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  • [AMY SAYS] EP#500 How to Navigate Adult Friendship Breakups

    [AMY SAYS] EP#500 How to Navigate Adult Friendship Breakups
    2024/02/01
    Tell me if this sounds familiar: You have “this friend”… and perhaps this is someone you’ve known forever, maybe you saw each other through some tough times, but at this particular place in your life, this friendship has been feeling strained, frustrating, and sometimes downright toxic. But you guilt yourself saying, “Well, we’ve been friends since college” or “Am I a dick if I don’t want to be there for her anymore?” If that sounds at all familiar, you are in the same boat that many people find themselves in when they reach their 30s and 40s and beyond. You’ve grown as a person, your life has changed, and your priorities have shifted. But, you still feel tethered to this historical relationship that feels more like it’s robbing you dry than adding to your fulfillment. A listener of the show wrote to the pod asking how to actually let go of one of these friendships. I mean, how do you go about breaking up with a friend? Is there an approach? How do you know if you’re being a big ‘ol meanie? If you’ve been pulled to part ways with a friendship, but have no idea what-the-hell that really looks like, you may want to have a listen. I discuss six major concepts to keep in mind (you know, to keep your shit straight) and two specific methods you can take to pull the trigger on the “break up”. Additionally, I walk you through how to deal if someone breaks up with you (or simply just ghosts you). This pod explores: How to tap into the “real” reason you’re looking to end the friendshipHow to get connected to the way you need to conduct yourself so you’re proud of your own behavior (even if the other person loses their shit)Two specific methods to “break up” with this unfulfilling friendshipFour steps to aid in your healing if someone has broken up with you or isn’t communicating with you any longer   PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE This podcast is sponsored by LetsGetChecked and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get a whoppin’ 30% off their first test kit of choice at trylgc.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Getting necessary medical testing can be simple, safe, and easily done in the privacy of your own home. Check out this killer offer from LetsGetChecked and save 30% on your first test kit! Check it out ~>   ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: [AMY SAYS] EP#496 – HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS (WITHOUT LOSING YOUR MIND) [AMY SAYS] EP#447 – BOUNDARY DEEP DIVE, PART 1 [AMY SAYS] EP#448 – BOUNDARY DEEP DIVE, PART 2 I NEED CLOSURE! HOW TO STOP WAITING FOR CLOSURE + START CREATING YOUR OWN EP#286 4 STEPS TO MANIFESTING DOPE-ASS FRIENDSHIPS EP#313 4 STEPS TO SILENCING YOUR INNER SHIT-TALKER EP#298 [AMY SAYS] EP#487 – THE CONNECTION BETWEEN SPEAKING UP + YOUR SELF-WORTH [AMY SAYS] EP#489 – THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND + WHY YOU DON’T FEEL ‘ENOUGH’ THE TWO BELOW ARE ALL ABOUT GRIEF: THE *REAL* REASONS YOU’RE MAD + SAD, PART 1 EP#338 THE *REAL* REASONS YOU’RE MAD + SAD, PART 2 EP#339   HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HEREClick on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts accountClick “Ratings & Reviews” under the show titleClick the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” buttonYou can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes   WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!
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  • [EXPERT] EP499 - THE 'D' WORD: MAKING THE ULTIMATE DECISION ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE WITH KATE ANTHONY

    [EXPERT] EP499 - THE 'D' WORD: MAKING THE ULTIMATE DECISION ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE WITH KATE ANTHONY
    2024/01/22
    Every single year, over 1 million women question leaving their marriage. And nearly 70 percent of all divorces are initiated by women. And it’s no wonder – Marriage makes men’s lives exponentially easier while it makes women’s lives drastically harder. It is clear that ‘traditional’ marriage dynamics are no longer tenable for American women.  Years ago, I remember having a chat with a friend where she was lamenting that she should be grateful her husband wasn’t cavorting around, cheating on her, abusing substances, or screaming obscenities at her. I clearly remember her saying, “Wow, the bar is set pretty damn low.” Seriously. Not being abused should be a given, not something to be celebrated.  In my near two decades of coaching, I have found myriad women frustrated, overwhelmed, and downright furious about the inequity in their marriage. Whilst doing all the domestic labor, holding down impressive careers, and digging deep into therapy and personal development, these women often find themselves lonely, heartbroken, and baffled at the lack of ownership and responsibility their partners were exhibiting in the relationship. No wonder recent studies cite single women without children being the happiest in our society. In this week’s episode, I chat with my close pal and colleague, Kate Anthony, who has just penned a book entitled, “The ‘D’ Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage”. Kate talks with me about her own divorce journey, shares about debunked studies citing divorce negatively affects children, understanding narcissism, and the courageous choice not to settle for subpar relationships. Have a listen and gain more insight on if you should stay or if you should go. This pod explores: Understanding various forms of abuse and the unexpected way financial abuse shows up The faulty and unfounded research that propagated the notion that you should “stay together for the kids” and what new research has foundWhy trying to “just communicate more effectively” isn’t working for you and what to focus on insteadThe curious place we are in history where the gender dynamics of marriage are changing dramatically   PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE This podcast is sponsored by LetsGetChecked and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get a whoppin’ 30% off their first test kit of choice at trylgc.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Getting necessary medical testing can be simple, safe, and easily done in the privacy of your own home. Check out this killer offer from LetsGetChecked and save 30% on your first test kit! Check it out ~>   THIS WEEK’S EXPERT GUESTIE Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach. Connect with Kate on Facebook, Insta, or TikTok   ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: [DIAL AN EXPERT] KATE ANTHONY ON ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES – EP#397   HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HEREClick on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts accountClick “Ratings & Reviews” under the show titleClick the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” buttonYou can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes   WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!
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    54 分
  • [AMY SAYS] EP#498 – 7 WAYS TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON YOUR GOALS

    [AMY SAYS] EP#498 – 7 WAYS TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON YOUR GOALS
    2024/01/15

    At the start of every year, it’s likely you get pumped up and excited to make some serious change. You decide on a handful of things that you are GOING to conquer this year, god-damn-it! But what actually makes those goals a reality? 

    Throughout my 15+ years in this work, I have found that noble intentions have very little to do with bringing goals to fruition. Good ol’ fashioned gumption and desire are not enough to make your dreams come true. [sad trombone] In fact, a recent Inc.com article indicated that only 8% of people actually accomplish their goals. WHOA!! 8%!? Well, fuck. 

    But, wait. 

    Never fear, Babycakes, because this episode targets seven ways people tend to sabotage their own goals (without even realizing it) and how you can set yourself up to slaaaaay all your goals. It’s not rocket science, but if you employ some of these easy tactics, you will kill all your 2024 goals! Yes, please! 

    This pod explores:

    • My favorite tool to use to ensure you are tackling this goal for YOU (instead of mom/fam/boss/society)
    • The number one way people lose steam while working towards a goal and how you can smoothly move beyond this obstacle like a BOSS
    • Why you need accountability and people in your life to support you and what to do if you don’t
    • How to keep your self-talk on point so you are constantly encouraged, kicking ass, and taking names

     

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    ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:
    • [AMY SAYS] EP#497 – HOW TO MAKE SHIT HAPPEN IN 2024
    • POD #225: Stick with It or Quit with It? Knowing When to Persevere and Knowing When to Quit
    • Science Says Only 8% of People Actually Achieve Their Goals, Inc.com
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    40 分
  • [AMY SAYS] EP#497 - HOW TO MAKE SHIT HAPPEN IN 2024

    [AMY SAYS] EP#497 - HOW TO MAKE SHIT HAPPEN IN 2024
    2024/01/08
    If you’re like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan with a fire under your ass, but when Feb rolls around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action. Also, 2023 kicked many of our asses, so there’s that to contend with. Many people (and maybe YOU) enter the New Year with many plans and intentions, but somehow end up a bit off track sooner than later. In this episode, I address the biggest obstacles people unknowingly establish for themselves when crafting New Year’s goals and “resolutions”. Yep, you read that right… many people actually make their job a shit-ton harder by not setting themselves up for success to begin with. I also share my personal planning tool I use every single year to ensure I establish solid goals in aaaaall areas of my life (not just health and money… but, yes, those too). Be sure to grab your free planning guide so you can plan and organize a seriously epic 2024 by figuring out what categories in which you would like to make headway. Plus, you’ll have a sexy Planning Guide to record all your brilliance! This pod explores: The two biggest mistakes people make when crafting goals for the new yearHow to assess where you are in your life now and where you want to be in a year’s timeHow to create goals that are really about YOUR fulfillment, are totally attainable, and light you upWhy you probably don’t want to celebrate your 2023 accomplishments, but you kinda, absolutely MUST   FREE PLANNING GUIDE WITH THIS EPISODE GRAB YOURS BELOW! Did you grab your free planning guide that accompanies this episode? Get on it, Babycakes! Here’s the deal: our brain takes things waaaaay more seriously when we get out of our heads and get our thoughts/commitments out on paper. It’s like, science. So, OF COURSE I want you to make some serious changes and make shit happen in 2024, so be sure you have your Pod #497 planning guide with you while you (re) listen to this pod so you can get into some serious action. Trust… if you just listen and don’t DO, you’re not going to change a damn thing. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get your freebies sent directly to your inbox! #yourewelcome   PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE  This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at betterhelp.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Join the millions of people who have found huge relief and support from BetterHelp therapists and save on your first month while you’re at it! Check it out ~>   ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: THE TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DAYING + HOW TO LIVE A REGRET-FREE LIFE - EP#306  [DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#436 – THE TRUTH ABOUT BODY POSITIVITY WITH DR. LEXIE KITE [DIAL AN EXPERT] EP#463 – RELEASING A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP TO ACHIEVEMENT + GOAL-SETTING WITH TARA MCMULLIN   HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HEREClick on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts accountClick “Ratings & Reviews” under the show titleClick the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” buttonYou can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes   WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!
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    58 分
  • HOLIDAY ANNOUNCEMENT + FREEBIES!

    HOLIDAY ANNOUNCEMENT + FREEBIES!
    2023/11/20

    Hello, beauties!!

    I'm taking a bit of time off for the holidays and wanted to be sure to loop you in! I'll be out of the "pod office" until the new year, so stay tuned for my annual New Year Planning epidsode that will air at the beginning of Jan. #yesplease

    Hope you have a gorgeous holiday and if you would like some freebies to tide you over, please scoot over to amygreensmith.com/free for a bunch of awesome loot!

    Thank you so much for your support of the show and I can't wait to connect with you all again!

    Huge love,

    a
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  • [LISTENER FAV] EP#431 – UNDERSTANDING + WORKING WITH THE 4 COMMUNICATION STYLES – PART 2

    [LISTENER FAV] EP#431 – UNDERSTANDING + WORKING WITH THE 4 COMMUNICATION STYLES – PART 2
    2023/11/13
    You get super jelly that your partner gets to have extra time off work, so you say (in a snarky-ass tone), “Wow. Must be nice to have so much free time”. Or maybe a work group you’re a part of is trying to decide how to handle a specific project and instead of voicing your true thoughts you say, “We can certainly do it your way” and mutter under you breath, “And good fucking luck with that.”  What we have here, folks, are two examples of the Passive-Aggressive Communication Style. Everyone’s fav. But, even though we find it infuriating, many of us do it ourselves aaaaaall the time. If you weren’t properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it’s likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (#guilty), and assertive. Fifty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive. But, if you’re like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part two of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive-Aggressive and Assertive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you’re engaging with someone who employs the Passive-Aggressive style. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday. This pod explores: My absolute favorite tactic in calling someone out (without royally pissing them off) when they are being Passive-AggressiveHow to untangle your own go-to Passive-Aggressive tendencies and what to say insteadWhat to do if your entire family system relies on being Passive-Aggressive to communicateMy favorite Assertive go-to phrases to use when you need (and want) to be clear, kind, and concise   HIRE ME TO SPEAK AT YOUR EVENT! ACCESS ‘ENOUGHNESS’. POWERFULLY NAVIGATE FEAR. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF. LEARN MORE >> I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin’ some gems (um, like, who couldn’t use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.   PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE This podcast is sponsored by LetsGetChecked and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get a whoppin’ 30% off their first test kit of choice at trylgc.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Getting necessary medical testing can be simple, safe, and easily done in the privacy of your own home. Check out this killer offer from LetsGetChecked and save 30% on your first test kit! Check it out ~>   ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: #227: NO”vember: HOW TO SAY “NO” (AND NOT FEEL GUILTY) #302: True or False: Vulnerability Edition#426: 4 Step Process to Understanding + Navigating Anger (without losing your damn mind)#428: [Amy Says] Hypnosis Session To Foster Emotional Intelligence#429: [Dial An Expert] Emotional Intelligence And Relationship Communication With Dr. Shyamala Kiru#430: Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles – Part 2The Gottman InstituteAlvernia University Article: 4 Types of Communication StylesBetterHelp Article: What To Do When You Recognize Passive Behavior In Yourself Or Others   HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HEREClick on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts accountClick “Ratings & Reviews” under the show titleClick the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” buttonYou can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes   WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!  
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    50 分
  • [LISTENER FAV] Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles - Part 1 (Originally EP#430)

    [LISTENER FAV] Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles - Part 1 (Originally EP#430)
    2023/11/06
    Someone does something that really bothers you, but you’d rather pull your own teeth out than have a confrontation… so you just stay quiet. Or maybe your family is so damn aggressive that you find it easier to hide in the shadows instead of “rocking the boat”.  If you weren’t properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it’s likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (a fan fave), and assertive. Twenty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive. But, if you’re like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part one of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive and the Aggressive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you’re engaging with someone who employs one of these styles. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday. This pod explores: Understanding where a Passive Communication Style typically stems from and why it’s not always a bad thingHow to mitigate the eventual eruptions (hello, volcano!) that a Passive Communication often leads toThe sneaky way Aggressive Communication can show up (and what to do about it)The absolute #1 priority if you are dealing with an extreme Aggressive Communicator (it’s non-negotiable, y’all)   HIRE ME TO SPEAK AT YOUR EVENT! ACCESS ‘ENOUGHNESS’. POWERFULLY NAVIGATE FEAR. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF. LEARN MORE >> I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin’ some gems (um, like, who couldn’t use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.   PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at betterhelp.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Join the millions of people who have found huge relief and support from BetterHelp therapists and save on your first month while you’re at it! Check it out ~>   ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: Grab your seat at my new workshop!! FOR FREE!!#304: Dealing With Confrontation (When You Hate Confrontation)#426: [Amy Says] 4 Step Process To Understanding + Navigating Anger (Without Losing Your Damn Mind)#428: [Amy Says] Hypnosis Session To Foster Emotional Intelligence#429: [Dial An Expert] Emotional Intelligence And Relationship Communication With Dr. Shyamala KiruThe Gottman instituteAlvernia University Article: 4 Types of Communication StylesBetterHelp Article: What To Do When You Recognize Passive Behavior In Yourself Or OthersAtlas of the Heart, Brené Brown   HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HEREClick on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts accountClick “Ratings & Reviews” under the show titleClick the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” buttonYou can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes   WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!  
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    44 分
  • [AMY SAYS] EP#496 - How to Have Difficult Conversations (Without Losing Your Mind)

    [AMY SAYS] EP#496 - How to Have Difficult Conversations (Without Losing Your Mind)
    2023/10/30

    Ever wonder why having difficult conversations causes soooo much anxiety, often leaving you tongue-tied, frustrated with how you’re getting your point across, and down-right bummed-the-fuck-out? It can be super stressful to approach a sticky topic with someone in your life, especially if you are anticipating a less than enthusiastic response. Believe it or not, there are actually a handful of things you can do to totally shift in your approach in order to get your message across in a MUCH more effective way. You know, without throwing your partner’s shoes at them.

    This episode targets 8 steps you can easily employ to feel much more powerful when you tell your mother-in-law to stop trying to parent your kids. Or whatever other challenging topic you need to address. You’ll learn the most effective way to communicate your needs (and in turn get what you want) without feeling like a big ol’ asshole.

    This pod explores:

    • What you need to do BEFORE you have a tough conversation in order to set yourself up for success
    • How to begin a conversation in such a way that the other party is totally willing to hear you out
    • How to get really clear on what you’re asking for or requesting
    • How to own your shit and feel good about what you’re expressing, even if the other person isn’t diggin’ it

     

    ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

    • [AMY SAYS] EP#495 – 9 WAYS TO CONTROL YOUR TONE OF VOICE + COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY

    • [AMY SAYS] EP#494 – 9 POWERFUL COMMUNICATION HACKS

     

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    41 分