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On this episode, we discuss why this seemingly innocent first-contact question can derail authentic connection before it even begins.

We talk about the pressure to define your entire romantic future over coffee, why answering too specifically can attract chameleons instead of real compatibility, and how to stay grounded in your truth without oversharing.

Plus, we share our own experiences about navigating this question and why a little mystery might be your best filter. If you’ve ever felt like someone became exactly who you said you were looking for—and then materialized as something else—you’re gonna want to tune in.

Let’s talk dating with intention... and a touch of strategic vagueness.

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In this episode, we put The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship to the ultimate test—real life. Ryan opens up about the relationship that inspired the entire 7 Bridges framework and walks through a full "bridge inspection" using this past connection. Was there attraction? A bias for communication? Emotional availability? A safe haven? Sexual compatibility? Intimacy?

Using personal storytelling and practical examples, we show exactly how to evaluate a relationship—past or present. If you're navigating a current relationship, tune in! And if you're reflecting on a past one that didn’t work out, this episode helps you understand why... and what to do differently next time.

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In this episode, we explore the widespread belief that a little blue pill can solve everything in the bedroom. It’s not that simple. While Viagra (and similar ED medications like Cialis and Levitra) have helped millions of men with erection issues, we dig deeper into why these drugs miss the mark when it comes to treating the psychological, emotional, and relational roots of sexual dysfunction.

We talk libido vs. arousal, performance anxiety, emotional blocks, and the unspoken truth that many men don’t just need blood flow—they need headspace, heart connection, and real intimacy. And what about women? Can these meds work for them? We all have erectile-based parts and the need for blood flow.

If you've ever taken an ED med and still felt off, you're not alone. We’ll help you understand why, and how to reconnect with your partner and your own sexual energy in a more holistic, sustainable way.

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There’s not a lot of information out there about squirting. Most of what’s online barely scratches the surface. So in this episode, we deliver.

We share what we’ve personally learned and achieved through experience, the prerequisites that up your chances of squirting, and why we now believe that the body’s capacity to squirt is unlimited (yep, you read that right). We share why keeping a sex journal is important if you want to make serious progress.

Whether you’re curious, trying to learn, or supporting a partner, this episode will give you insights you won’t find on Google.

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In this episode, we cover Bridge 7 of our 7 Bridges framework: Secure Base. Unlike the other bridges, Secure Base isn’t worked on directly—it’s what naturally emerges when the other six bridges are strong: Attraction, Bias for Communication, Emotional Availability, Safe Haven, Sexual Compatibility, and Intimacy.

We talk about what a secure base looks and feels like in a relationship, why so many people chase it without knowing how to create the conditions for it, and how to recognize when you’ve finally arrived. This is where the relationship shifts from chemistry and connection to stability and security.

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Why is a man shirtless at the pool totally normal, but wearing a BDSM harness in public is inappropriate? It's not about the skin. In this episode, we expose the power of context—how cultural conditioning and oversexualization shape what we consider acceptable, especially when it comes to the human body. From media double standards to why sex makes us uncomfortable but violence doesn’t, we explore how societal norms dictate desire, shame, and self-expression. If you’ve ever wondered why nipples cause controversy but blood and gore get a pass, this one’s for you.

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Are you stuck in the mindset that every person you date has to be your everything or nothing? Are you in scarcity mode or abundance? Do you have an agenda with dating? Are you hoping everyone is the one? In this episode, we break down the differences between hookups, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and partners. Whether you’re wanting to keep it casual or looking for your person, understanding and utilizing these relationship types can make the dating process so much more enjoyable and fulfilling.