the “be more consistent” advice. What if you’re already consistent, just on a different wavelength? It’s science meets self-awareness with a twist of humor, honesty, and relationship real talk you won’t hear anywhere else. Tune in, sync up, and watch your relationship level up in ways that’ll surprise you.

Show notes:
(2:29) The 24-hour Vs. 28-day rhythm explained
(4:01) Why women think they lack consistency
(5:49) The lightbulb moment that changes everything
(7:04) The four hormonal “seasons” explained
(9:18) How emotions and body temperature fluctuate
(11:00) The Peaceful Period Project and resources
(12:12) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:42) How mismatched cycles cause disconnection
(17:06) The belief shift that improves relationships
(20:12) Are you operating on a 24- or 28-day cycle?
(23:39) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 28 Day Cycle - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bewUe8khOJIEfeEh6YDNk3vqeFIyC9d8/view?usp=drive_link

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What if the real test of love isn’t passion, but safety? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the difference between feeling comfortable and being safe. They reveal the top three signs you’re in an unsafe relationship, the cues your body gives when something feels “off,” and how to stop overriding your intuition. From unmet needs to emotional neglect, they explain how safety starts with awareness and grows through repair, not perfection. Whether you’re single or partnered, this episode will help you identify what a safe relationship feels like and how to build one grounded in trust, vulnerability, and calm. Don’t just settle for chemistry. Learn what safety really feels like. Hit play and find out.

Show notes:
(3:04) What safe relating really means
(5:00) Overriding intuition and ignoring red flags
(6:42) Defining what safety feels like
(9:30) High standards Vs. Psychological safety
(13:08) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(16:00) The truth about men and vulnerability
(20:21) Top 3 signs of an unsafe and safe relationship
(24:20) Outro

Digital Asset:
Safe Relationship Assessment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CpmwZ187J6Dspb4mqQ3a33grR3Wl0uHJ/view?usp=drive_link

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In this heartfelt episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros reveal the surprising truth behind what keeps relationships thriving when others fall apart. From hidden habits that sabotage love to the real formula that guarantees growth together, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about lasting connection. If you’ve ever wondered why some couples evolve while others drift apart, this is the one you can’t miss. Stop waiting for love to “work out.” Build it intentionally. Tune in now and learn the secret to a forever kind of love.

Show notes:
(2:40) The secret sauce for lasting relationships
(5:01) Shocking stats about goal setting
(8:20) Why “winging it” ruins love
(10:14) How shame blocks your growth
(14:45) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(23:24) Five steps to make your love last
(27:15) Outro

Digital Asset:
RTE 52: "How to Set and Crush Goals with Your Partner!" - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ka2HEh6ii75U5fc3SXfGdmuMyHhnJvKw/view

Episode Reference:
Relationship Longevity Study - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9999318/

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