I sat down with Tamari Jacob, Certified Lactation Consultant and founder of One With The Pump, and we had the best chat about all things pumping and breastfeeding.

Tamari knows the pumping journey inside and out - she exclusively pumped for her first baby for 10 months after he wouldn’t latch, and she’s been helping moms make pumping suck a whole lot less ever since. We talked about the emotional side of feeding your baby (hello, grief and rejection when it doesn’t go as planned), why finding the right lactation consultant is everything, and how the system sometimes works against us.

Tamari dropped three powerful, game-changing tips whether you’re exclusively pumping or mixing pumping with breastfeeding:

1. Size your flanges correctly - Most pumps come with the wrong sizes (21, 24, or 28 mm), but most moms need something much smaller like 13–18 mm. This one thing can stop pain and low output fast!
2. Pumping is not free - Invest a little in the right tools (extra parts, a good bra, a wearable, a milk chiller) to make your life so much easier. You don’t have to suffer with just the bare minimum.
3. Get real education and support - Breastfeeding and pumping are NOT as “natural” as everyone says. Learn from someone who actually specializes in pumping (not every LC does!).

We also got real about hospital lactation consultants, baby-friendly policies, mom guilt, and how preparation before baby comes can save you so much heartache later.

If you’re planning to pump, struggling with your pump, or just want to feel more confident, you need to hear this episode.

More from Tamari Jacob, CLC:

• Use this link to get 10% off The Ultimate Pumping Course
• Website: onewiththepump.com
• Instagram, TikTok, FaceBook, YouTube & Pinterest: @onewiththepump

Helpful Timestamps:

• 00:00 Pumping Made Easier
• 04:02 Why Tamari Started Pumping
• 11:51 Top Tips Start Flange Fit
• 12:49 Gear That Makes It Easier
• 15:31 Finding the Right Lactation Help
• 18:32 Hospital Lactation Reality
• 22:38 How to Work With Tamari
• 24:29 Prep Before Labor

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If the thought of labor makes your stomach drop and your heart race… this episode is for you, mama.

Hey girl, I see you. The midnight Google spirals, the dramatic birth stories that left you spiraling, and that voice in your head whispering “there’s no way I can do that.” Fear of labor is incredibly normal - but left unchecked, it can actually make labor harder. Today I’m breaking down exactly where that fear comes from, what it does to your body, and what I personally tell every terrified mom I work with as a high-risk labor and delivery nurse.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why most of what you think you know about birth is skewed (thanks, TV, horror stories, and the unknown)
• How fear creates the Fear-Tension-Pain cycle and fights against the very hormones you need for labor
• The 4 powerful truths I share with scared mamas that completely shift their perspective
• Practical steps to turn uninformed fear into confident preparation (education, real birth classes, relaxation practice, and strong support)

By the end, you’ll have a totally different relationship with your fear - and you’ll walk into your birth feeling more prepared and empowered instead of terrified.

Your body was literally built for this. Labor has rhythm. You have more control than you think. And that fear? It just means you care deeply - now let’s give it the right outlet.

If you’re ready to stop spiraling and start preparing like a boss, this one’s for you.

Helpful Timestamps:

• 00:00 What I Tell Moms Who Are Terrified of Labor
• 01:56 Where Fear Comes From
• 03:42 Fear Changes Labor Biology
• 05:11 Four Reframes for Scared Moms
• 07:51 How to Calm Fear
• 09:33 You Can Do This

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Hey mamas! I am SO excited to share this episode with you. Today I’m chatting with Gabi, one of my Calm Labor Confident Birth students who also activated her Labor Bat Signal. She’s here to tell the raw, real story of bringing her fiery little girl into the world on January 26th, 2025.

Gabi went from measuring small with low fluid at 38+5, to an induction she didn’t plan for, a midwife who wanted to break her water way too early, a deceleration scare, and back-to-back contractions that had her questioning everything… to going from 2-3 cm to 10 cm in ONE HOUR and pushing her baby out in just 18 minutes (six pushes!) on hands and knees.

She stayed calm and confident because she had the knowledge, the tools, the mantras ("You're one contraction away from meeting your baby"), and the support from the Labor Bat Signal when it mattered most. The toilet was her magic dilation station, she advocated like a boss, and she walked away feeling completely empowered - even when her birth map took some unexpected turns.

This episode is proof that when you know your options, trust your body, and have the right support, you can handle whatever labor throws at you.

Key takeaways you’ll love:

• Why a birth map (not a rigid plan) is everything
• The power of saying “no” when you know why
• How the toilet can be your best friend in labor
• Why the Labor Bat Signal is a game-changer (especially when things shift fast)
• Turning fear into fierce advocacy in real time

If you’re pregnant and want to feel prepared, calm, and confident - no matter how your birth unfolds - this one’s for you. Gabi’s story will fire you up!

Helpful Timestamps:

• 00:00 Gabi’s Birth Story
• 05:26 Labor Bat Signal
• 07:29 Low Fluid Diagnosis
• 08:55 Induction Advice
• 10:53 Pitocin Pressure Begins
• 12:21 Toilet Dilation Station
• 14:40 Urge to Push
• 15:39 Toilet to Ten Centimeters
• 19:10 Advocacy and Pitocin Decisions
• 21:44 Empowered Birth Map Mindset
• 22:52 Tear Stitch and Baby Two

Join The Calm Labor Birth Bundle - everything you need from bump to baby! Use code POD50 for $50 off!

Over 15k mamas have used our classes to prepare for a birth that they love 🤍

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Connect w/ Trish:

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For more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Produced and Edited by Vaden Podcast Services