In today’s episode of The Coachable Podcast, I dive into the topic of indecision and the paralyzing effect that overthinking can have on our lives. Whether you're facing a major life decision or even the small, everyday choices, overthinking can leave you feeling stuck and disconnected from your intuition. But the truth is, clarity comes when we stop trying to control every outcome and start listening to our bodies.

I explore the root causes of indecision, the deep conditioning we experience from childhood, and how this manifests as a fear of making the wrong choice. I also discuss how our nervous systems play a huge role in decision-making and why you can’t think clearly when your body is in a state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.

You’ll learn how to move from mental loops of overthinking to having embodied clarity, how to regulate your nervous system to make clear, empowered decisions, and why commitment is the key to unlocking your full potential.

If you’ve ever been stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessed yourself, or over-researched a decision to the point of exhaustion, this episode is for you. Let’s dive into how you can reclaim your decision-making power and finally move forward in your life with confidence and clarity!

Key Takeaways:

The Root of Indecision: How childhood conditioning and fear of making mistakes can create decision paralysis in adulthood.

Nervous System Regulation: Why overthinking is more than a mental issue – it’s deeply tied to your nervous system’s response to stress and fear.

Clarity Through Commitment: How clarity is a byproduct of committing to a decision and trusting your inner knowing.

Practical Steps to Overcome Overthinking: Learn how to regulate your body, slow down, and shift from fear-driven decision-making to self-leadership.

Empowered Decision-Making: Why making decisions from a regulated state of safety leads to alignment with your highest self.

Timestamps:
[00:00] - Introduction: Breaking down the roots of indecision
[06:15] - How childhood conditioning affects our decision-making today
[10:45] - The role of the nervous system in analysis paralysis
[15:30] - Why clarity comes after commitment and how to trust your body
[20:45] - The biology of overthinking: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
[26:00] - Practical steps to regulate your nervous system and make empowered choices
[30:45] - Reframing limiting beliefs around decision-making
[36:00] - The power of self-trust and how to lead yourself to clarity
[40:00] - Closing thoughts and actionable steps for moving forward

Resources Mentioned:

Anywhere Clinic: A mental health resource that has been a game-changer for me. Visit Anywhere Clinic to learn more about virtual psychiatric care, ketamine therapy, and emotional mastery.

Call to Action:
If you’re tired of being stuck in indecision and want to start making aligned, confident choices, reach out to me! DM me the word “decide” on Instagram and let’s talk about how we can work together in my high-performance leadership coaching program.

Connect with Tori:

Instagram: @thetorigordon

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Personal Website: Tori Gordon

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Are you ready to heal your worthiness wound and embrace your authentic self? In this powerful episode of the Coachable Podcast, we explore the deep, often subconscious belief that your value must be earned through achievement and productivity. Discover transformative insights into how this mindset affects your leadership, relationships, and even your financial well-being—and learn how to shift from performance to presence.

Join me as I share practical advice and personal stories to help you unlock true freedom and return to the truth: you are inherently worthy just as you are. Together, we’ll uncover how childhood experiences shape our beliefs, why it’s so hard to receive love and rest, and how to release the fear that keeps us stuck.

This episode is packed with actionable tips, from redefining success to building a relationship with your inner child, all designed to support your personal growth, self-love, and empowerment. Don’t miss this conversation—it could be the mindset shift you’ve been waiting for to create the life you deserve. Hit play now and take the first step toward personal liberation. If this resonated with you, share it with a friend and let’s spread the message of worthiness and freedom!

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 - Intro

01:34 - Today's Sponsor

03:09 - What is the Worthiness Wound

06:16 - Childhood's Impact on Worthiness

13:26 - Recognizing Feelings of Inadequacy

14:57 - Embracing Your Innate Worthiness

16:42 - You Were Born Worthy

18:50 - Energy and Life's Response

21:03 - Showing Up as Enough

22:55 - Our Sponsor: Anywhere Clinic

24:50 - Unworthiness and Receiving Abundance

29:05 - Healing the Unworthiness Wound

33:12 - Redefining Success

34:58 - Affirming Your Enoughness

35:36 - Leave a Rating and Review

36:09 - Apply for Private Coaching

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In this powerful episode of The Coachable Podcast, Tori Gordon dives deep into the critical topic of distinguishing true intuition from fear-based instinct. We often feel powerful inner signals guiding us, but how do we know whether these signals are coming from our higher self or are simply reactions based on past trauma or survival instincts? Tori shares tools and insights to help you sharpen your discernment, align with your authentic self, and make decisions that lead to greater clarity, peace, and growth. Whether you're struggling with commitment, facing tough decisions, or navigating personal or professional challenges, this episode will help you identify the difference between your soul's true guidance and the fear-based instincts that keep you stuck in survival mode.

Key Topics:

Intuition vs. Fear-Based Instinct:

Understanding the key differences between these two powerful inner signals.

Intuition: Calm, clear, grounded, and expansive. It’s a deep inner knowing that doesn’t need external validation.

Fear-Based Instinct: Urgent, constricting, and reactive. Often rooted in past trauma or old survival patterns.

How to Discern Your Intuition from Fear:

Signs that you’re being guided by true intuition: Calmness, clarity, expansiveness, and neutrality.

Signs that you’re operating from fear-based instinct: Panic, contraction, urgency, and seeking validation from others.

Practical questions to ask yourself when faced with a strong inner signal:

Does this feeling feel calm or urgent?

Would this guidance still make sense without past pain or trauma?

Is the thought looping or arriving with quiet confidence?

The Role of Discernment in Decision Making:

Why urgency in decision-making is a sign of fear, not intuition.

How fear can prevent us from committing to the right things or following our true path.

Commitment and fear of making the wrong choice: How to move past these fears to make aligned decisions.

The Neurobiology of Intuition and Fear:

Understanding how the brain and nervous system process fear vs. intuition.

Fear-based instinct activates the amygdala (fight or flight), while intuition activates the default mode network and insula—areas associated with self-awareness and inner truth.

Spiritual Discernment:

Why intuition must include our humanity, not bypass it.

How to recognize when spiritual "intuition" is actually avoidance or projection.

Intuition should be rooted in humility, clarity, and care, not panic or ego.

The Importance of Somatic Awareness:

How your body can help you discern true intuition from fear.

The body’s response to fear and intuition: Fear feels tight, constricted, and urgent, while intuition feels expansive, calm, and grounded.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Anywhere Clinic: A powerful mental health resource offering online psychiatric care, including ketamine therapy. Visit anywhereclinic.com/tori for more information.

Tori Gordon’s Coaching Services: For those looking for a holistic approach to leadership, success, and well-being, you can apply for private coaching with Tori at hello@torigordon.com or reach out on Instagram @thetorigordon.

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Join the Conversation: Tag us on Instagram @thetorigordon and share how you're applying these tools in your own life. We’d love to hear how you're using discernment in your decisions.

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