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On this episode, we discuss why this seemingly innocent first-contact question can derail authentic connection before it even begins.

We talk about the pressure to define your entire romantic future over coffee, why answering too specifically can attract chameleons instead of real compatibility, and how to stay grounded in your truth without oversharing.

Plus, we share our own experiences about navigating this question and why a little mystery might be your best filter. If you’ve ever felt like someone became exactly who you said you were looking for—and then materialized as something else—you’re gonna want to tune in.

Let’s talk dating with intention... and a touch of strategic vagueness.

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In this episode, we put The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship to the ultimate test—real life. Ryan opens up about the relationship that inspired the entire 7 Bridges framework and walks through a full "bridge inspection" using this past connection. Was there attraction? A bias for communication? Emotional availability? A safe haven? Sexual compatibility? Intimacy?

Using personal storytelling and practical examples, we show exactly how to evaluate a relationship—past or present. If you're navigating a current relationship, tune in! And if you're reflecting on a past one that didn’t work out, this episode helps you understand why... and what to do differently next time.