It’s my birthday, baby! I’m officially 42, and today I’m reflecting on what the last year has taught me. Because let me tell you, 41 was no joke.

This episode is raw. It's real. It’s like flipping through the pages of my personal journal and letting you see it all: growth, grit, grief, and gratitude.

Inside, I’m sharing what it felt like to:

💥 Get everything I ever wanted… all at once

💸 Re-learn powerful lessons about money, investing, and trust

👀 See who was really in my corner and who had to go

💻 Build a business while holding the emotional weight of family illness and team burnout

💔 Experience deep motherhood shifts as my boys started growing up right before my eyes

🧘🏽‍♀️ Recommit to nervous system work, breathwork, therapy, and learning how to slow the hell down

🌍 And step boldly into the next chapter of audacity, amplification, and bigger impact

This one’s for the women doing hard things behind the scenes. For the mothers holding it all. For the visionaries building in silence. And for anyone who feels like life is speeding up and you’re trying to stay present in the middle of it.

📌 Links mentioned in this episode:

👉🏽 Learn more about the Release Retreat: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/release

👉🏽 Join me inside The Next Level coaching experience: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel

👉🏽 Check out upcoming US events and meet me on tour: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/events

🎁 Birthday gift request?

If you love this podcast, the best way you can celebrate with me is to share this episode, tag me @thequeenofconfidence, and let someone know how it moved you. That’s the real gift.

I love you. Thank you for riding with me.

Erika 💋

Most people can’t sit in silence.

They fill every space with noise, distractions, and chatter because sitting with yourself is confronting.

But what if the real magic happens in the stillness?

In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned about silence, presence, and the deep discomfort that comes from simply being. From spa days in Melbourne to five-day silent retreats, I’ve come to understand that quiet isn’t empty, it’s full of truth.

If you’re the kind of woman who avoids slowing down, who resists being alone with her thoughts, or who doesn’t know how to “do nothing” without guilt… this one is for you.

Let’s talk about nervous energy, distraction, healing, and why doing less can actually give you more.

We’re diving into:

• Why some of us fear silence
• How stillness helps you meet yourself
• What we’re really running from when we stay “busy”
• The truth about transformation and space

This one’s a reset.

Get ready to meet yourself in the quiet.

🌀 Want to go deeper? Join me at the Release Retreat in November 2025:

👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/release-retreat/

00:00 Welcome + the real reason I’m talking about silence

02:10 Loud by nature, but learning to be still

04:25 Why we struggle to sit in the quiet

07:40 The five-day retreat that changed everything

10:15 Are you filling space to avoid yourself?

12:40 What silence reveals—and why it’s powerful

15:10 Ready for a real reset? Join us at the Release Retreat

Too many women say they want more, but aren’t moving like it.

In this episode, I’m calling out a hard truth:

Comfort and growth don’t coexist.

And if you’ve been playing it safe, waiting for the “right moment,” or sitting on your dreams because things feel fine... this episode is your wake-up call.

Whether it’s business, relationships, or your personal power, there’s always going to be a hard.

You just get to choose which hard you’re willing to face.

Inside this fire episode, I’m unpacking:

• Why comfort can be the biggest killer of your confidence
• How to know if you’re hiding behind “I’m fine”
• The difference between false safety vs true fulfillment
• And what it actually takes to shift into a life that’s aligned, alive, and worth showing up for

If you’ve been stuck in “meh” energy or waiting for things to change without making the moves, you need to hear this.

📣 If you're ready to stop sitting on your dreams and start moving with power…

🔥 Download my 5 Days to More Confidence training here:

👉🏽 thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencemasterclass

📲 Then screenshot this episode and tag me on Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence

Tell me: Where are you choosing comfort over growth?

00:00 Welcome + U.S. book tour update

01:15 The real reason we stay stuck: comfort

03:00 Discomfort is part of the journey—either way

04:12 Erika’s personal comfort zone story

06:00 “I got sleepy”, how safety can lead to stagnation

07:20 Comfort isn’t just an Aussie thing, it’s human

08:35 Why comfort and confidence don’t mix

09:20 Choose your hard, choose your life

10:45 The danger of waiting until you have to act

12:00 The secret to moving through fear and taking action

13:15 Final reminder: Magic happens when you’re uncomfortable

Let’s talk about it.

You’re ambitious. You’re multi-passionate. You’ve got vision for days.

And because of that, you might be sabotaging your success without even knowing it.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what shiny object syndrome really looks like for high-achieving women, and why it’s killing your confidence, confusing your audience, and slowing down your business growth.

If you’ve ever said “I want to do it all,”

If you’ve launched 10 things and mastered none,

If you’re building but feel scattered, stretched, and stuck…

This episode is your permission slip to stop doing the most and start doing what matters.

You’ll hear the truth about focus, discipline, mastery, and how to build your business (and legacy) one solid step at a time.

Because all those sexy future visions?

They don’t come from doing more.

They come from going deeper.

🎧 Tune in and let’s reset your focus, Queen.

📍Ready to stop sabotaging and start showing up with confidence?

Watch my free Business Is Personal training here:

https://thequeenofconfidence.com/businessispersonal/

🔥 Or if you’re done playing small and ready for coaching, community, and next-level growth, join us inside The Next Level:

https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

And if this hit you in the gut (in the best way), tag me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence and tell me what landed.

I’m cheering for you, always Queen.

Chapter breakdown:

00:00 Welcome from the Past, Present & Future

02:12 Bad Bunny Stress + VIP Tickets Saga

04:16 Puerto Rico Tour Reflections

05:40 The Real Problem with Shiny Object Syndrome

07:01 Being Multi-Passionate Is Not the Issue

08:38 Why Focus Is the Key to Success

10:19 Stop Acting Like You're on Chapter 75

11:54 How I Built My Business with One Offer

13:06 You Can’t Teach What You Haven’t Mastered

14:22 The Discipline to Stick With It

We all hear about the success stories, the case studies, the women who made 7 figures in 5 minutes, but what about the ones who dont make it?

The 80% of women who stay small, don't make money, don't breakthrough?

What about them? Today we're talking about the clients you don't hear about and why they are struggling.

Because really, if your business isn’t making the money you want, it’s probably not your marketing, your funnel, or the algorithm.

It’s you.

This episode is a straight-up truth bomb about why so many women in business stay stuck and how to finally shift.

I brought my husband and business partner Hamish on the mic with me for this one, and together we’re breaking down what’s really behind business failure (and it’s not what you think).

We talk about:

• Why business is always personal
• The emotional and mindset blocks sabotaging your growth
• How trauma, people-pleasing, overthinking, and perfectionism play out in your strategy
• What it actually takes to build a successful business from the inside out
• How we alchemized our pain and past into our superpower—and how you can too

If you’re second-guessing, playing small, undercharging, overdelivering, hiding on social, or holding yourself back, this one is for you.

Want help turning things around?

Two powerful ways we can support you:

👉🏽 Watch our Business Is Personal training:

https://thequeenofconfidence.com/businessispersonal/

👉🏽 Join us inside The Next Level our 12 month live coaching experience for women in business:

https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

And if this episode hit home, tag me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence and let me know what landed.

We see you. We got you. Let’s go.

This episode is a rallying cry for every woman who's ever felt like her creativity didn’t count, who was told she wasn’t “really” an artist, or who’s been quietly hiding her gifts behind perfectionism, comparison, or fear.

I sat down with the radiant and revolutionary Amie McNee, author of We Need Your Art and we went there. Deep into what it really means to claim your creativity, take up space, and stop waiting for permission to share your art with the world.

Whether you’ve got a business, a blank notebook, or a childhood dream that never quite died… this conversation will wake up the part of you that knows you’re meant for more.

We unpacked:

🎨 Why art isn’t just for “artists”

🔥 What it looks like to choose yourself before the world chooses you

👑 Self-coronation and taking your rightful place on your creative throne

💥 How perfectionism and people-pleasing rob us of our gifts

💔 The truth about visibility, vulnerability, and showing up messy

🧠 Why creativity will always force you to confront your inner work

💗 And how to nurture a mothering voice inside yourself when the inner critic takes over

AND also:

• The inner critic, and how to mother the voice that says you’re “not enough”
• Why perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing are creative blocks and how to break them
• Why we still crave institutional validation (TEDx, TV, publishing deals) even when we know better
• The power of choosing yourself, before anyone chooses you
• Why creating while in the trenches matters more than waiting to be “ready”
• And why art made from peace is just as potent as art made from pain

This episode is honest, powerful, and bursting with love for every creator (and secret creator) out there. For every human who’s felt the spark of something inside them, be it writing, dancing, singing, speaking, painting, creating and pushed it down because of fear, shame, or the belief that it “wasn’t for them.”

If that’s you? Baby… we need your art.

🎧 Tune in now and then go grab Amie’s new book We Need Your Art. You’ll be so damn glad you did.

Go get Amie’s book: We Need Your Art

Available now wherever books are sold in hardcover, audiobook, Kindle, and even in your local library. Get it here: https://www.amiemcnee.com/pre-order-we-need-your-art-book-amie-mcnee

Follow Amie:

📚 Instagram: @inspiredtowrite

💌 Substack: amiemcnee.substack.com

🧠 Learn more about her creative community: The Inspired Collective

P.S.

Don’t just listen. Start creating.

Because when you do… you change the world.

Confidence isn't missing, it's BUILT.

You want more confidence.

You want to feel bold, unstoppable, unapologetic.

But confidence isn’t something you wish for.

Confidence is built every time you keep a promise to yourself.

Every time you follow through.

Every time you say you’re doing something and actually do it.

In this episode, I break down what it really takes to build trust with yourself, because confidence is just self-trust, stacked over time.

Inside this episode, I dive into:

• Why the Latin root of confidence, "confidere," means "SELF trust" and what that really means for you
• Where you might be breaking trust with yourself without even realizing it
• How small broken promises chip away at your self-confidence
• Practical steps to rebuild your trust muscle and actually start feeling more confident every day

If you want to feel more confident, you have to stop chasing motivation and start keeping your word to yourself.

Your confidence isn’t missing. It’s waiting for you to back yourself.

If you loved this episode, make sure you download my Creating Confidence resource.

It’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your self-trust and back yourself bigger and bolder.

And if this episode resonated with you, screenshot it, tag me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence, https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence and let me know what landed for you.

Let’s talk money that keeps coming in while you’re walking your kids to school.

YUP. That kind of money. Predictable. Recurring. Stress-free.

In this powerhouse episode, I sit down with the absolute OG of memberships Mr. Stu McLaren, to jam on his brand new book Predictable Profits and why every business (especially yours, Queen 👑) needs recurring revenue in today’s wild economy.

We cover:

• Why now is the time to build a membership (yes—even if you don’t have one yet)
• The difference between a payment plan and an actual membership (stop mixing them up!)
• What kind of business models work best with recurring revenue (spoiler: almost all)
• How to launch a membership without creating a single piece of content first
• Why LESS content = more results (and less burnout for YOU)

We also dive deep into:

• Stu’s $300K book-writing deal (yes, really)
• His nonprofit building schools in Kenya (16 schools and counting!)
• How to rewire your mindset around money so you stop playing small and start making massive impact

Whether you’re a coach, creator, service provider, or just sitting on an idea you haven’t moved on yet, this episode will light a fire under your ass (in the best way).

🎁 GET STU’S BOOK FREE →

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📲 Connect with Stu:

Instagram: @stumclaren

Website: Membership.io

🚨 If this convo lit you up, tag us on Instagram and let us know.

And if you go launch your founding member offer after listening—SEND IT.

Tag me. Tag Stu. Let’s celebrate you building your own version of Predictable Profits.

Get Stu's new book (free) just pay shipping:

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