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You start every January with a Bible reading plan. Three weeks later, you're drowning in Leviticus and beating yourself up for failing again. Sound familiar?

If you've ever wondered what's wrong with your brain, why you can't stay consistent with spiritual practices, or if God is disappointed in you for struggling so much, this episode is for you.

In this vulnerable conversation, I share my journey of getting diagnosed with ADHD this year and how it completely transformed my relationship with God. No more performing. No more forcing formulas that were never designed for how my brain works. Just freedom to meet God in ways that actually honor how He made me.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why consistency in traditional spiritual disciplines feel impossible for ADHD brains
• The shame and guilt cycle that keeps you stuck
• How my ADHD diagnosis was actually an answered prayer
• What it looks like to do quiet time differently every single day (and why that's okay)
• Practical ways to connect with God when your brain craves novelty
• How to let go of external expectations and lean into your intimate relationship with God
• Why struggling doesn't mean something is wrong with you spiritually

Whether you're officially diagnosed with ADHD or just deeply relate to these struggles, there's freedom waiting for you. Your brain isn't the problem. The expectations are.

BITTERSWEET NEWS: This is our last episode with co-host Jasmine Barcia for this season as she enters a new season of calling 🥺 We're so grateful for the journey we've shared together ❤️

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Have you ever felt like you're one missed prayer away from disappointing God completely?

If you've spent days obsessing over whether an intrusive thought means you've lost your salvation, or if you confess the same sin repeatedly because you're terrified you didn't "mean it enough,” you might be struggling with religious scrupulosity.

This form of OCD can come off as strong spiritual devotion, but underneath, you're drowning in fear, guilt, and the exhausting work of trying to earn a love that's already yours.

In this episode, I'm sharing my own story of spiritual burnout when God called me to intercession from 2-3 AM every night until I physically crashed, and what I learned about the difference between conviction and condemnation.

You'll discover why "trying harder" only reinforces the obsessive cycle, how to recognize if you're experiencing religious OCD, and the counterintuitive path to freedom: learning to rest in God's grace instead of performing for His approval.

This is Christian emotional healing that honors both your faith and your mental health. If you're exhausted from walking on eggshells with God, this conversation will meet you with the warmth, truth, and Christian encouragement you've been desperate for.

👉 Ready to process your emotions God's way? Grab my FREE 3-day mini-course "From Triggered to Anchored" (link below) and discover how to move from fear to freedom in Christ.

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When the intrusive thoughts won't stop. When prayer becomes compulsion. When you're doing everything "right" and still drowning.

This is one of those episodes where we go there... to the places most Christians are afraid to talk about. My co-host Jasmine shares her raw, unfiltered journey through intrusive thoughts so dark and perverse that she couldn't even be around children. Pedophilic imagery. Sexual thoughts. The kind of thoughts that made her question her salvation, her character, and whether God could possibly still love her.

And here's the kicker... she was doing everything right. Praying. Fasting. Deliverance conferences. Scripture all over her walls. But the intrusive thoughts wouldn't stop.

What we cover:

• The difference between intrusive thoughts and sin (spoiler: they're not the same)
• Religious scrupulosity: when spiritual disciplines and practices become compulsions that keep you trapped
• Why your brain attaches intrusive thoughts to what you love most
• The moment God asked Jasmine to stop striving and what happened next
• How rest (not more effort) became the pathway to freedom
• The dangerous assumption that your thoughts = your character

This isn't about tips to think more positively or trying harder. This is about a God who's more interested in you understanding His love than in you performing your way to freedom.

If you've ever felt tormented by your own mind, isolated in shame, or exhausted from doing all the "right Christian things" with no relief... this one's for you.

Your intrusive thoughts are not who you are. They're not sin. And they don't disqualify you from God's nearness.

Resources mentioned: Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy for OCD

If you're struggling with intrusive thoughts or OCD, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional who specializes in OCD treatment. You don't have to walk this alone.

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