Do you ever feel pulled between family expectations and the relationship you’re trying to build? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what happens when couples stop following old family rules and start choosing what truly supports love, growth, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how “old world” patterns keep partners stuck, why the holidays trigger so much stress, and how stepping into a “new world” together can strengthen communication, alignment, and connection.

With simple relationship frameworks and real client breakthroughs, this conversation shows you how to break generational cycles, create healthier traditions, and build a partnership that feels true to who you are becoming.

Show notes:
(2:44) Creating your own rule book
(4:10) Old world Vs. New world
(7:20) Butterfly metaphor for growth
(10:08) Family roles that shape us
(14:15) Choosing aligned traditions together
(22:16) Honest partnership conversations
(26:36) Books for Babes impact
(30:37) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Alan, Emilia & Tucker 2019
2. Dysfunctional Family Roles
3. The Growth Journey
4. Family Roles - Dysfunctional to Functional

Learn more about:
Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025

The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down why long-term love changes over time, what really happens in the brain when partners start taking each other for granted, and the simple relationship practices that bring back connection, spark, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how small daily moments rebuild trust, strengthen appreciation, and create the kind of partnership that grows instead of fades.

If you want a relationship that feels supported, seen, and deeply alive, press play and let this be the moment you choose love with intention.

Show notes:
(2:01) Why the brain stops noticing your partner
(5:40) Mental subtraction and remembering early love
(7:20) Noticing small changes that rebuild connection
(11:48) How commitment trains the brain to stay curious
(15:16) The RAS and why goals help relationships
(20:15) Capturing “core memories” in tiny everyday moments
(24:39) The nightly gratitude practice that strengthens love
(29:32) Why internal beauty matters more than external trends
(31:37) Three habits for long-lasting connection
(36:03) Outro

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🎁 Book Your First Free Relationship Talk Coaching Session:
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Learn more about:
🎬Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

📚Think deeper, grow faster. Join our “Next Level Book Club” – Every Saturday –
https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJMkcuiupjIqE9QlkptiKDQykRtKyFB5Jbhc

🎙️Thinking about starting a podcast or tired of doing it all yourself? Next Level Podcast Solutions helps over 100+ creators to start, grow, scale, or monetize their podcast.
✨We do what we do best so you can focus on what you do best.
💬Reach out to Alan or Kevin:
Kevin@nextleveluniverse.com
Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

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Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.

If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.

Show notes:
(2:08) The green-yellow-red awareness system
(6:29) What creates the “collision zone”
(9:29) How your nervous system signals danger
(11:57) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder
(13:20) Simple language to avoid conflict
(19:17) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout
(22:02) Checking your state as a team
(23:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_link

Referenced Research Articles:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on

https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ

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🎁 Book Your First Free Relationship Talk Coaching Session:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Event #54 on Thursday, December 18th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: "The Top 3 Things Men Struggle With in Their Relationship" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/dpYMytLxQum-vc0N4UXb4w#/registration

Learn more about:
🎬Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

📚Think deeper, grow faster. Join our “Next Level Book Club” – Every Saturday –
https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJMkcuiupjIqE9QlkptiKDQykRtKyFB5Jbhc

🎙️Thinking about starting a podcast or tired of doing it all yourself? Next Level Podcast Solutions helps over 100+ creators to start, grow, scale, or monetize their podcast.
✨We do what we do best so you can do what you do best.
💬Reach out to Alan or Kevin:
Kevin@nextleveluniverse.com
Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

____________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care a